"she can have ice cream" vent

desdemona39 · October 2011

So I was out with DH, my mom, and LO, and we went to a buffet to eat. DH got some ice cream, and showed it to LO, and my mom said "give her some, she can have ice cream" when I told her that no, we will not be serving ice cream to my 5 month old infant, because it has dairy and added sugar, she said "I don't see the harm in it" Hmm and when DD dropped her sophie on the floor, my mom picked it back up and went to hand it to her! When DH said that it had to be washed first, she wiped sophie on her pants and went to hand it to DD, at which point I took it and said, NO, it has to be WASHED first.... My mom just shrugged and said "eh, you survived"... grr

I know I can't trust my mom to follow my wishes when watching DD, which is why she doesn't watch DD alone, even though she keeps asking to babysit. Vent over.

sbmp10 · October 2011

I agree 100% with the ice cream!!! I know my mom and MIL struggle with the food stuff because it is so different from what they did. I have always just been very clear about what they can and can't have!

IrishEyes0530 · October 2011

Ugh, I also agree with no ice cream. I mean come ON! It's bad for US, why would it be good/ok for a baby who has had little to no food?

My dad is really bad about the food thing with DS and when I tell him not to feed him things, he just laughs and continues. Wonder why he only sees him once in a while? We were over there last weekend and my stepmother was making brownies and my dad stuck his finger in the brownie mix and put it in DS's mouth. Raw brownie mix!! Are you serious!!! I was fuming and my dad thought it was funny. Later at dinner, my stepmom tried to put her finger in her coke and give some to DS, I yelled at her and her response was "it's just a drop.." Well, I don't care, it's my child and I said no. UGH!

srs5624 · October 2011

Eh, she's of the old school of thought. That's why she isn't allowed to babysit.

One quick jab about dairy and sugar in ice cream isn't going to make a lick of difference. Look up the foods that were deemed acceptable when we were children. There was dairy and sugar in everything. It was no big deal back then.

There weren't car seats back then. Do you think they cared about a little bit of ice cream or some dirt on a toy?

Just some perspective...

Next time, explain why these things are unacceptable instead of just rolling your eyes when she doesn't get it. If she's still chooses to ignore you, just remember... she's never alone with your daughter.

mcginnie86 · October 2011

Yikes! We are super strict about junk food. If anyone tried to give my DS ice cream or soda, I would seriously consider never letting them around him again.

desdemona39 · October 2011

jackieboyd:
Ugh, I also agree with no ice cream. I mean come ON! It's bad for US, why would it be good/ok for a baby who has had little to no food?
My dad is really bad about the food thing with DS and when I tell him not to feed him things, he just laughs and continues. Wonder why he only sees him once in a while? We were over there last weekend and my stepmother was making brownies and my dad stuck his finger in the brownie mix and put it in DS's mouth. Raw brownie mix!! Are you serious!!! I was fuming and my dad thought it was funny. Later at dinner, my stepmom tried to put her finger in her coke and give some to DS, I yelled at her and her response was "it's just a drop.." Well, I don't care, it's my child and I said no. UGH!

Indifferent I would have lost my sh!t.

srs5624 · October 2011

jackieboyd:

my dad stuck his finger in the brownie mix and put it in DS's mouth. Raw brownie mix!! Are you serious!!! I

Ew. I don't eat raw brownie mix and I'm an adult with a fully functioning digestive system. I assume they're un-aware of salmonella? That one is public knowledge and has been for some time now.

IrishEyes0530 · October 2011

That's what I told him, I said "dad, you know there's raw eggs in there, right?" I immediately wiped it out of DS's mouth. Of course, my dad's response was "you're eating it". Yeah well, I'm not a baby.

katstackpole · October 2011

We stick our fingers into lots of grown up food and let our LO "taste" (as long as it isn't heavily seasoned). More usually gets on her face than in her mouth... and it's not like a spoonful or anything.

katie4253 · October 2011

I've said this before in different posts, but nothing makes my blood boil more than "eh, we did xyz and you survivied" or "our parents did xyz and we're all okay"

It seriously infuriates me.

Jaimels78 · October 2011

desdemona39:
jackieboyd:

Ugh, I also agree with no ice cream. I mean come ON! It's bad for US, why would it be good/ok for a baby who has had little to no food?

