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Sexual arousal question from first time pregnant mom

livinirie84livinirie84 member
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Hi ladies. I don't really know who else to ask and since you all may have been through this fairly recently, I figure I'll ask you. I am currently 32 weeks into my first pregnancy. I have noticed a decrease in my desire to have sex with my husband but not totally gone. Once we start to get into it I'm totally in to it but as soon as he touches me down there with fingers or otherwise, it kind of feels like any stimulation is too much and it 'shuts off' pretty quickly. Like maybe the usual build up and peak are just happening at warp speed and then there's no cumming back for me. Pun intended. We have both adjusted to this and he's aware that my hormones are screwy and that it's not his fault or anything but I'm getting fruatrated. It's really doesn't feel good for me. Anyways, my question is...if you had a similar reaction to your hormones during pregnancy, did things go back to normal? How soon? Did you change? Do you 'get off' differently now or are you back to your old self? Did you notice your sex drive coming back even before you were ok to have sex again or did it take some time? Anything you can offer is much appreciated. Thanks in advance. ETA: Sorry. Apparently the iPhone hates paragraphs.
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  • fcp1234fcp1234

    This might be TMI, but yes, thats how I felt while pregnant. It was like it was way too sensitive down there. I found it to be back to normal a few weeks after having the baby ( we didnt wait the 6 weeks). Now at 3 months pp everything is back to normal, but sex life is nowhere the same. Who has time for the whole sessions, quickies have become my first friend:). Sorry, TMI.

    And after having the baby, you are so busy and overwhelmed, that great sex is one the last things you worry about.  I think it will take months and months before you have the time and energy to get back to your normal sex life.

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    This might be TMI, but yes, thats how I felt while pregnant. It was like it was way too sensitive down there. I found it to be back to normal a few weeks after having the baby ( we didnt wait the 6 weeks). Now at 3 months pp everything is back to normal, but sex life is nowhere the same. Who has time for the whole sessions, quickies have become my first friend:). Sorry, TMI.

    And after having the baby, you are so busy and overwhelmed, that great sex is one the last things you worry about.  I think it will take months and months before you have the time and energy to get back to your normal sex life.

    Ditto all of this.  I have not had a good night's sleep since maybe month 7 of my pregnancy, so it definitely interferes with the sex life. 

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  • MeggieLou2MeggieLou2
    I had very little to no sex drive while pregnant.  I had almost no sensitivity down there...it might as well have been numb.  I had one, maybe two Big O's while pregnant.  I was so frustrated with it.  It took over a month and a half after I had our DS for it to get back to normal.  I'm just glad that it's BACK!  Hellooo Big O!!!
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  • thatgirl84thatgirl84

    I didn't have a sensitivity issue, but I can assure you that it is most likely from all that extra blood that pregnancy brings. Your blood volume will return to normal after baby. It just may be quite a while before you feel like having it again. It was 4 weeks for me (until I wanted it *and* no longer scared d/t a tear), but my tear hadn't healed completely. Then I had an IUD placed and OB said to wait a week, then I got a call...biopsy. Ugh. Had to wait another week. It was 8 weeks or so when we finally DTD. I've heard of quite a few women waiting until 3 months pp. I'm 4 months pp and some areas still don't feel quite right, but overall it's good Big Smile

    Hope I didn't scare you, but it's better to be prepared imo.

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  • livinirie84livinirie84 member
    Thank you ladies for responding. I do realize that finding the time for sex is gonna be difficult and I think that's why I'm nervous about it being satisfying when we do get the chance. Thanks again.
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