Is it because I've already had one child?

kljustice07 · October 2011

I had my first child in 09 and had her by C-section. Everything went smoothly and exactly as it should. I am now 24 weeks pregnant with my 2nd and am so uncomfortable and occasionally in pain. When I was pregnant with my daughter I didn't feel like this until the end of my pregnancy. My belly hurts, my back hurts, my feet feel like they could fall off by the end of the day. Granted this time around I'm chasing a toddler around 24/7 but I just feel so tired and don't think I should be feeling like this so early. Has anyone else felt like pregnancy is harder on your body after already having a baby? I'm trying to slow down a little bit but I'm one of those stubborn women that doesn't like to admit I hurt and need a break. Haha, that's definitely about to change though

mrex522 · October 2011

My son was born in 09 also. It is definitely the toddler chasing making us so tired. I had more energy with the last one and I was working a full time job then. Now I stay at home and it is much harder.

JhawkCE · October 2011

I'm with you. I am still exercising 5-6 times a week and my hips, pelvis and back are feeling the pain on a daily basis. I remember being uncomfortable with the first, but this seems egregious.

balihaigirl · October 2011

I feel the same way. My RLP is so severe already and my back is killing me!!

My OB mentioned that in subsequent pregnancies your body will release the hormone relaxin a lot sooner than it does in the first pregnancy, which can cause pain sooner. Also your uterus sometimes will stretch out a lot sooner, which causes more pain.

I've been considering going to see a chiropractor ... it helped a ton during the end of my last pregnancy. Have you thought about doing something like that?

Hang in there!!

AliW220 · October 2011

I can't completely relate because this is my first pregnancy. BUT... I am also chasing around a toddler all day (my SO has a very active 2yo son), and I'm feeling the same aches and pains as you are. Before getting pregnant, I was always go-go-go, getting a million things done all day long. And it's been very frustrating to have to slow down, but if I don't I pay for it the next day by being super sore and tired.

On days that I have the motivation to clean the entire house, while baking, doing laundry and whatever else needs to get done (my typical weekend pre-pg, I was such a busy body!!!), I have found that wearing my stretchy support belt really helps by belly and back. That thing is a life saver.

mmkerr · October 2011

mrex522:
My son was born in 09 also. It is definitely the toddler chasing making us so tired. I had more energy with the last one and I was working a full time job then. Now I stay at home and it is much harder.

All of this!

jennyenny323 · October 2011

I had my first in May of 09 and I'm now pregnant with my third (I'm obviously crazy)! My first pregnancy was a breeze, no pains, nada. The second time around I had really bad back pain somewhere around 20ish weeks. I ended up seeing a chiropractor who specializes in prenatal care which helped tremendously. I definitely recommend it. This time around the aches and pains haven't come on too strong yet, but my hips do get sore by the end of the day at work.

I find that the better I eat and the more water I drink makes me have a lot more energy. I just started aiming for about 70+ ounces of water per day and it's made a world of difference in my energy levels. Hasn't really helped with the hip pain though Wink

KRISTA555 · October 2011

Yep. I feel like I'm 30 weeks.

lesleyn21 · October 2011

I just want to add in here that this is my first and I am so much more tired then I should be!! The smallest tasks make me dead tired and my body hurt. I teach but am only subbing this year and one day of class makes me tired for days!! I cant imagine a second pregnancy and a toddler running round on top of this!

kljustice07 · October 2011

I'm sorry that everyone else is experiencing this but at the same time I'm so happy that I'm not the only one feeling this way! I've been thinking about getting some sort of belly support brace. Someone mentioned they loved theirs. Can you recommend yours? Thanks so much for the advice and suggestions! I'm definitely going to try some of them out!

MommyOfTwo1012 · October 2011

My son was born in 2011, he's about 1 1/2 now. I'm only 17 weeks and my back had been killing me the past few weeks already lol. My feet haven't been that bad but I'm not really chasing my son around lol, he's more of just a sit a play type. It's def because you have already had 1. We have to suck it up though lol, it's only going to get worse lol.

