Disclosing Baby Name and Why/Not

lorist202 · October 2011

I was team green and had names for each. Neither was disclosed except to the grandparents. Mostly because DH would have made me crazy allowing outside input....

Do you disclose the name you have chosen or are contemplating? Why or why not?

soldiersgirl78 · October 2011

Only my mother knew. I didn't want everyone's unsolicited opinions, but mostly because it was hella fun keeping everyone guessing and dying to know.

MrsWindyCity · October 2011

We were team green also, and did not disclose to anyone. It was a combo of not really wanting any (negative) feedback and wanting them to be surprised.

salt78 · October 2011

We are disclosing once we find out the sex. Mostly because I want to be able to refer to the baby by name around people. I'm totally in love with both names, so people can have as many opinions as they want. It won't change anything.

Smootchy · October 2011

We told we were team blue but kept the name a secret. Didn't care to hear what anyone had to say, good or bad. This time around I'm not sure 100% I care. The names we have are family names, one after my grandmother and the other after my dad/FIL

Under.the.Rose · October 2011

Last time we didn't because we were debating back and forth on the name until he was born and we also wanted it to be a surprise. This time, we've basically decided (at least on the first names) so we don't have any problems sharing. We're very set on the names we picked and don't really care if we get any negative comments. It's not like we picked crazy names anyway.

abba916 · October 2011

we disclosed the gender with each but not the names although it doesnt deter my MIL or anyone else from asking me EVERY. TIME. she sees me if the baby has a name and I tell her yes he does and you will find out when he's born...

HappyMrsK · October 2011

I don't plan on disclosing the name until H and I are 100% certain of the name, and if that happens before the baby is born it probably won't be until near the end of the pregnancy.

I DO NOT under any circumstances plan to discuss names with anybody other my H. Mainly because, although people may mean well, I just don't want to hear their comments and/or suggestions. If I do announce the name before the baby is born I will be stating that this is THE name and it's a done deal regardless of if they like the name or not.

laurakaz13 · October 2011

Yup. We did. We loved our name and that was it.

Jlroberts57 · October 2011

We loved the idea of having something just for us, and also the element of surprise is pretty exciting. The biggest reason we are waiting to tell is because there has been a huge boom of babies in the small town we are from, and we didn't want our name stolen. I know several girls who have had this problem already, but thank goodness we haven't seen anyone with the same name as our LO...yet!

Keri Marie · October 2011

We are telling everyone because:

-We are 100% sure of the names

-And we don't care what other people think

Annie984 · October 2011

We didn't disclose. Honestly, I couldn't think of anything good that could come of it. We wouldn't have changed our minds, but I didn't feel like listening to comments when I was 35 weeks pregnant either.

moxie9 · October 2011

I had such a ridiculously long list of names and was so indecisive that I was pretty open about my prenoms du jour with family and friends. I mean, who the hell wants to steal someone's Top 50 list? But once we got it narrowed down, I was more willing to talk about it with strangers than family just to see their reactions. Like I'd tell the Starbucks barista that LO was going to be Donatella and then a sales associate at Nordstrom's that I was considering the name Miranda. Then, I'd carefully watch their snap judgment to see how the name would go over for my daughter in the future. Umm, clearly I over-analyzed and obsessed over this. Embarrassed

But to answer the question concisely: yes, I disclosed the list of possible names and drove several family members and complete strangers insane as I solicited their opinions and gauged their reactions.

Sean+Lyss · October 2011

We told everyone the name we had picked out with both. If we ever have a third, there is not a snowball's chance in hell that anyone is going to know the name before the baby is born. It was a nightmare, mostly from my side of the family.

blu-eyedwife · October 2011

We were team green and kept it to ourselves till birth.

curlylocks3 · October 2011

Our plan is not to disclose. I know certain family members would feel very strongly about the name and would happily bash any name they disliked even if we had said it was our definite choice. I figure that once the baby is here and they've met him/her they will love the name regardless of the name. Or at least once its once its on the birth certificate they will just have to accept it.

MrsDizzyku · October 2011

We will most likely be team green, and probably won't share our final name choice until LO is born. Not concerned about criticism or names getting "swiped", it's largely a cultural thing on H's side, and it's pretty normal on my side to surprise everyone with the name after the baby is born.

kms34 · October 2011

We will tell some friends/coworkers but no one in our families. That's what we did with DS. We told everyone we were having a boy so we wanted something to remain a secret.

