The post about the name stealing reminded me of this and it annoys me a little.
The name we chose for our baby girl is Emmalyn Alexa....
My husband has a cousin named Emma (20 yrs old) and I have a cousin named Emma (16 yrs old). She is not named after either one and when both of them found out the name they didnt assume it was after them. BUT my MIL told DH we had to chose a different name cuz its too close to his cousin. My husband actually tried to get me to change the name for a couple days and I wouldn't budge. Anyways, now his mom says she is gonna call her Alexa cause Emmalyn is too close to Emma.
REALLY? Ugh.... Is it ok for this to frustrate me?
Re: Name vent
I don't get this. My cousin gave his daughter the same name as me (not after me). It's really not all that confusing, since we're 22 years apart--most extended family members just call her by her first and middle names.
The names are different enough not to be confusing. And even if they were the same, it's easy enough to figure out. Your MIL needs to stop throwing a temper tantrum that's she's not getting her way. Good luck!
In love with Emma or Emmalynn. We know a very obnoxious little girl named Emma, so DH doesn't want to use anything like that. Which totally disappoints me. But if they are cousins and it's a different name (because Emmalynn IS different than Emma), who cares. MIL is being way too up in your business. It would frustrate me too.
I get where she is coming from, but Emmalynn is Emmalynn and Emma is Emma. You don't have to nickname her Emma if you don't want. MIL will just have to get over it. It is you and your DH's opinion what you name your baby.
MIL needs to STFU...it's not her child, nor her decision to make with the name.
Your husband needs to grow some balls and stand up to his mother and tell her to back off.
i have seen several posts here on the bump where a MIL or other relative says something like, "i don't like the name you picked, i'm going to call your child ____"
seriously?
look, relative, you don't just get to decide what my kid's name is!
tell her, "you will call my child by her given name so she is not confused all the time."
(you might throw in a "b!tch" at the end if you're feelin' froggy)
Yes, you have every right to be frustrated. That said, you need to stand your ground on what you want your daughter to be called. When my mom had my youngest brother Andrew, my grandma kept calling him Andy. My mom was upfront with her and said her and my father never intended for him to be an Andy. Drew or Andrew...that's it. I swear my grandma just did it to piss off my mom (this was my dad's mom), but eventually my brother told her his name was Andrew and she stopped.
Good luck!
First- smack your husband upside the head for trying to get you to change the name cause his mom doesn't like it.
Second- politely, but firmly, remind your MIL that she had her chance to name her kid/s so she has no say in what your baby will be named... or called for that matter. Also tell her in no uncertain terms that your LO will be called by her first name, not her middle name. If she doesn't comply you will have no other choice but to call her (MIL) by her middle name- or first name if she goes by her middle. It'll give her a small taste of her own medicine and she probably won't like it.
And yes you have every right to be frustrated.
Your MIL is being obnoxious. I would let MIL know that Emmalyn is her name and that's what she'll call her if she expects you to bring her over. Start calling MIL by something other than her name and see how she likes it.
Growing up, I had a cousin my age with the same name. We even had the same initials. It never bothered us. The only time there was an issue was when xmas presents weren't clearly labeled.
LURKING: My friend's mom asked on FB what the names would be and so I posted them, when MIL came back and said "I sure wish the boy would be Patrick James." It will be Kaiden James. When her oldest son was having another boy they were naming him Gabriel and she would NOT shut up about how she was going to call him Patrick, blah, blah. She better not call my son something that is not anywhere near his name.
Also, I've ALWAYS loved Emmaline. It's our 2nd daughter name choice.
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