Community› The Bump Month Clubs› September 2011 Moms
September 2011 Moms
New Discussion

How long would you wait?

myrallmyrall member
in September 2011 Moms

This last kidlet is it for us (DS was born 9/28). I don't do so hot with hormonal BC and haven't used it for over six years. We got by on only condoms. We've made the decision that DH is taking one for the team and is getting a vasectomy.

So my question is, how long would you wait before sending DH/SO in for the procedure? Terrible as it sounds, part of me wants to make sure everything's okay with DS before we cut off (so to speak) our options. DH is ready to make his appointment now. I keep waffling and thinking we should wait at least six months - or possibly longer.

To really add a monkey wrench to things, they say it can take up to a year for men to "clear the pipes" of live sperm after having the procedure done. That's how "whoops" babies happen.

Anyway, I'm rambling. What would you do?

Lil' G was born April 25, 2008! Big C was born September 28, 2011! Image and video hosting by TinyPic
Report Reply to Post

Re: How long would you wait?

  • angel2288angel2288 member
    We are in the sane boat...DH would have already had it, if we had the money. As soon as we do...he is getting snipped
    Anniversary Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • angel2288angel2288 member
    We are in the sane boat...DH would have already had it, if we had the money. As soon as we do...he is getting snipped
    Anniversary Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • TheFannins729TheFannins729 member
    It took dh two months just to get in for a consult. Im imagining it will be even longer to actually have it done. We'll probably ask for it to be done right around six months. Ive never heard the year thing. I always thought it was thirty ejaculation or something like that. I know they will test his semen to make sure it's clear and then we'll probably use condoms for thirty more days.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • Geekchick921Geekchick921 member

    Man, that's a tough call.  I want to say I don't think he should go in until you're both feeling confident about it.

    Until then, is Paragard an option for you?  It's the IUD without hormones, though it does make periods heavier and every IUD-failure pregnancy I've read about on TB has been with a Paragard, not Mirena.  Just a suggestion since it's nonhormonal.

    Also, they are working on a male birth control pill/patch/shot/implant that will make him shoot blanks, but it's supposed to be a few more years before it's ready.   

    Wife, mom, Ob/Gyn resident
    Sarah - 12/23/2008
    Alex - 9/30/2011

    image

    "I say embrace the total geek in yourself and just enjoy it. Life is too short to be cool." - Shirley Manson, Garbage
    Report Reply
  • memali26memali26 member

    We just discussed this the other day. We aren't sure about going for number 3, but if we do that will be it and DH will get a vasectomy. We decided, though, that we want to wait several years after making our final decision (especially if it's to stop with the 2 we have) before doing anything permanent. We want to be absolutely sure we're done and not take away the option before then.

    If you're already absolutely sure you're done, than I say sooner rather than later. The sooner it's done the less your chance of an oops baby. 

    Mama to two sweet girls
    DD1 Feb 2010
    DD2 Sept 2011


    Pregnancy Ticker
    Report Reply
  • myrallmyrall member
    imageGeekchick921:

    Man, that's a tough call.  I want to say I don't think he should go in until you're both feeling confident about it.

    Until then, is Paragard an option for you?  It's the IUD without hormones, though it does make periods heavier and every IUD-failure pregnancy I've read about on TB has been with a Paragard, not Mirena.  Just a suggestion since it's nonhormonal.

    Also, they are working on a male birth control pill/patch/shot/implant that will make him shoot blanks, but it's supposed to be a few more years before it's ready.   

    Yeaaaahhh, Paragard creeps me out for the reasons you just mentioned. The whole waiting bit stems from me just being over-anxious. DH tells me not to worry. We are definitely certain that this is it for us. I make a terrible pregnant woman and we feel our family is complete. The midwife is making me wait 8 weeks before we can get it on again, so I have a little more time to think.

    Lil' G was born April 25, 2008! Big C was born September 28, 2011! Image and video hosting by TinyPic
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"