All of the stuff you weren't supposed to do...

Shauna07 · October 2011

I'm now in the middle of having a miscarriage and it's so weird to think I could have a glass of wine right now. It feels so wrong and confusing. When do you start doing the things you did before you were pregnant? I guess I'm wondering -- when do you emotionally and physically stop feeling pregnant...

VineyardMel · October 2011

I found out on Tuesday that my baby didn't have a heartbeat. I had a glass of wine that night and have to say that I probably cried the hardest in that moment--knowing I could have it because of such awful circumstances. I've slowly introduced caffeine and diet soda and it just hurts to know that I can only have it because I lost my baby.

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you have to go through this.

Funnygirl34 · October 2011

I'm struggling with this too. I found out Thursday that we had lost our baby and Friday morning I was going to have coffee but i just couldn't bring myself to do it. It seems so silly but it's NOT! It's a big deal, and to me, it's admitting that pregnancy is over and I'm just not ready for that yet. Take as much time as you need. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

kokokat · October 2011

I cried when I had my firsst glass of wine. It's the chardoonay I always drink, and it tasted terrible that night. What you're going through is totally normal. I'm so sorry for you loss. I hope your stay here is brief.

massiahl · October 2011

Then 42Butterfly I'm getting flamed right along with you. The morning I went in for my blood results, my OB told me that my HcG levels were not where they were supposed to be and she was not confident that my pregnancy was viable. I was numb and then I broke down. Cried like I hadn't cried before. Then she tells me that there might be some hope: so I take another blood test and was sent to another facility for a sonogram and transvaginal. I never prayed so hard in my life. Then, after tracking my doctor down for my results, she finally called back to tell me that my pregancy was not viable and I should expect to miscarry over the weekend. That was Wednesday. As soon as I got off the phone, I walked into my kitchen, grabbed the largest wine glass I could find, and poured the wine to the rim.

After everything that has happened, I don't think it's unreasonable to do what you need to do to get through this without bringing harm to yourself. So if a cup of coffee or a glass/bottle of wine does it, have at it!

ElizaSquan · October 2011

The only thing I had cut out was alcohol (still drank coffee, soda, etc) and I had some the night after the confirmation ultrasound that there was no HB. A few hours later I scheduled the d&c and DH and I shared a good bottle of wine, sat on the porch, just enjoyed each other's company.

FreyaWin2382 · October 2011

I couldn't bring myself to have anything until after the D&C (Thursday).

I'm not proud of it, but my husband had to go to work on Friday night and I decided to drink margaritas at home alone....it was a bad idea, just made me a drunk, sobbing wreck, and I definitely wouldn't recommend it or do it again. However, I figure I have enough beating me up right now that I am not going to let myself feel too guilty about it.

I still find myself taking those stupid prenatal vitamins every morning though.

Lilac33 · October 2011

I've been thinking about having wine since I found out there was no HB. Had my D&C on Thursday, but still have not been able to. I still "feel" pregnant, so the idea of drinking wine still feels wrong to me. Ugh, I hate this.

aadewitt · October 2011

They day we found out (from spotting and an u/s) I went to Subway right after the Drs visit. the next day I shared a beer with my mom.

maxsom · October 2011

FreyaWin2382:
I couldn't bring myself to have anything until after the D&C (Thursday).
I'm not proud of it, but my husband had to go to work on Friday night and I decided to drink margaritas at home alone....it was a bad idea, just made me a drunk, sobbing wreck, and I definitely wouldn't recommend it or do it again. However, I figure I have enough beating me up right now that I am not going to let myself feel too guilty about it.
I still find myself taking those stupid prenatal vitamins every morning though.

My doctor's nurse suggested that I keep taking them if I'm going to TTC ASAP. After I got pregnant, everything I'd read seemed to indicate that I should have been taking them BEFORE I got pregnant, while TTC, which totally freaked me out because I didn't start till I got my BFP. So, if I were you, I'd go on ahead and keep taking them if you're planning on trying again when you can.

As for me, I'm not a big drinker. I did, however, have a pretty nasty cold when I found out my pregnancy was not viable. Didn't do anything, though, until I heard my doctor say that my miscarriage was "100% confirmed." Took some Nyquil that night and cold meds the next day and started drinking coffee again. I also took a drag off of DH's new e-cigarette to see what it tasted like (I used to smoke myself, quit three and a half years ago) which I wouldn't have done if I were still pregnant and I haven't been worrying about what I eat quite as much or drinking as much water, etc. I drank for the first time after my BFP last night. I couldn't even finish half of the Woodchuck I was drinking. I started getting really bad cramps again. May have been psychological, though. Tonight I did have a very small glass of Moscato with my sisters and did alright with that.

orange_roses · October 2011

I'm sorry for your loss.

