D.C. Area Babies

throwing stuff?

So, what do you do about your kid throwing stuff?  I mean, sometimes, I'll be playing with Sprout and he'll get angry* and throw whatever toy is closest at me.  And, homeboy is strong so often he throws hard.

I honestly don't know what to do.  I don't want to be saying "No!" all the time and redirecting doesn't seem to be appropriate (he's already thrown it) and I've tried ignoring but that doesn't seem right either.  I mean, he does this when I'm paying attention to him, so I don't think that he can be wanting my attention.

*He could get angry b/c of frustration of not being able to get a toy to do what he wants (like, if he's trying to put something big in a small hole) or because I won't let him play with the remote/run around with his cup/bang on the TV.

 

Re: throwing stuff?

  • Have you tried timeouts with him yet?  Or don't you want to go that route?
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  • IMHO, he's too young to discipline.  Small children throw toys.  Distract him, take the toy away, move him somewhere else and try a new activity.
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  • Throwing has been one of our big challenges. The other night DS turned an ordinary spoon into a javelin at the dinner table. We did redirection until around 18 months, then tried timeouts. Honestly, timeouts for DS didn't really catch on until he was closer to 2. We take the offending item away for its own "timeout" and redirect.

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  • hmmm, I would suggest daily beatings, but since that didn't work with Warner....lol, JUST KIDDING, no one call CPS on me :-)

    we went through this, too and at that age I think they are still just getting the concept of cause and effect. so even if you were to do a timeout, I don't think he'd really understand why.

    when he throws the toy, do you give it back to him? if so, from now on, just tell him "no throw" and then put the toy away where he can't get it. and if your reaction is pretty much the same each time (when possible, I know it's hard), then he'll start to get it. but it takes time, a lot of time...again, I know it's hard.

  • We're dealing with throwing, too. But he doesn't always do it because he's angry. Sometimes he throws things because he thinks it's fun. I just tell him "no throwing" and put the item away. The worst is when he throws things at the dog.

    It's kind of hard though, because sometimes throwing is ok, i.e. throwing a soft ball. How do you explain why it's ok to throw some things and not other things? I don't think a 14-month old is going to understand that.
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  • too young for time-outs, he's just learning cause and effect. Take it away when he throws it and say "no throwing," eventually (a few months or so...) it'll catch on. But at almost 3, DD still sometimes throws stuff.

     

  • Both my kids went through this.  I remember seeing them get frustrated and removing anything breakable or large from in front of them quickly to avoid the throwing.  Mostly it is distraction, I would tell them no throwing as well buit not react much to it.  They did grow out of it.
  • thanks ladies.  i'll try doing some of the things suggested here. 
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