Baby #2 will be here in 3 weeks or less! HOLY CRAP!

Janimal · October 2011

Can't believe how little time is left. I'm scheduled for a Csection 11/1/11. This has been a high risk pregnancy and I was so scared of preterm labor that I am thrilled to have made it this long. Hope I make it to the 1st.

It's hard to imagine loving a kid as much as I love DD. My sun rises and sets on her. She's so awesome. I think I will miss her when I am in the hospital.

Any advice for going from 1 to 2 kids?

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com · October 2011

You'll definitely miss her while in the hospital. I missed Ethan terribly, so much so that I left a day before I should have. Please know that your heart is big enough to love another baby just as much as your dd. That was my biggest fear, too, while pg with my second, but I learned immediately after he was born that I loved Jack just as much as Ethan. Good luck with your c-section. 11/1/11 is a cool birthdate.

morethanready · October 2011

This will be us too!!! C-section 11-1-11!! Same worries but I know that everything will be fine. Good luck!!

Daisy22 · October 2011

I worried about loving one as much as Bailey but once Bryce came I instantly knew what other mother's had told me to be true. Your heart grows and each kid is so different. Bailey is my serious, thinker and Bryce is my no cares, laid back little boy.

I had c/s with both of mine and Bryce's was planned of course. Just remember to listen to your body. If something hurts don't do it. I was able to start picking up Bailey after the first week but I had to do it by bending down and lifting with my legs. I would get him to hug my neck which helped with picking him up. Good luck!!! You'll do great as a mother of 2

slwprincess · October 2011

mrs.holbird:
You'll definitely miss her while in the hospital. I missed Ethan terribly, so much so that I left a day before I should have. Please know that your heart is big enough to love another baby just as much as your dd. That was my biggest fear, too, while pg with my second, but I learned immediately after he was born that I loved Jack just as much as Ethan. Good luck with your c-section. 11/1/11 is a cool birthdate.

I could have written this myself. Also, Gavin kind of freaked out when he first saw us in the hospital. I still had my IV and stuff and he just got scared. It was not the happy first meeting I had hoped for my 2 little ones :-( My advice is not to let her come visit until you are all unhooked! And definitely stay the max that they will let you. I went home a day early and I paid for it dearly. My recovery was much harder this time and I know it was b/c I was trying to do too much with Gavin and I just wasn't resting like I should have. The adjustment for us was tough but it seems like those that had girls first have a much easier transition from 1 to 2. And now, OMG I cannot tell you how much I love having two! The first thing out of Sophie's mouth each morning is "Baba?" which is her name for Gabba which is Gavin's nickname. It makes me smile everyday! Congrats girl!

JoJoEspana · October 2011

Ditto everyone else. YOu'll be shocked by how much you can love them. I used to ask everyone if they had a favorite, because I couldn't believe that you really could love 2 kids equally, but you really can.

As far as advice goes, the biggest thing for us is making time for JUST Caroline. Even though she is over the moon in love with the baby, it makes a huge difference in her behavior if we each set aside at least 20-30 minutes a day to play with her one on one. You are so busy the first few weeks constantly nursing, changing diapers, and snuggling the new baby, and as muchas I want to just hold him 24x7, I have to make myself put him down and sit on the floor to play with Caroline. On the days when I havne't done that, she is more likely to act out and misbehave as a way to get more attention.

Good luck!!

ebearwife · October 2011

You will do great. You will miss DD but it will go by so fast. Isaac had some breathing problems and was in NICU so even though I felt great 2 days PP (C-section #2) I stayed at the hospital with him until my time was up. The next few days after that were the hardest of my life having to parent P and go back and forth to the hospital for Isaac. But we made it.

MrsKLB · October 2011

Woohoo! Good luck!

My due date is 11/11/11, so one month from today! I can't believe it is so close. I enjoyed reading everyone's responses about loving two. I think I'm going to be emotional these last few weeks leading up to her arrival because I know everything will change... I just have to remember it is all for the better.

Daisy22 · October 2011

slwprincess:

I could have written this myself. Also, Gavin kind of freaked out when he first saw us in the hospital. I still had my IV and stuff and he just got scared. It was not the happy first meeting I had hoped for my 2 little ones :-( My advice is not to let her come visit until you are all unhooked!

