Does it still annoy you...

chloebeth930 · October 2011

when people announce their pregnancy early? I have a FB friend who just announced that she is due at the end of May (so she would be around 7 weeks). I can't help but be annoyed. I really have no reason to... she is married, they have steady jobs, are good people, etc. But still, when I saw it I was just like ::insert eye roll::

Anyone else get annoyed at this kind of behavior?

callmeAl19 · October 2011

I do. But, I think it's a little bit of jealousy at being able to be so naive.

Junebug060609 · October 2011

It doesn't really annoy me, but I do get a little jealous that they are so secure in things turning out OK that they can share so openly so early.

lauralew · October 2011

I don't even know what the feeling(s) is... annoyance? jealousy? anger? sadness that she doesn't realize how bad this could turn out? But it does bother me when people announce that early.

iluvmylab · October 2011

I wouldn't say that it annoys me, but I cringe whenever I see it and just hope that everything works out. I guess in a way I wish I could be that clueless again...

GPickles · October 2011

Ugh, yes it still annoys me when people post on FB before the test is even dry. I guess I envy their ease of being pg & having no worries about it.

EricaK28 · October 2011

lauralew:
I don't even know what the feeling(s) is... annoyance? jealousy? anger? sadness that she doesn't realize how bad this could turn out? But it does bother me when people announce that early.

This

SCSmithbride · October 2011

callmeAl19:
I do. But, I think it's a little bit of jealousy at being able to be so naive.

This plus if it is a good friend being that I'm on the opposite end of naive at this point I worry about them as well. I feel for their pregnancy the same as mine that i pray it's a sticky baby and they don't have to retract their announcement.

This unfortunately did happen to a friend of mine. She found out the same week I did that she was expecting and post the test on FB and told her mom and posted how she told her mom. (Come to find out when my DH congratulated her DH she wasn't supposed to tell yet) and less than a week later she mentions how the loss has been hard, but she has faith in God that he has her plan in place. I knew what she meant, but it took me a min to ask her being that it is a touchy thing and being that I was still pregnant (which she didn't know at the time).

So yeah for me It bothers me because I fear for them the same as i do myself and as above posted a little jealous because I can't pop out with it the same and feel I don't have a worry in the world.

meeko1985 · October 2011

I get annoyed too. And worried that they might get hurt.

october_artist · October 2011

It gives my heart a little shake. I don't know if id say I felt annoyed or jealous- but it most def runs a quick sharp feeling thru my throat and chest. Then it subsides and I think, thats nice....good luck. It's a very strange feeling for sure.

lotus88 · October 2011

callmeAl19:
I do. But, I think it's a little bit of jealousy at being able to be so naive.

Ditto

mandy6418 · October 2011

lauralew:
I don't even know what the feeling(s) is... annoyance? jealousy? anger? sadness that she doesn't realize how bad this could turn out? But it does bother me when people announce that early.

This.

easjer05 · October 2011

No. It doesn't bother me at all. Their pregnancy, their right to announce when they life. I'll feel badly for them if it doesn't work out, of course, but I've always been more of the opinion that as much as untelling sucks, I'd rather people know what I'm going through.

I get far more (irrationally) annoyed when people treat the second tri as if all worry is past and things will be totally fine. That will, of course, be true for 98% of women, but having been in the other 2% group, I just want to shake people and make them see that there is no real safe point, that bad things can happen anytime.

It's strange what plucks those strings for us, isn't it?

samm1983 · October 2011

callmeAl19:
I do. But, I think it's a little bit of jealousy at being able to be so naive.

This.

Eris-Alexis · October 2011

I do for sure. And I think that PP is right about it being jealousy about being so naive. Whenever I see someone make an announcement that early, I try to take a step back and say a quick prayer that everything goes well and she can continue to be naive.

Mrs_Est11.11.06 · October 2011

lauralew:
I don't even know what the feeling(s) is... annoyance? jealousy? anger? sadness that she doesn't realize how bad this could turn out? But it does bother me when people announce that early.

Ditto..

MrsAtch · October 2011

iluvmylab:
I wouldn't say that it annoys me, but I cringe whenever I see it and just hope that everything works out. I guess in a way I wish I could be that clueless again...

This. What annoys me is when people post a play-by-play of each and every symptom and moment of their pregnancy on facebook. Especially that early.

badtzmaru22 · October 2011

Yes, it bothers me. Pretty much what everyone else said about jealousy... and worry if it's a close friend. And then I get bitter, because of course it will work out just fine for them.

tiffanyings · October 2011

Ya I have a lot of feelings about that. To be able to be that naive again would be wonderful. But probably bitterness and jealousy are the best way to describe my feelings towards it. I did tell my close friend and DH's parents because they are always so supportive about everything and especially with other losses. So if something happens this time, I don't have to explain how I was pregnant, etc. etc.

mundayem · October 2011

I get that momentary feeling like, man I really hope things turn out ok. And more than likely they will but I get a little nervous when people announce that early. But it doesn't annoy me I just worry that they will have to take it back.

hopeandlove0417 · October 2011

I do. But to me just like many PP said its more that I'm jealous that they can be that carefree and naive.

NY-allie · October 2011

I announced early with this pg even though I had had a previous mc. I wanted the support of my close friends and family if anything happened. Also I told my boss early because of lots of doctor's appointments and because of work restrictions. Don't side-eye people who announce early, they may have perfectly good reasons for it including wanting support if anything goes wrong.

shortpoole · October 2011

lauralew:
I don't even know what the feeling(s) is... annoyance? jealousy? anger? sadness that she doesn't realize how bad this could turn out? But it does bother me when people announce that early.

