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Um, because I said "no", that's why?
We went to the in-laws tonight for a belated birthday dinner for MH. When MIL cleared the table, she picked up the salad bowl to take it away. Inside the salad bowl: spinach, mandarin oranges, pineapple chunks, and the syrup from the oranges & pineapples. LO seemed pretty interested in the bowl. MIL dipped her finger into the bowl, held it towards LO & said "maybe you can have some juice? Is that ok with mommy...?" I said no, no juice (& didn't bother pointing out that what she wanted to give LO wasn't really juice). MIL dropped her arm to her side, looked at MH and incredulously said "why not?" MH told her that we're not doing juice yet & left it at that.
Not trying to imply that it's a big deal, no harm no foul. I'm not mad, just a little annoyed that MIL would ask me if LO could have "juice", but then when I said no she went to MH for an explanation.
She wanted to give LO a taste of ice cream cake & when I told her no she said "aw, mommy said no but we'll see the next time grandma watches you." Um, lady? You're inching towards the bottom of the babysitting list at break-neck speed. Keep it up.
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Re: Um, because I said "no", that's why?
It's annoying but par for the course I reckon. My dad, whom I am incredibly close to, has been calling me crazy since DS was born since he disapproves of what I say no to.
And the fact that she wanted to feed it off her fingers is super gross(though I'm known around here for being a bit of a germaphobe).
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I also get it from my mom (we're very close, too). She keeps pushing Karo syrup on me. I said LO was starting water in a sippy cup & her response was "you know you'll have to put some Karo syrup in there to get her to take it, right?" I guess I had a crazy look on my face because she said "I know what I'm doing, I raised 6 kids & you all turned out ok."
I remember Karo syrup & water--I remember my brothers getting it, and I remember making up a few of those bottles for them.
I get it from my middle sister, too. She has 2 kids. Whenever I say no to something or that I'm not doing something, she says "oh, you're one of THOSE moms."
My issue is that your LO is only 6 months old (from your ticker). Some people don't even start their children on solids until that age. So syrupy juice for an infant... I don't like that.
Thankfully my MIL always followed my wishes re: food. But I was pretty easygoing. I just wish I had introduced solids sooner because DS is a picky eater now at 2.
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That's nuts! Maybe I got lucky, both sets of parents listen when we set boundaries, especially about food. MIL will call me if the kids try and con her for something she's sure we've said no to. Busted kids.
Gotta love it when people think you're nuts for raising your kids your way!
My MIL fully expected me to wean my LO and start juice in a bottle before SIX WEEKS!!! *faints*
plus "some babies need food in their tummies" - like mashed potatoes and soft food "like that". At 4 weeks she suggested that. Because her kids (my DH and SIL) "needed" that. *eye roll* Ok crazy lady.
She will NEVER BABYSIT! Ever.
So crazy! I asked my grandma about when they started foods once. She looked at me funny and said, well, the kids were attached to the boob. Bottles were expensive! So, they didn't need food (I expected duh). She started her kids on rice cereal at 4-6 months.
ETA: When she started to lose it, she'd try and feed ice cream and whipping cream to the kids, sometimes at 6 weeks old.