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s/o on restrictions after c/s

Pelusa214Pelusa214 member
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This will be my 1st c/s, and I will also ask my dr. at my next appointment, but I kind-of need to know soon, so I'm asking you ladies who have experience:

We were invited to the wedding of an old friend exactly 2 weeks after my likely c/s date (I don't have a solid date, but they told me when it would probably be).  The wedding is about 2 hours away.

My inclination is to (sadly) respond "no" to the wedding.  I'm thinking 4 hours in the car in 1 day won't be good for me 2 weeks after a c/s, and I can't imagine I'll be able to do much at the wedding.  I'll have to leave my 2-week old (and my 3 y/o) with either mom or MIL, and will certainly have to pump at least once during the wedding.

As much as I'd love to go, I'm thinking it will be a bad decision.  Am I way off-base?  The RSVP date is Nov. 1.  I figured I will say no, and then if I'm feeling up to it, just go to the ceremony & not the reception.  WDYT?

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  • good2bewoodgood2bewood member

    Everybody (and their recovery time) is different. It has been exactly two weeks after my C/S and although I wouldn't want to be in a car for 4 hours...physically, I think I am totally up for it. I've been pretty good since a week and a half.

     

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  • kls621kls621

    My situation is similar (but also very different). My baby sister is getting married 10 days after my scheduled c/s (this will be my 2nd). I am supposed to stand as matron of honor (if I am feeling up to it). My 21 month old DS is the ring bearer and the wedding is 2 hours away.

    Our plan is to drive up for the rehearsal and then we are staying 2 nights in a hotel and will drive home on Sunday.

    As the OP stated, each recovery is different. Maybe you should call your friend and tell them the situation, see if they want you to give a definite answer now or play it by ear and see how you feel. Honestly, I would be more concerned about leaving my 2 week old, than how I was feeling, but that is just me. GL! Hope your recovery is smooth and easy!

     

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  • Carebear517Carebear517
    That sounds miserable and I had a really good, easy recovery. 
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  • disbride061103disbride061103 member
    I had insanely easy recoveries.  I had a birthday party for my older son 9 days after DS2 was born.  I was on my feet for a good 5 or 6 hours that day and I was fine.  That being said, it's hard to say how you will do with your recovery.  And personally for me, I wouldn't want to leave my newborn for what I assume will be 6 to 8 hours when he is 2 weeks old. 
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  • homedivahomediva member
    I had  a great recovery but that sounds like a lot to me...personally I would RSVP no, to be honest! Is there any way you can RSVP one way but let her know that you can confirm after the birth, if she is OK with that? Caterers don't usually really need their final numbers til a couple days before the event, if that makes a difference!
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  • neya28neya28
    I personally wouldn't go. I was nowhere near back to normal by 2 weeks out. If it were 4 weeks post op I'd consider it for a  reaaaaaaally good friend but 2 weeks def not.
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  • magdalina.hmagdalina.h member
    I would physically be up for it, but I would not want to leave my 2 week old. I wouldn't want to be that far away from him.
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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    I wouldn't go mostly b/c of having an infant at home and not getting any sleep.  The c/s recovery would be a non-issue for me.  By 2 weeks I'm usually feeling ok and everything is closed up.  But, you never know.  Probably best to say no if there's a chance you could be a no show. 
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  • toriwctoriwc member

    imageshouldbworkin:
    I wouldn't go mostly b/c of having an infant at home and not getting any sleep.  The c/s recovery would be a non-issue for me.  By 2 weeks I'm usually feeling ok and everything is closed up.  But, you never know.  Probably best to say no if there's a chance you could be a no show. 

    I agree with this.  I could have physically done it at exactly two weeks, no problem.  But the tiredness and child care situation is what would make me decline.

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  • Pelusa214Pelusa214 member

    Ok, ladies...thank you so much for the input!

    I think I'm going to just explain the situation, and say that I won't come to the reception, but will go to the ceremony if I'm feeling well enough.

    I know that 2 weeks after my vaginal birth, I was in NO WAY up to going to a wedding.  Granted, it was a miserable delivery and terrible recovery, but I'd hate to have them pay for 2 meals & then have me cancel at the last minute.  Plus, you're right, I really don't want to leave my 2 week old baby for what will probably be 12+hours.  Thanks again!

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  • capuletcapulet member
    I am with the PPs - physically I would have been fine (I did a 3-hr trip each way for a weekend at 9 days postpartum, which was no picnic but was manageable), but I would not leave a newborn that long.  But is there any way you can bring your LO to the wedding?  I don't know if it's that kind of party, but my MOH had her 11-day-old at my wedding, so if it were me and if I could bring my baby I would go (if it was appropriate for the kind of wedding and okay with the couple, obviously).
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  • Corey-chickCorey-chick
    Well, I felt pretty good at 2 weeks, but you can't predict how it will go. I would skip the wedding. If you chance a yes and then can't make it you will be costing the bride and groom money by not showing. I know that's kind of a lame reason, but they will probably have already paid for food counting on you being there. I guess I'm still a little bitter about the 7 people that rsvp'd yes to my wedding and didn't show costing me $40 a pop. Anyway, hope it works out for you.
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  • Pelusa214Pelusa214 member

    imageCorey-chick:
    Well, I felt pretty good at 2 weeks, but you can't predict how it will go. I would skip the wedding. If you chance a yes and then can't make it you will be costing the bride and groom money by not showing. I know that's kind of a lame reason, but they will probably have already paid for food counting on you being there. I guess I'm still a little bitter about the 7 people that rsvp'd yes to my wedding and didn't show costing me $40 a pop. Anyway, hope it works out for you.

    I don't think that's a lame reason, at all...that's exactly why I decided to say no.  If I say yes & I don't feel good enough or don't want to leave my baby, I'm going to force myself to go because they paid for me & DH.  And I'm fairly sure they're paying well over $100 a head, so I'll just take the baby to the ceremony if I feel up to it, to show my support & congratulations, and leave the partying for another day :-)

    Thanks!

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