I agree with slw. I had my c/s on thursday morning and we waited for Bailey to come up to the hospital until the next day after they took me off the IV and pain pump. It was still a little hard but he was also only 15 months old.

KT&John · October 2011

JoJoEspana:

As far as advice goes, the biggest thing for us is making time for JUST Caroline. Even though she is over the moon in love with the baby, it makes a huge difference in her behavior if we each set aside at least 20-30 minutes a day to play with her one on one.

Ditto this. DD's 3rd birthday was 4 days after DS was born and I have a special place in my heart for our friends who gave her board games. We would play some with her each day and it made all the difference to spend that special time together just us.

I also echo the advice to wait until you are unhooked/you feel well before you let DD visit. The c/s meds made me terribly sick to my stomach this time around. I wanted to see DD so bad but we waited 2 full days until I was OK. She had a great reaction to her little brother and I don't know that she would have if I had not been well when she saw me.

Most of all, you just can't know what your second child will mean to you until you meet him. Cadence was our whole world for three years. Our would just got exponentially bigger when Trevor arrived. It will happen for you too. Best wishes!

amanda_holbird@hotmail.com · October 2011

I just wanted to add my 2 cents about dd waiting until you are unhooked from your epidural, etc. I agree with this. Ethan was there when I had Jack and when I was in recovery, dh brought him back to see me before he left with my mil. Big mistake! Not for him (he was 21 months old), but for me. The spinal was starting to wear off and I was becoming very uncomfortable. As quickly as dh brought him to me, I wanted him gone. I just wasn't feeling well and I didn't want him to see me in pain. The next day, after I was taken off of the epidural and after I got up and walked around for the first time, my mil brought him in to see me and baby brother. It was a great visit and he seemed completely unphased by me sitting in the hospital bed.

AugustaBride04 · October 2011

I too worried about this exact same thing. H was the center of our universe for 3 years and I worried how it would affect her. In fact, even when I was in the hospital in labor, I was worried about Hailey. I was so emotional and hormonal I was crying bc I missed her so much and hoped she would understand. ( I went into labor in the middle of the night, so I didn't get to tell her goodbye or what was going on). I missed her so much and my labor was going so slow, that DH brought her to see me. I was SO happy. She was slightly freaked by all the stuff, but handled it great and I got to explain to her what was going on and what was going to happen. Then she came back the next day to see me and the baby. It was great. She was so happy and so excited. When she first met her sister, is a moment that I will remember forever.

Now, 3 months later is seems like sweet Avery has been with us forever. I wondered how I could love another child as much as I loved Hailey, but it just happens. There is plenty of love to go around.

UGAbride · October 2011

Oh wow, you are so close! Try not to worry about loving your new baby...your heart will grow *instantly* the moment they place your baby in your arms. Even now having 3, I love them absolutely equally, although they are SO different. I'll post something I read when I was pregnant with Ethan, it had me in a puddle of tears but made me feel better! I'd say the thing for me when I had my second and third babies was that I already knew what it was like to be someone's mother, so I loved them even sooner and harder than I did my first, if that's even possible.

Melliebugs · October 2011

What a cool bday! No words of wisdom just wanted to say I hope you have a smooth delivery and look forward to seeing baby pics!

K&P414 · October 2011

You'll do great and your heart will feel like it is going to burst with love. I have a feeling that as cool of a little girl I think D is that you'll be blown away at how awesome she'll be as a big sister.

My kids are 6 years apart and I didn't realize how much that would affect bringing home baby #2. Emma was old enough to "love" Tess right off the bat. She was able to understand her emotions better than I think little ones can so (at least from what I remember) jealousy, etc. wasn't as much of an issue for us.

tracigator · October 2011

I am so, so excited for you!!!! You've gotten some great advice and I agree with it. Definitely set aside time for DD to have alone time with both you and your DH. It really helps. I was an emotional mess for months before Noah was born because I really wasn't sure how I could love two boys when Benjamin was the center of my universe. It's true. Your heart grows in leaps and bounds. You are going to do great!!!

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