My husband is getting deployed next year, and our son is 7 1/2 months old. We are trying to decide if we want to try to get pregnant with our sencond child either right before he leaves or while he comes home on a 2 week leave. We want to try to keep our kids within a year or two of eachother, and this choice is hard! go through a whole pregnancy with out him, or try to time it so he is home for the birth?? Any advice??
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Re: getting pregnant before deployment??
Either scenario you would be alone for most of the pregnancy, if not all. Since you have a child already I would really consider waiting until he is home before trying again.
We planned this pregnancy (husband left in the middle of first tri) and it's been really hard on him missing out on it.
I have had a lot of complications and have spent a lot of time in the hospital. If you have issues (God forbid) do you have someone in place that could care for your son?
There will probably be days when you don't even want to get out of bed but you will have to because you have someone else to care for. Are you prepared for that?
Lace had some good points.
Something else to consider: What if the pregancy takes a little trying? Just thinking his 2 week leave could easily fall during an infertile time for you...or maybe that month just won't be your month.
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i guess i was in a similar situation, my daughter is 4 and i didnt want to wait until he came back so we tried and it did take awhile (about 7 months) but i am now 13 weeks. he will be leaving in nov and will be gone (besides r&r) until this baby is 7 months but its what we chose and we're gonna make it work.
all the ladies have great points but if you truly believe you are ready and could possibly be pregnant by yourself then i say try. you never know how long it may take to get pregnant so if its meant to be you'll get pregnant.