Pregnant after IF

Does This Annoy Anyone Else?

Do people ask you "hows the baby, is he/she kicking"? (not health professionals, but family/friends). My MIL just asked me how he is and whether he's "kicking or sleeping today". I just told her he does both, just like babies on the outside. I mean she birthed two kids, how does she not know this? I know people mean well, but questions like this just fuel my anxiety about is he moving enough, is he doing ok in there, etc.

TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN :(
IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
Lap 7/21/10
IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!

 

James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!

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Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!

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Re: Does This Annoy Anyone Else?

  • 100% agree.
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  • I agree! I get annoyed by 'hows the baby?' ... Um, i dont know- he's still inside me! Why not ask how Im doing?
    Dx Anovulatory PCOS Clomid,Ovidrel,TI=BFN IUI#1-#3 Femara,Ovidrel=BFN IUI#4-Gonal F,Ovidrel=BFN IUI#5-Gonal F,Ovidrel= BFP!! Beta #1 11dpIUI=34, Beta #2=131,first u/s 3/14=1 perfect bug with a heartbeat! Anderson Phillip, Born 11/2/11 7lbs 10oz 21in. Image and video hosting by TinyPic Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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    I agree! I get annoyed by 'hows the baby?' ... Um, i dont know- he's still inside me! Why not ask how Im doing?

    I hate that question too! It's very weird and I never know how to answer without sounding like a biotch! 

    After TTC with IR PCOS:
    April 2011: Metformin 1500mg + Clomid 100mg + Ovidrel + Prometrium = BFP!
    Beta #1 at 14DPO: 197 Beta #2 at 18DPO: 1296
    At 40w6d, our Team Green surprise came by unplanned C-section and changed our lives forever!

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  • You are not alone! I get so annoyed by al these questions! Especially, "Is that normal? Is she comfortable" Ummmm, I hope it's normal and she's is comfortable...
    ::PAIF/SAIF Welcome::

    TTC since July 2008
    IUI 1,2,3 BFN
    IVF #1 C/P, FET 1,2,3 BFN
    IVF#2 BFP

    it's a girl!!

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  • imageMSaksa:
    I agree! I get annoyed by 'hows the baby?' ... Um, i dont know- he's still inside me! Why not ask how Im doing?

    Exactly!  That and I hate the "are you comfortable?"  Um..I'm almost 36 weeks pregnant--what do you think?  Its almost like they're inviting me to complain about my pregnancy, which I vowed to never do because I realize that its truly a miracle that I'm even experiencing it....

    TTC since April 2009 dx = PCOS; TTC History for DS - A FET miracle after 7 IUIs; 2 fresh transfers, and 1 other FET resulted in BFNs. Hoping and Praying for baby #2: Cycle 1 - FET; November 2012 BFN Next Steps - who knows? Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
  • Here's another one: when I've told people about my recent bp issues, two people have said "are you freaking out?". Um, well now I am since apparently you think I should be...

    TTC in 2008. Stage II/III endo, Hashimotos hypothyroid, low morph (3%).
    2 cycles Clomid/Ovidrel/TI/Crinone=BFN.
    IUI #1 - 4 Follistim/Ovidrel/IUI/Crinone = BFN.
    IVF #1 - Antagonist w/ ICSI 4/10. 17 retrieved, 5DT of 2, BFN :(
    IVF #2 - Long Lupron w/ ICSI 6/10. 15 retrieved, 3DT of 2, BFFN!!
    Lap 7/21/10
    IVF #3 - Clomid/Antagonist w/ ICSI 10/10. 14 retreived, 3DT of 3, BFP 10/20 but m/c. No HB 11/15/10 - D&C 11/17/10.
    FET - 2 blasts, 1 survived the thaw. Transfer 2/19. Beta #1 3/1 375, Beta #2 3/3 885, Beta #3 3/8 4261, Beta #4 3/11 9005. U/S 3/8 1 sac 1 yolk, U/S 3/16 1 heartbeat 114bpm!

     

    James born Oct. 24th 2011 via c-section at 38 weeks!

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    Surprise BFP - Jack born April 28, 2013 via VBAC after PTL at 33 1/2 weeks!

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  • I am to the point where people are asking me "If I feel like I am going to have the baby soon?" Ummm...I don't know. What's your definition of soon? I mean, I am 38 weeks pregnant. The baby will be here sometime in the next 3 weeks or it gets kicked out.  If you mean, am I having to today or tomorrow...I DON'T KNOW...Neither does my OB.
    After 2 years of TTC, our daughter was born on Oct 31, 2011!
    7lbs 13oz  20 inches long
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  • It annoys the crap out of me!!! I know I shouldn't be annoyed, they're just being concerned/interested. But, oh man, it kills me. I work with the sweetest lady who asks me EVERY morning if the baby is kicking... every. morning. Ugh.

    Whew, thanks for letting me vent a little ;)

    We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And HOPE does not dissappoint.
    Romans 5:3-5

    ~Matt and Jen~
    Married August 26, 2006
    TTC since June 2008
    Severe MFI
    IVF #1 Feb. 2011 = BFN
    IVF #2 (Long Lupron) May 2011 = BFP!!!
    Our sweet little girl, born January 26, 2012

    Time for #2!

    IVF #1 (Long Lupron) July 2013 = BFP!!!

    Beta #1 (8/1) 203! Beta #2 (8/8) 3,677! 1st u/s scheduled for 8/15!

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  • This! I don't complain about my pregnancy. EVER. Sometimes when I am at home and really uncomfortable, I will cry in front of DH. But I don't complain. And when people ask me how I am, I will always say fine. Even when my sacrum was out of place and I couldn't walk! Then, after saying fine, I would hear "well, that's great you are having such a good, comfortable pregnancy." I would love to say, no, I am not, but I am growing a human and going to be a mom, so that trumps everything else!!!
    Can't wait to meet our miracle this November!! BabyFruit Ticker Image and video hosting by TinyPic
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