I miscarried in May and decided I was going to keep cutting all of that stuff out of my diet so the next time I got a BFP, I wouldn't have to go through the weaning process (especially with caffeine). I'm hoping it makes me healthier.

orange_roses · October 2011

I'm sorry for your loss.

I miscarried in May and decided I was going to keep cutting all of that stuff out of my diet so the next time I got a BFP, I wouldn't have to go through the weaning process (especially with caffeine). I'm hoping it makes me healthier.

alysky · October 2011

Today was 8 days since my d&c. I had a beer at dinner with my DH and in-laws. The first sip tasted fantastic. I never tasted the rest of it. I intentionally had my first drink in public so I wouldn't cry.

Shauna07 · October 2011

I appreciate the feedback ladies. Last night DH and I were watching a movie and he poured me a glass of red wine. I took 2 sips then started crying...it tasted good but I couldn't finish it. I agree about the prenatals, I'm going to continue taking them because we plan to try again in a few months. I did have a cup of coffee this morning and it tasted SO good.

I have the highest hopes for all of you. I've had friends have m/c then success with a new pregnancy just 2 months later. I've also had friends try for years, and then be blessed with twins. For some of us it's a short road, for others a long one, but I cross fingers those roads end up with healthy babies for all of us

massiahl · October 2011

Shauna07:

I appreciate the feedback ladies. Last night DH and I were watching a movie and he poured me a glass of red wine. I took 2 sips then started crying...it tasted good but I couldn't finish it. I agree about the prenatals, I'm going to continue taking them because we plan to try again in a few months. I did have a cup of coffee this morning and it tasted SO good.

I have the highest hopes for all of you. I've had friends have m/c then success with a new pregnancy just 2 months later. I've also had friends try for years, and then be blessed with twins. For some of us it's a short road, for others a long one, but I cross fingers those roads end up with healthy babies for all of us

You're very sweet. Thank you for your thoughts and wishes. I'm crossing my fingers with you, too!

Mrs.Syntax · October 2011

I've done it all since Tuesday, when the u/s showed no heartbeat. I've been taking sleeping pills to help me get some good sleep at night, I've been drinking alcohol (not getting shiitfaced, just moderate amounts) and I've been indulging in tons and tons of coffee. I think I've had a pumpkin spice latte from Starbucks every day last week as a consolation.

TA110980 · October 2011

When we found out there was no hb this past Tuesday, I told DH I was going to have some wine that night. We had wine every night before my bfp, I used to wonder how I'd kick that evening ritual if I ever got pregnant, but it was one of the easiest life changes I made. Ive had wine a few nights since, but I have to be say it doesn't taste good. Perhaps it's the hormones? I'm also craving sushi and hope to get to my favorite restaurant this week.

I'm definitely staying on prenatal vitamins and keeping my caffeine intake low. Before finding out I was pregnant, I drank coffee all day long which suppressed my appetite, I rarely ate until dinner. Once I stopped, I ate more regularly, had better food and felt great. I want to keep that up! I'm also hoping to do some bikram yoga this week after the m/c bleeding stops.

Shauna07 · October 2011

You have such a great outlook! I wish you the best of luck I'm also going to keep coffee intake low and I think the best thing to do now is take care of myself -- get some good sleep, exercise and eat right....so I'm all prepped for the next time. I am definitely getting some sushi this week! I can't wait for a spicy tuna roll

maxsom · October 2011

Once I get past the post-m/c bleeding, I plan on once again cutting out coffee and caffeine. I do, however, plan on hitting up a Jimmy John's before we start TTC again. lol

besoul · October 2011

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had my first glass of wine on Saturday. It was really weird and I felt uncomfortable drinking. Like I was doing something wrong. Miscarriage is so unbelievably confusing and complicated. I'm so sorry for all of our losses.

Kasi80 · October 2011

I miscarried on a Saturday morning. That night I had a huge beer.

kokokat · October 2011

FreyaWin2382:

I still find myself taking those stupid prenatal vitamins every morning though.

Hey Freya, just so you know, I was told to keep taking my vitamins if I was planning on becoming pregnant again in the next few months. I don't know what your plans are, but you could be doing a really good thing by still taking them.

Amberbugg · October 2011

The weekend after my D&C, we went to Niagara Falls to celebrate our 2nd anniversary. I drank beer with dinner both nights. I kept taking my prenatals until I was treated with methotrexate (anti-folic). I also can't have alcohol again until that drug is out of my system - which sucks, since my husband and I are beer snobs and we bought some good stuff while in NY. It's sitting in the fridge - just waiting. I'll get to it. Can't TTC again for a few months anyway. I never quit drinking coffee, but I had cut down to only one cup a day. Still only drinking the one cup, just got used to it, I guess.

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