Grrrrrrrr!

Dewey12 · October 2011

One of my teen voluteers just came in with her mom. The mom congratulated me on the pregnancy and then started asking me questions. I ended up telling her we'll be finding out the sex in 18 days. The mom says to me, "you don't need to know the sex." Ummm. Yes I do. She then told me again that I didn't and she never knew. "There are so few surprises in this world," she said. Well, this baby was one helluva surprise. That was enough for me.

This was the first time a person has ever tried to make me feel guilty for something I wanted!!! Ugh. I wanted to yell at her.

gdizzle · October 2011

DH's step-father said the same thing to me! He was like "You want to know? Really? That's too bad...." .........Wth??!?!

Then he went off on a rant about how it won't hurt the kid to smack him if he's misbehaving and that many people these days are not disciplining their children correctly. I zoned out pretty quickly during that rant!

Lanatir · October 2011

But... It's a surprise anytime you find out... It's not like you're going to see a penis and it morphs into a vagina in the next 20ish weeks... Being unsure if baby doesn't cooperate is one thing, but when it's definite... Well...

chrisandchris06 · October 2011

God I hate that. I could never imagine telling someone that. One of my bridesmaids that I fell out of touch with (read: she dropped me from facebook with no explanation) texted me congrats then texted me all this boosh!t about the "few surprises in life" crap, I told her I would keep the sex a surprise from only her then LOL

Dewey12 · October 2011

gdizzle:

DH's step-father said the same thing to me? He was like "You want to know? Really? That's too bad...." .........Wth??!?!

I was getting really mad. I even started to explain to her that we have BF's son, so I need to know the sex so I can figure out if we're going to split his room in 2 or create a totally different room by splitting our dining room in 2. Then I thought, "Why are you telling this person? She doesn't need to know."

Sigh. I just want to go home.

adorkablechick · October 2011

Lanatir:
But... It's a surprise anytime you find out... It's not like you're going to see a penis and it morphs into a vagina in the next 20ish weeks... Being unsure if baby doesn't cooperate is one thing, but when it's definite... Well...

This is exactly how I feel! I was just as surprised to find out LO was a girl when I found out at an early scan as I would have been on Baby's birthday (although granted, it might have been less emotionally-charged).

And this way, I get the surprise of finding out the sex of my baby AND I can get everything ready for her prior to her arrival without having to go gender-neutral (which I personally hate).

Dewey12 · October 2011

Lanatir:

But... It's a surprise anytime you find out... It's not like you're going to see a penis and it morphs into a vagina in the next 20ish weeks... Being unsure if baby doesn't cooperate is one thing, but when it's definite... Well...

You are hysterical!!!

katm44 · October 2011

Ugh! I hate that! If you don't want to find out the sex of your baby, that's totally fine. But don't freaking tell me that I shouldn't! I had someone tell me, "Oh, you can't find out! It's just not as exciting!" Guess what? I'm pretty excited to find out on Monday and I'm pretty sure I'll be excited when I find out. There are still plenty of things that I will not know about my baby (what he/she looks like, their personality, etc.) that I will get to be "surprised" with after they are born.

betsy1486 · October 2011

I'm getting sh!t for not finding out. So let me tell you, none of us will ever win. Someone will always be unhappy with how we raise our poor children.

mommynpink · October 2011

betsy1486:
I'm getting sh!t for not finding out. So let me tell you, none of us will ever win. Someone will always be unhappy with how we raise our poor children.

I get crap too. I found out with the first two and this time we are going to wait just because we want too. I don't understand why people need to say crap either way. Like it matters to you random stranger!

questionbox23 · October 2011

I feel sorry for the poor teen. I bet mama is one controlling and overbearing parent!

Mattel · October 2011

Most of my patients are at least 50, and most are surprised I wanted to know the sex of the baby. They use the same "there are so few surprises in life" reasoning, but I always tell them the same (and the truth)... "I don't like suprises." Plus, to me seeing the baby and who she looks like and what her little personality will be is enough of a surprise for me. Way to hold your ground, Dewey.

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