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vigurl · October 2011

I feel like the last 24 hrs everything is getting my nerve ... I swear this is not mudd! I just got an email from my cousin asking me to ask my mom for a $10k loan so she can build a home.

I don't even know what to say to this.

My mom is going to be afraid to say no b/c its family but my mom can't really afford this as her cash is tied up in investments.

I am shocked that she wouldn't ask my mom her self.

PS this is my cuz from dad's side. My dad has been dead for 3 yrs. So this cousin is in no way related to my mom.

CarlaAndJames · October 2011

uh, no! Just email her back and tell her you aren't comfortable with being involved!

You're having a rough week! So sorry

Kymbirleigh · October 2011

Shoot, I'd have no trouble speaking for my mom and saying no for her! Shoot, I wish someone would give me $10K to build a home, but no way am I asking anyone for it! That's why DH and I are putting money back and trying not to touch it for at least a year.

bunnymama625 · October 2011

ug-- tell her you really don't want to get involved- crazy!

kmv68 · October 2011

I would email her back and say that you are not getting involved and I would add that you are certain your mother does not have the money to loan her.

Telly21182 · October 2011

She needs to be a grown up and ask herself - however, if someone came to me asking me to ask for $10K I'd speak on my mom's behalf - no way!

kimbo1216 · October 2011

CarlaAndJames:
uh, no! Just email her back and tell her you aren't comfortable with being involved!

You're having a rough week! So sorry

Ditto. I totally agree.

IdigDirt · October 2011

kmv68:
I would email her back and say that you are not getting involved and I would add that you are certain your mother does not have the money to loan her.

This! Wow, you need a break from all this crazy in the past day. Have a drink, mama, you deserve it!

MamaViking · October 2011

Telly21182:
She needs to be a grown up and ask herself - however, if someone came to me asking me to ask for $10K I'd speak on my mom's behalf - no way!

This exactly. This is rude on so many levels.

Courtney1741 · October 2011

Oh wow! You ARE having a rough week!! When it rains it pours I swear!! I like pp have said would speak up and tell my cousin that if she wanted to take on a grown up investment like a home she should behave like a grown up and ask for herself (And not put you in the middle!!!)

However, if you know your mom doesn't have the money and would be heart broken that she couldn't lend it (I know my mom would be!) I would also tell me cousin that.

So sorry you are in this situation (and the others!) Keep your head up!!

pammeelala · October 2011

Oh h3!! no! I would tell my cousin that if she needed the money, she needs to grow up and ask for herself but not to expect anything because she doesn't have that kind of extra money. Then I would warn my mom that it is coming. However, my momma would not appreciate me answering for her, and would have no problem telling someone no, blood relation or not.

Sazhrah · October 2011

So exactly why isn't she working to get the money herself? Or getting a loan from a bank? If she doesn't qualify with a bank no way in hell would I trust to lend her money out of my pocket.

Speak on behalf of your mom and tell her that under no circumstance would you ask that of your mother.

SarahP15 · October 2011

Wow, you are having quite a rough few days! I wouldn't feel comfortable getting involved either but I cannot believe a grown adult who wants to borrow a large sum of money like that doesn't even have the courage to ask herself! I'd tell her in so many words that if she can afford to buy a house, she can afford her own down payment and that your mother doesn't have that sum of money to lend her, nor would she. Geez. Some people!

vigurl · October 2011

I called hubby and he says the same thing you ladies said. I created a new post so that you all can know the back story. I am really torn up over this b/c I think this is going to end very badly and I don't want to loose the only family I have over this.

SarahP15 · October 2011

vigurl:
I called hubby and he says the same thing you ladies said. I created a new post so that you all can know the back story. I am really torn up over this b/c I think this is going to end very badly and I don't want to loose the only family I have over this.

If you would lose family over your mom not lending 10k to someone, then do you really need those people in your life?

PhotoCat82 · October 2011

CarlaAndJames:
uh, no! Just email her back and tell her you aren't comfortable with being involved!

You're having a rough week! So sorry

Ditto! How rude of her to even ask!

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