DH's dad died

nic326 · October 2011

He was pretty estranged from him the last few years but still...it's a parent and I feel awful for him. The funeral is next week in a city almost 2 hrs away from my doc and hospital. I will be 38.5 weeks when we go next Wed/Thur for the funeral and family services. Anyone else have something come up like this so close to due date? Obviously I'm going to talk to my OB and it's a longshot I go into labor then but what do you do? Drive like hell to get to my own hospital or go to one near where I will be staying? Thankfully I will be close to the hospital I delivered at the first time around but I am curious as to what my doc would do...travel up there?

lijuan09 · October 2011

I don't have advice about what to do about the traveling, but I wanted to say I'm sorry to hear about your DH's dad.

MesmrEwe · October 2011

2 hours is NOT that far away! I'd just plan to go and if anything changes you can take off from there for home early. I wouldn't stay down there and wait it out, but chances are nothing will happen at that point and you'll be just fine being there with your DH...

nic326 · October 2011

Oh I am definitely going I just am wondering what will go down if I go into labor an do I make a mad dash to my hospital 2 hours away or go to one in town

PecanSam · October 2011

Sorry to hear about your FIL.

I would think you could make it to your own hospital in time. Your Dr. can't come to you b/c they wouldn't have priviledges at that hospital.

lageorgiapaperie · October 2011

Sorry to hear that.

Unless your doctor has privileges at the hospital near where you're going to be, most likely you'll just be assigned a doctor if you end up going in to labor. Definitely talk to your OB to try and put a plan in place in case you do need to go to the hospital.

nic326 · October 2011

Thanks all. I was wondering about the hospital privilege thing but I was also thinking we could make the drive back home too but who knows. I will see what OB says cause there is no way I am not going next week

sagoon · October 2011

You might be able to make it back to your hospital, but I'd bring the hospital bag and carseat with you just in case.

sweetpealee · October 2011

I would bring the hospital bag, car seat, your OB's phone number as well as the contact info for the local hospital with you in case you go into labor and the labor progresses very quickly (not very common for 1st time moms) - BUT from what I've heard, read, etc, labor takes a lot longer than a few hours unless it is a rare case.

That being said, I would probably start heading home if you begin to feel consistent contractions, so that you don't have to be really uncomfortable on the car ride.

twinkle115 · October 2011

nic326:
He was pretty estranged from him the last few years but still...it's a parent and I feel awful for him. The funeral is next week in a city almost 2 hrs away from my doc and hospital. I will be 38.5 weeks when we go next Wed/Thur for the funeral and family services. Anyone else have something come up like this so close to due date? Obviously I'm going to talk to my OB and it's a longshot I go into labor then but what do you do? Drive like hell to get to my own hospital or go to one near where I will be staying? Thankfully I will be close to the hospital I delivered at the first time around but I am curious as to what my doc would do...travel up there?

I just had something similar happen to me. My cousin passed away earlier this week and the funeral is set for this Friday. I went to my doctors yesterday to get her opinion and she advised me against going. I will not be attending since it's about 4-5 hours away, but wish I could. The doctor did suggest if I decided to go, to bring my medical records with me just in case I deliver when I am out of town and to make sure the hospital nearby accepted my insurance. I am progressing a lot though. It might be different for you, but when you go, I would definitely recommend getting a copy of your medical records from the doctors to bring with you.

nic326 · October 2011

Good ideas, I am bringing all the paperwork my doc gave me and my hospital bag just in case.

Bride0705 · October 2011

Just a few weeks ago my grandmother died. I was 37 weeks. The dr. let me go and they just told me to get out of the car every hour to walk around and to take it easy. We were 6 hrs away from home.

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