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Would you say something? (NBR & longish)

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So I know this is totally "knot" related  but who cares, any way:

My BIL/SIL got married recently and live close to us. I asked them about the gifts they received after the wedding. SIL proceeds to list the people that didn't "get them anything," including my other SIL (who I remember giving her a nice shower gift.)

I asked her, "Didn't (SIL) give you that nice silverware set?" and she answered "Yeah but that was my shower gift."

I'm glad they were sitting in the back seat of the car so they couldn't see my jaw drop. H and I "only got them a shower gift" as well. H was best man in the wedding, paid for the tux, bachelor party etc.. and we're living off one income and have a VERY strict budget. Needless to say, I was slightly offended. 

BIL then proceeds to complain that his new IL's didn't get them "that big of a gift." SIL added "they expect a big Christmas gift this year from them." (Her parents didn't pay for the wedding... not well-off or anything) 

H and I are like WTF?!  I felt like saying - "You sound like greedy, snobby, ungrateful brats." But... I dunno. Would you have said something or let it go?

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  • EVA116EVA116 member
    I would just let it go. (but I would gossip to my other SIL and tell them what they said....but I am bad like that Big Smile)

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  • HyfagalHyfagal member

    What a twat. I never get two gifts unless the shower gift is specifically for the bride like a lingerie shower.

    If she gets a casserole dish from me at the shower girlfriend isn't getting another at the wedding.

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    imageHyfagal:

    What a twat. I never get two gifts unless the shower gift is specifically for the bride like a lingerie shower.

    If she gets a casserole dish from me at the shower girlfriend isn't getting another at the wedding.

    I thought this was the normal thing to do too!  My SIL is pretty superficial and apparently really materialistic, BIL is too. Jerks. I want my waffle maker back. 

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  • vanfoxvanfox member

    Everyone who got me a shower gift got me a wedding gift, too, and I was so baffled. Not that I wasn't grateful, of course, but like, weren't you already super-generous? I really hadn't been expecting two gifts.

    I second gossiping with your other SIL! Let off some steam without opening up a can of worms.

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  • nettie27nettie27
    I always give two gifts and if i'm invited to the Bachelorette party i buy lingerie for the bride. Not saying that i expected two gifts from my peeps. I think it did make her sound super bratty.  I think you said all the right things.
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  • lclaws13lclaws13

    I always give two gifts if I'm invited to both and attend both.  If I can't afford two gifts, I'll either give two smaller, or not go to the shower.  Even if I spent a ridic amount to get there (destination wedding) I still would never go to a wedding empty handed; it would just be something small.  But that's just me.

     I would never think poorly of someone who came to my wedding and didn't give me anything.  We had several people just give us cards, and that was fine.  We just wanted people there to celebrate with us.  And I definitely would never talk about it to anyone else.  I wouldn't say anything (although I would tell other SIL) but it would definitely make me think twice about any gift I'd ever give them in the future.  I don't spend money on people who aren't grateful, or tactful.

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  • shaindelrshaindelr member
    imagesweetteaBV:

    H and I are like WTF?!  I felt like saying - "You sound like greedy, snobby, ungrateful brats." But... I dunno. Would you have said something or let it go?

    If we had time travel, I'd pay you to go back in time and just say the bold part... Stick out tongue

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