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March 2012 Moms
LilyPotter218
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Am I a horrible wife? (NPR)
LilyPotter218
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So we found out on vacation that DH officially passed the Bar Exam 
He is being sworn in this Friday and it is just over an hour from where we live. Plan was for him to just go down, get the certificate and yay, celebrate Friday night.
Just found out yesterday that it is this big ordeal. Families come and there is a huge reception.
I have 2 personal/sick days left that I had planned to use for Dr appts, who knows what Ill do if I actually get sick... Am I horrible for not going? We talked about it today and his response was a very unconvincing "no it's fine".
To add to the drama we had a designer quit last Friday so right now I am the ONLY designer we have right now for the time being. I'm feeling awful and very torn?! Help
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Re: Am I a horrible wife? (NPR)
I wouldnt say you are a horrible wife because you have very valid reason's for not going. But I think this is a huge deal to your husband so it will be worth the sacrifice. He has worked hard for it and he would want you to be thereto share that moment even if he says "no it's fine".
I hope it all works out for the best! Good luck
No, you are not horrible. No one came to mine with me and it really was not a big deal (although maybe some states make it a bigger deal than others.) It was a 45 minute or so ceremony and then there was an optional luncheon afterward that you could attend with your family. I drove the two hours to the ceremony and then drove home.
My cousin-in-law was sworn in last year and I think his mom went but that was it.
That's tough, you're kinda between a rock and a hard place. The best you can do is talk with your husband and find out why it's important to him for you to be there and try to explain to him why you're torn and make a decision from there once all the cards are on the table. If it was me, I would probably go, but that's totally my personal decision, I don't think there is a right or wrong choice, its just what's going to work best for you guys and cause the least stress and hurt feelings. Good luck and congrats to your husband on passing!
I am going to bring it up again tonight. I will go if it is important to him. He is not one who likes being the center of attention at all. We eloped b/c the thought of being the center of attention at a wedding was just awful to him.
We have been together since his first year of law school and it has been a really rough road for both of us, so yes this is a HUGE deal. Yesterday was the first day he has ever been able to watch football with me
I had no idea how intense law school was before experiencing it second hand...
If it doesn't work out and I end up not going, Ill be sure to make Friday evening/dinner special and it will be a memorable day one way or another!!
Meh. We didn't do anything when DH passed the bar. I think we celebrated more when he got a job offer.
The swearing in ceremony is pretty neat though (I don't know if your state does a big one), so I went to that, we had lunch and then he had to go to Court. In fact, it was much like our wedding - we got married at City Hall, had lunch and then he went to class and I went to work. LOL!
I think a nice dinner would be a great celebration (at home or out, whichever is easier!) to acknowledge his bar passing.
ETA: The ceremony was more of a big deal at his job. I didn't really need to be at the ceremony, but since I wasn't working at the time I went. Had I been working, I wouldn't have gone.