Anyone else already stressing about holidays?
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Last Christmas DH and I said that we would go away over Christmas if I wasn't pregnant by the holiday. We never thought it would come to this. Tada! Here is is and there will be no chance since we are taking a few months break as we switch REs.
We have already gotten guilt from both sets of parents for Thanksgiving. We should be going with DH's family, but they have a number of oops children and often joke that we would be pregnant if we weren't married and just went away fort he weekend. I don't think I could handle it. My parents keep saying that this is probably the last Thanksgiving that my grandparents (89 & 87) will host and that I can't miss it.
Yesterday we were at my parents talking about taking a trip for Christmas. My mother thought it was just around Christmas, but we are talking about Christmas Eve and Christmas Day and basically forget the holiday exists. She flipped and was not happy at all that we were deciding to go away and not see anyone on Christmas.
Am I the only who is already stressing about the coming holiday season? I am just dreading it and wish I could skip it all together.
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Re: Anyone else already stressing about holidays?
Nope, definitely not. I'm dreading Christmas. I think I can put up with Thanksgiving if we just go to my MIL's, but I really don't think I can do Christmas this year and I asked Mr. Daisies not to make me do it. It turns out he's dreading it too.
Happy holidays my @ss.
DH and I were just discussing this last night. This is our first IVF and we will find out if we were successful or not a couple of weeks before Christmas. Either it will be a fantastic Christmas or we will be devastated and will be our worst Holiday season since IF.
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Yeah... holidays really aren't the same. We are debating what we will do this year, too. I've found some cheap flights that I'd love to take advantage of, especially since traveling always helps to literally get away.
It's so difficult to be around family and those with expectations. People don't typically understand how painful it can be with tons of children running about and older people giving the nudge or asking when children will be a topic. Ugh. I don't look forward to it.
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Looks like we all {stressfully} agree. So glad you brought this up. DH have spoken about it several times already and he and I agree that we are running for the hills for the holidays! I just can't handle specifically this holiday season surrounded by all smiles and giggles and stories of who is getting what for what kid. I know I just won't be able to muster the energy. Love my family dearly, but I am learning how to say no to functions that only hurt.
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I brought up the idea of going away for Christmas and DH won't hear of it. His parents are 82 and 88 so you never know when the last one with them will be so I can understand his position. I also mentioned to my mom how DH said no to going away over the holidays and she would have been upset too. I am looking at going away the week or so before Christmas...
DH doesn't get that I don't want to celebrate the holidays..
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Nope, you are definitely not the only one stressing about the holidays!! Actually my DH is having his mTese on 11/22 so we are pretty happy about that taking care of thanksgiving!! He could have had it the week before but this works out better with his work and getting us out of the holiday......We too are trying to go on a vacation during x-mas.... it just seems to me that no one understands if they think we are just sitting home by ourselves. But if we tell them how stressed out we are and we just need to escape that then its ok.
My family doesnt do anything for the holidays ever so its no big deal with them. But my IL's on the other hand go a little nuts. We have 5 nieces and nephews under the age of 3 and will be having another niece arriving in the beginning of December. 3 of the babies are triplets so it gets crazy. My MIL is absolutely ridiculous with the presents for the babies.... mountains of them and last year they made all the babies who were like 7 months old at the time attempt to open EVERY gift. Also she asked us to come over an hour early so that way we could eat separate and then hold the babies while the rest of the family ate together.... Nice.... This was before we found out our dx but it still was very very difficult..... I just do not see what we would even do if with ourselves if we went there. They make us feel like the holidays only exist for people with babies.
Yah, I am not looking forward to it either. I want to host Thanksgiving. Christmas will be at my SIL's since she will be on bed rest (she is PG w/twins and is over 40 so her doc is being cautious).
It is going to be an interesting holiday season as my MIL is driving us BSC already.
::raises hand:: i am so there with you. i told dh i would skip the holidays if i wasnt pg. i am gonna hold strong to it too. i feel like i get guilted into going, ya know.
its too hard to face all the pg relatives i have. we just had a family night last night and i could barely join the baby name conversation. my sil is finding out her baby's gender today and said she would break down crying if she has a girl. Not someone i can be around..
sorry it didnt happen yet. i hope you get to have a nice getaway with your hubby
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I have been really dreading the month of November, as my EDD was right after Thanksgiving. So this year's holiday season is not going to be good for me. Just thinking about it gets me all upset.
I haven't said anything to Dh yet, not sure how to handle this situation this year.
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Helping strangers in need is about the only thing I can think of that might make me enjoy the days. Being around family sure as heck ain't gonna do it, and we cannot afford to go away. We'll see if DH puts up a fight...
Me: 36, DH: 42
Dx: DOR and MFI
DH: low count + very low motility; hormones all normal; Sperm DNA Frag. test = poor to fair; male karyotyping normal
Me: FSH 13.4 + AMH 0.26 + hypothyroidism; Scratch the hypothyrodism (?); Blood clotting and immune panel all negative; endometrial biopsy normal
IVF #1 (MDLF - Jul/Aug 2011): BFN (9R, 5M, 3F with ICSI, 3dt of 1 10-cell grade 2, no frosties)
IVF #2 (EP-antagonist - Sep/Oct 2011): BFN (6R, 4M, 3F w/ ICSI, 3dt of 1 6-cell, 1 7-cell, grade 4s, no frosties)
DE IVF #1 (shared cycle - June 2012): c/p (6R, 6F w/ICSI, 3dt 1 8-cell grade A- and 1 7-cell grade A-; no frosties)
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This for me too except I will be finding out right before Thanksgiving. IVF#1 will make or break this holiday season for me.
Yes!! I am. I don't know how I will handle the holidays if this cycle fails.
DH and my dad will be out of state on a hunting trip for Thanksgiving, so I'll be stuck going to my Grandma's with my mom.
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YES!! My miscarriage was just before Thanksgiving last year, so we didn't celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas at all! We didn't even buy presents/put up a tree, as I couldn't handle being in a mall or seeing anyone being joyful. We tried to go to NYC for a weekend, but I ended up locking myself in the bathroom for hours while I sobbed.
This year, I'm not sure I can make my family understand why I'd want to skip the holidays again. If IVF 1.2 doesn't work, I think we might try to plan a trip. We went to Puerto Rico for Christmas one year...it was AWESOME. Maybe something a little less extravagant, but just as fun.
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We're not going anywhere for Thanksgiving because I have to work, and I have to say that I'm glad. If I have to listen to my cousin or my other cousin's wife complain that they want another child and that they don't feel like they should have to wait in order to keep their finances under control, I'll chokeabitch.
Also, I'm contemplating volunteering to work Christmas just so that I don't have to deal with all of the above plus the family drama that goes along with Christmas at my parents'.
The holidays stress me out every year. DH's parents are divorced, so it's really tricky trying to fit in both his parents and my famiy on Thansgiving and Christmas. And his mom is super weird . . . she'll come to a holiday dinner with my family if it is at my house, but if my parents or my brother hosts it, she won't come. Come on!?!?
Like the rest of you, I'm not looking forward to the holidays this year. Every year I think that this will be the year I can announce our news, oh what a wonderful x-mas present to give our parents . . . but every year I'm in the same boat, with no announcement.
If all goes as planned, I'll be getting my IVF # 3 results just before Thanksgiving. This is my last IVF covered by insurance. If this one fails, I'm not sure how I am going to be able to function over the holidays. I try to stay positive, but its hard with so many BFNs!
Wouldn't it be nice if we could all just take an IF cruise over Christmas . . . all IFers . . . no kids . . . no annoying families . . . well I can dream can't I.
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