NiniJ55 · October 2011

I don't think it has anything to do with you already having one child -- could be though becuase I'm so much more tired this time around since I'm also running after DS -- and he wakes up around 5am, ect...

Each pregnancy is different and that's they way I look at things. I threw-up more during the first trimester last time - but this time I was nauseous all day everyday for a long time. Heartburn just as bad and pains/ aches just as bad as last time.

You are not alone, sista Feel better!

jason&robin · October 2011

yes, it gets harder for me each time.

Mama Jan · October 2011

In my exeperience, it really gets harder every time. I had DS1 in '08 and it was super easy. I remember complaining about my pregnancy with DS2 (my hips hurt, more painful, etc). This time around? I told DH last night that if it was just me and my job, I'd be begging my ob to put me on bedrest. I am in constant pain, it's so hard to move, it's really really hard and for the first time I don't think I want to go through this again.

I don't know if it's that we're older each time or our bodies just take it harder? I've been feeling this awful since first trimester and I remember saying then that it was way too early to feel that bad. I can't stand to think about 3 more months of this...

rcanales · October 2011

I had my first in 05 and was in my early 20's. I worked, went to school full time and had a busy social life. Energy-wise I thought pregnancy was a breeze. Not this time! I work from home and my son is in kinder, yet I am exhausted and achy all the time. I feel so old! I talked to my OB and told him where I was having pain and he said it was completely normal. Ha, so not what I wanted to hear!

shaadi · October 2011

My first was born in 2008 and with my 2nd pregnancy I felt exactly like you, even though my toddler was in daycare so I was not chasing him all the time. My midwife told me that with subsequent pregnancies your muscle are more distended, not as tight as before having children (your body rarely recover 100% to your pre-pregnancy state), so everything seems a little bit harder. I was hurting all the time. A pregnancy belt helped me with my back and things seemed better in the 3rd trimester.

However, I have to say that with my 3rd pregnancy things are not the same and this feels more similar to my 1st pregnancy. I don't ache as much.

So I guess it is very true that "every pregnancy is different".

Good luck!

ghdst1 · October 2011

I feel your pain!! My son was born Aug 09 and I am exhausted. I work full time plus caring for him at home (even with DH's help) is making me feel much more tired and sore than last time. I feel bigger, am more tired, and having more pains earlier on than I remember with my last pregnancy. Oh the joys of having more kids!!

ani25 · October 2011

mrex522:
My son was born in 09 also. It is definitely the toddler chasing making us so tired. I had more energy with the last one and I was working a full time job then. Now I stay at home and it is much harder.

This is exactly how I feel! I am always picking up after my daughter so yes I am way more tired!

TheOriginalSP · October 2011

This is my third child and I'm aleady having more aches and pains this go around. But I chalk it up to have two kids hanging on me at all times! When I go to bed at night my back just kills me!!!

kljustice07 · October 2011

Thanks again for all the comments! I guess we all just have to keep our eyes on the "prize" when all of this is done and keep in mind that our bodies are made to carry a baby for 9 months and birth kids. We can do it!

devious1031 · October 2011

It's more one of those "every pregnancy is diff" things. Get off your feet for a bit and get some rest.

Jessimurph · October 2011

mrex522:
My son was born in 09 also. It is definitely the toddler chasing making us so tired. I had more energy with the last one and I was working a full time job then. Now I stay at home and it is much harder.

this exactly...although i have a daughter

clarks415 · October 2011

My son was born in 07 and I def feel more uncomfortable this time. I thought maybe its bc I am older now (29). lol

almostanO · October 2011

i feel like I have many more pregnancy pains this time around. I had zero aches,cramps, braxton hicks, etc with DS. Now I have had everything and I am only 1/2 way there.

fool4babe · October 2011

I had my DD in '02 and it was a breeze after the 3 months of awful all day sickness. No other bad symptoms at all. This one, my second, I have had EVERY awful symptom to the extreme! I can't imagine how I'll feel at the end. But I am also 9 years older this time- 36 years old.

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