NBR: help me decide on a BM dress

PhotoCat82 · October 2011

My SIL is getting married on 12.31.11. She originally was letting us choose our dresses but has now narrowed it down to JCrew Silk Chiffon dresses. Help me choose! I am short (5'2"), have a waist between a 4 and 6, and ginormous boobs (currently a 34I). I am still EBFing too.

Option 1: https://www.jcrew.com/wedding/Wedding_Bridesmaid/bridesmaidpartydresses/silkchiffon/PRDOVR~29286/29286.jsp . This one has a very structured waist and has looked great on everyone that has tried it on. It really seems to hide the tummy. The downside is that it is strapless. How easy will it be to BF in?

Option 2: https://www.jcrew.com/wedding/Wedding_Bridesmaid/bridesmaidpartydresses/silkchiffon/PRDOVR~43049/43049.jsp. This one seems like it might work better for BFing, but I don't know. I think I would still have to unzip it to access the boobs. It seems more grandma-ish than the other one.

So far everyone else has chosen option 1. Oh, and to clarify, each BM gets to choose her own dress.

ETA: A strapless bra isn't a concern b/c I always get cups sewn in when I get dresses altered. There is no way I could find a strapless bra in my size! I gave up on that long ago.

hepcats · October 2011

I actually like the second one better but that's because I think it would support the boobs better. If your boobs are big, strapless is difficult to pull off.

kas80 · October 2011

I would prefer the second because you could wear a nursing bra with it. Though maybe you've had better luck then I have finding a strapless bra that fits and doesn't feel binding/cause clogged ducts. If that's the case then Option 1.

KYBABY2011 · October 2011

hepcats:
I actually like the second one better but that's because I think it would support the boobs better. If your boobs are big, strapless is difficult to pull off.

I'm going with this. My friend has been in search of a strapless bra that will hold her nursing boobs up for about 3 months. GO number 2! They are both adorable though.

P0upette · October 2011

I definitely think that #1 is the best option and you could get a lot more wear out of it

Sunidaze · October 2011

I definitely prefer the second one. I am not a fan of strapless dresses at all. My first wedding dress was strapless - common sense took over 3 weeks before my wedding and I bought a second dress that was halter-style.

kimbo1216 · October 2011

I choose #2 I think its cute. Strapless would not be an option for me at my pre-pregnant DDD or my nursing size F. I couldn't imagine going strappless as an I.

lysetterae · October 2011

From your description of yourself I think the 2nd choice would be perfect.

cvl105 · October 2011

#1 for sure!I'd just unzip the back a little and pull down the top to feed!

DramaMama06 · October 2011

as a chesty girl (i was a full D before the baby) i would go with #2. it will down play the size and it will be easier to hide any sort of pads or what not.

you could take it to a seamstress and see if they can alter it to be more BF friendly...

JuneBug0611 · October 2011

I like both. I don't think #2 is grandmotherly at all. I'd personally opt for #1 for myself, but I do not have a large chest, so I defer to those who have larger chests for what is optimal in that circumstance. I think either you could rig to be able to BF.

LaRue86 · October 2011

I would go with the first one. I am a 34L, so I understand the big boob issues. The 2nd one is going to be difficult to accomidate big boobs in, especially in a size 4/6. J Crew does not cut things for boobs at all.

With the breast size, you will probably have to have it altered and the 1st would be much easier to alter than the 2nd. You could also have it made in to a lace up back with a privacy panel which will give you the fit everywhere else and the necessary room up top for the girls. This is what I did for my wedding dress. I was a 36H/I and it was much cheaper to have the panel and lace up added than to take everything else in. To fit my boobs I would have had to gone up to a size 22, and my dress was a size 10....

MommaA117 · October 2011

1 for sure

mjid1105 · October 2011

I love the first one! So cute!

js748899 · October 2011

B/c of the boobs I would chose #2.

MamaViking · October 2011

I love the first one, but I have a thing for strapless.

PhotoCat82 · October 2011

LaRue86:
I would go with the first one. I am a 34L, so I understand the big boob issues. The 2nd one is going to be difficult to accomidate big boobs in, especially in a size 4/6. J Crew does not cut things for boobs at all.

With the breast size, you will probably have to have it altered and the 1st would be much easier to alter than the 2nd. You could also have it made in to a lace up back with a privacy panel which will give you the fit everywhere else and the necessary room up top for the girls. This is what I did for my wedding dress. I was a 36H/I and it was much cheaper to have the panel and lace up added than to take everything else in. To fit my boobs I would have had to gone up to a size 22, and my dress was a size 10....

Perfect idea! I think the first one will be easier to alter and will hold the girls in better. I love the idea of changing it to a lace up back. Dresses are just so difficult!

LexGator · October 2011

I much prefer #1 if they'll fit the girls. I think you'd have to unzip both to BF.

Dani0701 · October 2011

I like the 1st one better, but I have big tatas and always wish we could get dresses with staps so I could wear a regular bra and not hoisting those puppies up every two minutes! For comfort, I'd go with the 2nd one. For style, I'd go with the 1st one. (I know this is very unhelpful! LOL!)