My dad is really bad about the food thing with DS and when I tell him not to feed him things, he just laughs and continues. Wonder why he only sees him once in a while? We were over there last weekend and my stepmother was making brownies and my dad stuck his finger in the brownie mix and put it in DS's mouth. Raw brownie mix!! Are you serious!!! I was fuming and my dad thought it was funny. Later at dinner, my stepmom tried to put her finger in her coke and give some to DS, I yelled at her and her response was "it's just a drop.." Well, I don't care, it's my child and I said no. UGH!

I would have lost my sh!t.

THIS!

Snapdragon750 · October 2011

I wouldn't let my baby eat ice cream or give her a toy dropped on dirty floor either because why let them do something unhealthy for no reason at all? But then again, your mother is right too. Neither one of those things is actually very likely to harm your baby at all.

So her comments are eye-roll worthy, but I don't think they're "losing it" worthy.

molisar · October 2011

Ugh I am right there with you. And what's the deal with ice cream??!! Seriously, my mom makes comments about giving him ice cream all the time. And I can't tell you how bad she wanted to give him type 1 foods before I was ready to give them to him.

I out right told her I did not trust her alone with LO because she seemed to want to stuff sh!t down his throat all the time... After that little convo she's totally stopped making comments. Ha, I guess threatening her with never spending alone time with LO did the trick.

SarahRae812 · October 2011

jackieboyd:
Ugh, I also agree with no ice cream. I mean come ON! It's bad for US, why would it be good/ok for a baby who has had little to no food?
My dad is really bad about the food thing with DS and when I tell him not to feed him things, he just laughs and continues. Wonder why he only sees him once in a while? We were over there last weekend and my stepmother was making brownies and my dad stuck his finger in the brownie mix and put it in DS's mouth. Raw brownie mix!! Are you serious!!! I was fuming and my dad thought it was funny. Later at dinner, my stepmom tried to put her finger in her coke and give some to DS, I yelled at her and her response was "it's just a drop.." Well, I don't care, it's my child and I said no. UGH!

What is wrong w/ people?!?! Are they TRYING to get our babies addicted to junk food so they'll be obese children?!?

I was at a first b-day party a few weeks ago for a childhood friend's daughter. I watched Grandma stuff the birthday girl's face with ice cream cake after she had already eaten her birthday cupcake. This was the same woman who, when we were kids, used to lecture and berate my friend about being fat. My friend STILL has food issues. WTF???

laurakaz13 · October 2011

Snapdragon750:

I wouldn't let my baby eat ice cream or give her a toy dropped on dirty floor either because why let them do something unhealthy for no reason at all? But then again, your mother is right too. Neither one of those things is actually very likely to harm your baby at all.

So her comments are eye-roll worthy, but I don't think they're "losing it" worthy.

This.

kewltif · October 2011

srs5624:

Eh, she's of the old school of thought. That's why she isn't allowed to babysit.

One quick jab about dairy and sugar in ice cream isn't going to make a lick of difference. Look up the foods that were deemed acceptable when we were children. There was dairy and sugar in everything. It was no big deal back then.

There weren't car seats back then. Do you think they cared about a little bit of ice cream or some dirt on a toy?

Just some perspective...

Next time, explain why these things are unacceptable instead of just rolling your eyes when she doesn't get it. If she's still chooses to ignore you, just remember... she's never alone with your daughter.

I have to ask, how old are you that there weren't car seats back then?

I certainly wouldn't feed my child ice cream when her little tummy is on an extremely bland diet and she's never had anything like that before. I just don't see a need to do it.

M&M227 · October 2011

MIL wanted to give DD whipped cream last weekend. Not only is DD not eating any table food yet, she has a milk / soy protein intolerance.... DD won't be having ANY milk products until she's been tested.

toadstool · October 2011

MIL started talking about giving DD sweets while we were still in the hospital! I told her that DD won't be eating sweets for a long time, and to that she said "I will just give her a vanilla waffer then."

DD still hasn't had a vanilla waffer, because apperently I'm uptight.

flying.pier · October 2011

I went out for frozen yogurt with my friend (who has 2 daughters) and when I cam back from the bathroom she said "he likes chocolate by the way!" I wanted to slap her...