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Mamasaurus
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My "hug my midwife" moment.
Mamasaurus
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I just went to my second prenatal visit today; it is my last one with my OBGYN, and then I switch to a MW practice. My regular doctor is the most popular one in the practice of 5, so he can be hard to get for appointments. Since I only had today free, I took an appointment with a different doctor in the practice. For the first time, I met one of the other doctors in the practice, and WOW. I'm so glad I will not have a 1 in 5 chance of this woman being present while I labor!
My doctor is very mellow and hasn't had a problem with me wanting to skip the flu shot (previous bad reaction), continue a vegetarian diet, or wait and see the results of my nuchal screen before deciding to get CVS or amnio. He doesn't get combative with me; if he thinks I'm wrong on something, he suggests I read a particular study or gives me an informational brochure instead of raising his voice or getting snippy. The doctor I met today? Total spazz! She would not let the flu vax thing go, even after I said my regular doc is ok with me skipping it and even after I cited a specific recent immunological study. It doesn't seem very cool to me to put down another doc in your practice--in fact, it seems downright unprofessional. She repeatedly suggested that I am making a mistake by not eating meat, even though I am taking specific prenatal vitamins for vegetarian women, with extra calcium, fatty acids, etc. She practically shouted at me for having not scheduled amnio or CVS yet even though I just got the nuchal today.
I can just see her getting in my face in a delivery room about pitocin, or worse, trying to talk me into a c-section for convenience as soon as I walk through the door. Who needs that kind of stress? Not me. This basically put to rest any doubts I had about if I was doing the right thing switching to a midwife and home birth. I just wanted to run out of that office, find Hillary (the MW), and give her a bear hug.
Anyone else have a "hug your midwife" moment lately? Or a "hug your natural-birth-positive OBGYN" moment?
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Re: My "hug my midwife" moment.
It sounds like that woman woke up on the wrong side of the bed today or with a major stick up her A##. It sounds like your other doctor and you have carefully weighed your options and decisions, so F-her! I'm lucky that I've also had a great OBGYN and midwife- neither tried to force anything on me, but have been great at giving me info and options.
I'm also kind of surpirsed that she would push you to do an amnio- why on earth would she do that unless you were super high risk or had already had a serioius birth defect identified? My doctor actually was cautioning us against it and suggested we wait to see if the sequential screen revealed a need to check stuff out further.
DITTO.
I love my midwife, she's so mellow. I'm glad you don't have to stay with that practice. Sheesh.
DITTO x 2. I have had 2 natural births in a hospital, and, before switiching to a midwife, thought I had a pretty good/pretty decent OB/GYN. I liked him, however, the care I got from him is NOTHING compared to what I get from my homebirth midwife.
She thinks, I guess, that everyone should get all the available tests. Also, I do have one uncle with some kind of mental retardation. It isn't down's, I know that for sure, but nobody in my family talks about it and I don't know if he was ever even officially diagnosed. My grandma, his mother, is a serious doctor-phobe and didn't see one for 15 years straight, until she broke her hip; growing up, my mom saw a doctor maybe twice. Ever. So, I do have some risk, but nobody else in the family has it, whatever it is, and if I had to guess, I'd say it's autism anyways--amnio won't detect that.
this.