Hi everyone,
For all of you that read my worst DH story. I really wasn't that mad at him. I just hate to see DS get hurt. But thats not who this story is about.
If you read my post "This really bothers me" Then you have a little background on my parents and how they wouldn't come to Juniors birthday party bc of money issues on how they bought an expensive camera. Well this time there's more... My mother sent me a text the yesterday morning and said they drove all the way from southern OK to Kansas City, MO to watch WWE wrestling and was gloating about how great the pictures you took were. So what is everyone's response to this? I mean I realize that we are much farther away, but they have a Dodge 2500 Diesel so it is not easy on gas mileage... BUT WTF?
Re: another thing that bothers me
I guess I don't really see how they spend their money is your issue? My inlaws have only met my kids when we paid for my mil to fly out here twice. They don't send them anything, including b.day/xmas gifts, but that is their choice not mine.
I am sorry they didn't make the decision to come out for his b.day.
You're going to have to learn to let it go. It's their loss - and I know it's frustrating that your child loses out on a set of grandparents but ultimately are they people you want ingrained in your life - setting examples for your children?
You can't change people - only your reaction to them. Just let everything they're doing slide. Your life will be better for it.
My mother refuses to come to any of DS's futher birthdays because she doesn't like MIL so I said, her loss. I won't choose, they are both invited and they can both come or not come.
Her reason for not liking MIL: (in addition to year of jealousy) At DS's first birthday my mom gave him a snow suit: like a 1 piece snow suit for his birthday. MIL said, "probably won't get much use out of that out here, will you". Sure she shouldn't have said it in front of them, but it's not like she said it's the worst gift ever, just an honest comment. And what 1 year old wants to play with a snow suit.
Your parents might be sorry some day they are making the decisions they are but the other girls are right: You can't change them so moving on is probably the only option.
I guess how they are spending their money is not my issue. It just bothers me bc every day my mother text me (she won't call) and complains about their money issues and I just want to explain my view on it. I guess it just bothers me bc my mother used to be there for me all the time until she got with my SD.
Thanks for the advice everyone. You all are right I should just forget it and quit let it eat me up. She also complains about when I talk about all the stuff that MIL gets DS when they were visiting. She has only met MIL twice and she won't even give them a chance to like them.