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manda666manda666
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did anyone's BD come around to the idea of being a dad?

 my BD is in total shock mode and says he doesn't know what to think or feel or do about me expecting. we've only been together 6 months and i'm 10 weeks along. he said he wasn't the type to just up and go, but other than that he didn't say anything.

 i am freaking out because while i want my baby to have a father, i don't want BD to end up feeling trapped and not happy, because that wouldn't be healthy for me, the baby, or for him.

i'd rather him just tell me yes or no, i'll be here or not, and then i can know where to go from there. i definitely don't want to get married at this point either.

am i being too selfish or should i just let the idea of everything sink in?

manda666 *EDD 5/11/12*

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  • aubs8181aubs8181
    I have a similar situation to yours.  I got pregnant right away (about 2 weeks after we started dating).  Things were very up and down at first, but now its much better.  He had a few weeks of freaking out and being super distant towards the end of the first trimester.  I told him that if he didnt want to continue a relationship or be involved with the pregnancy that was fine, I was perfectly able to handle it on my own and would rather have him leave early than string it out the whole time.  After that i left it alone.  If he wanted to call or spend time together i would let him make the first move.  And he did!  Im nine months pregnant now and he is about to move in.  I think as soon as you take the pressure off and give them some space to let things sink in helps in the long run.  I would give him a couple weeks to digest everything, then have a serious talk about what you both expect and want out of the relationship/situation and then go from there.  But give him some time and space and im sure it will help.  Good luck!
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  • drbethcdrbethc member
    I think let everything sink in....and give it some time before making any big decisions.
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  • SnowypumpkinqueenSnowypumpkinqueen
    My BD was in to the total idea of being a father, until he came to my appointments and saw what he was in for. I would let everything sink in before you make a big commitment.
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