This for me too. I hope that things turn out better for them than it did for me, but am definitely jealous of the carefree nature of the way early announcement.

khanley1980 · October 2011

Yup! People are kind of clueless!

emd2887 · October 2011

iluvmylab:
I wouldn't say that it annoys me, but I cringe whenever I see it and just hope that everything works out. I guess in a way I wish I could be that clueless again...

This is probably how I feel. DH's friend announced that they were expecting on fb when she couldn't have been more than 9ish weeks. All I could think of was that I had a m/c at 9ish weeks, and hoped that they wouldn't have to retract it.

mundayem · October 2011

NY-allie:
I announced early with this pg even though I had had a previous mc. I wanted the support of my close friends and family if anything happened. Also I told my boss early because of lots of doctor's appointments and because of work restrictions. Don't side-eye people who announce early, they may have perfectly good reasons for it including wanting support if anything goes wrong.

I can see if you have a reason to tell your boss at work early or want to tell immediately family and close friends for the support if something were to happen. To me that is very different than posting on FB for everyone to see, even people you haven't seen in 15 years or whatever. Those are the people the get the side-eye from me.

xoladiebug · October 2011

I guess I go back and forth about it. Having been that person that announced early (with my first), I kinda feel like that was a dumb move. Then again, I had no reason to know/think something would go wrong so why couldn't I share my joy and excitement? This time around I waited until 13 weeks, but even then it was hard for me to come out.

My hairdresser (who is also due in March), announced at 6 weeks even after I had told her my story (I mc at 6 weeks). I rolled my eyes big time, but a lot of that was due to her constant updates about her symptoms and such. She still annoys me with her constant updates on how her pregnancy is going.

lauralew · October 2011

mundayem:
NY-allie:
I announced early with this pg even though I had had a previous mc. I wanted the support of my close friends and family if anything happened. Also I told my boss early because of lots of doctor's appointments and because of work restrictions. Don't side-eye people who announce early, they may have perfectly good reasons for it including wanting support if anything goes wrong.

I can see if you have a reason to tell your boss at work early or want to tell immediately family and close friends for the support if something were to happen. To me that is very different than posting on FB for everyone to see, even people you haven't seen in 15 years or whatever. Those are the people the get the side-eye from me.

I agree with mundayem. I told family, friends, and my team at work all by 9w. The rest of the staff, random friends I bumped into, etc, I waited until after 13w. I didn't feel comfortable coming out on FB until after my A/S around 18w...and even then it took another week or two to finally do it.

melissa721 · October 2011

callmeAl19:
I do. But, I think it's a little bit of jealousy at being able to be so naive.

This. For sure.

chloebeth930 · October 2011

NY-allie:
I announced early with this pg even though I had had a previous mc. I wanted the support of my close friends and family if anything happened. Also I told my boss early because of lots of doctor's appointments and because of work restrictions. Don't side-eye people who announce early, they may have perfectly good reasons for it including wanting support if anything goes wrong.

I understand telling certain people early; for me the annoyance/jealously/etc. comes from when people announce to the world that they are pregnant really early (like on facebook).

holsomback6510 · October 2011

I get annoyed by it, and I think it's because they get to be so naive. The people who post it on facebook usually go on to see heartbeats and have healthy pregnancies so sometimes I'm like, "Maybe I should post my pregnancy on FB. It seems to work out for everyone else." I would never, but I have these thoughts. lol

HBaylies · October 2011

Annoyed, no. Slightly worried for them because now I will always be worried about every precnancy for every woman sticking, yes.

Cercamom2011 · October 2011

I always just wish we could all be so naive. I'm happy for them, but we won't be announcing this one, until LO is home safely.

TnG05 · October 2011

callmeAl19:
I do. But, I think it's a little bit of jealousy at being able to be so naive.

This but it's not so much being annoyed with them just jealous. My lil sis (she's 23) announced hers the day after she got her BFP. She doesn't know about my m/c.

chusum · October 2011

I do. I just think everyone should go back to the old days of keeping their mouth shut on public forums until their 2nd trimester. But that's just me.

And it annoys me even more because it always seems that the pregnancies with very early FB announcements never have miscarriages (not that I'm wishing it on them) I just always see those people make it through their pregnancy.

I agree with everyone else saying it isn't really annoying, it's an unexplainable feeling. Probably insane jealousy that they can be so carefree about pregnancy.

BritanyV · October 2011

callmeAl19:
I do. But, I think it's a little bit of jealousy at being able to be so naive.

Ditto

bbhalphen · October 2011

I am a little jealous, but also really annoyed!

ellebelle2384 · October 2011

Yes, it does annoy me. Because I can never ever be like that again. And I still haven't announced this pregnancy on facebook (28 weeks now).

corndog8 · October 2011

Junebug060609:
It doesn't really annoy me, but I do get a little jealous that they are so secure in things turning out OK that they can share so openly so early.

Same. Last time I didn't announce and was 12wk. Another friend we knew announced theirs (due after us), and I was thinking, she must only be like 9-10wk.... then 2 days later we found out about our loss, I was thinking I was glad I hadn't posted. And kinda jealous that she got to post early and everything turned out ok. I tried to get past it and be happy for them, but it still stung a bit.

MissAutumn · October 2011

Meh, that stuff never bothers me but I dont pay much attention to what other people do.

sept9107bride · October 2011

I wouldn't say it annoys me...but I do get that Indifferent

feeling for them. I announced our first pregnancy early at Christmas despite my parents warning to wait (my mom had m/cs). Then we had our first m/c. Not only did it make things difficult, it also made the following Christmas extremely hurt-filled. To remember I had made my annoucement the year earlier...with no baby. Indifferent

is all I think and GL to those that do announce early as loss is so difficult....

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