It's funny though....my cousin guessed we were going to name him Owen. That's actually pretty close to his name, Evan. She was the closest guess by far.

Our front runner this time is Wyatt. We know a little boy named Wyatt so we've said the name in front of our families before. MIL didn't have a very positive reaction but that's not going to deter us!

iris427 · October 2011

With our son, we were having a lot of trouble with names so I started talking to my mom about it. Big mistake. She shared every ridiculous opinion that came into her head and then she discussed it with every single person she knew and told me what all of them thought about our names.

If we ever have a third child, we are not telling at all.

Cranang · October 2011

Of course I'm telling. No ones cares that much except me and my husband...maybe the grandparents.

As far as people not telling because they want to keep people in "suspense", I've always thought that was the most self-absorbed thing ever. Again, no one really cares. And once you finally make the GRAND announcement, it's over. All that build up and boom, done. I just don't get it...it seems narcissistic to me.

I DO get not wanting to hear crap from other people though. If you're surrounded by people who might make asses of themselves, then sure, I wouldn't tell them either.

karen_loy · October 2011

pretty much everyone knew the names we had chosen, some people didn't like them (like SIL) but we didn't care

Southern-Yankee · October 2011

We did. Everyone loves the name we picked out for DS but before we found out the sex we were trying to think of a little girls name and almost all our options got shot down.

EastCoastBride · October 2011

We disclosed specifically because we ended up going for an Irish name that people would not have seen coming and we wanted people to get a heads up and get the shock out of their system.

When we had our "top 5" and told the IL's, MIL was VERY negative about the top runner. I told her "get used to it! It's the top runner!". And then it became our choice.

Honestly, I'm glad we told. Even at the hospital, MIL was VERY negative about the name to my parents. I realyl think if we had surprised them w/ the name after the birth, she wouldn't have been able to cover up her dislike of it. Based on how we handled it - she has never since, at least w/ US, said anything negative about the name.

salt78 · October 2011

Cranang:

I DO get not wanting to hear crap from other people though.

I think you run the risk of getting crap for it either way. You tell people...you risk having people give you their unsolicited opinions. You don't tell people...you risk having people annoy the hell out of you for not telling. It's a lose/lose situation. Stick out tongue

(Personally I'd much rather someone tell me they like the name or not over trying to berate me into telling them what it is.)

Blondie3328 · October 2011

We are not sharing the name with anyone. I like the element of surprise and I also do not care to hear ppl's opinions. I love it when a baby is born and I get to find out their name for the first time, if the gender is already known and discussed, there's really nothing else left in the way of a surprise so it adds to the anticipation.

Ashley&Scott · October 2011

We are keeping the name a secret. We don't want unsolicited advice/opinions & there's always a chance of choosing a different name once the baby is actually here.

rachellep21 · October 2011

DONT TELL!!!

My boyfriend's sister ended up telling everyone after she found out the sex, because she wanted to refer to the baby's name (as some people have stated).

One of her cousin's (not that close to them, but still family) ended up giving birth a month before she did and STOLE HER BABY NAME!!!

Ugh... when I heard about that, I felt terrible for her! How devistating!

beautifulstr13 · October 2011

We did with Liam but I some what regret it. I think we will keep the next one a secret at least until a while after we know what we are having.

mommybrynn · October 2011

No. 1) I don't people to steal them if we decide not to use it but have another baby and decide to use it down the road. 2) Element of surprise-- everyone knows it is a boy, so I like to have SOME part of it be a surprise!

anna7602 · October 2011

team green. All issues with my family's inability to keep opinions to themselves aside, I especially thought it would be really weird to reveal team green names. It's not like you're going to refer to the fetus by both the girl name and boy name you've selected. Besides, I still want to use the other name we picked one day and I want it to be "fresh" for everyone at that point (if we ever have a boy).

katekat8721 · October 2011

Not at all. I don't want to hear their opinions!

kacelle · October 2011

We shared the name once we'd decided 100%. I had mentioned some names I liked to my family in the past and it hadn't gone well, so we waited until we knew that no one could talk us out of it!

clashure09 · October 2011

We will not be telling anyone beforehand. We don't want everyone's opinion's, and because of what PP said... we don't want anyone "stealing" our idea!

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