When do you give Hostess gift?

HaleyCinTX · October 2011

I am sure this has been asked before, but I am being lazy and not searching on the boards...

When is the appropriate time to give your hostess their gift? Do you do it privately, before/during the shower away from the guests? Or can you give it to them right after you open your gifts, in front of everyone?

I just don't want to embarras them, or seem rude by not giving it to them at the correct time.

Thanks for the feedback!

weddingbells2010 · October 2011

My hosts came back to my house after the shower to help bring the gifts in. I gave them their gifts then. I wouldn't do it at the party, of course, or if other people who you are not giving a gift to are present (I'm sure they wouldn't expect one if they didn't host, but it's still awkward to stand there while others are giving and exchanging gifts and you're just sort of watching).

There's no "requirement" on giving a hostess gift, so doing one at all is thoughtful and would be appreciated even if you did it days later.

willows mama · October 2011

I gave my hostesses their gifts after the rest of the guests had left. It was just them, my MIL, MIL's mom, and I. In the past, I have been given gifts both before and after, but not in front of the rest of the guests.