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May 2012 Moms
iLoveblueberries
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DH is NOT getting the whole baby naming concept...
iLoveblueberries
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1. He does not understand that the first name needs to sound good with the last name--he likes all these names that are 1 syllable like our last name and 99% of them sound horrible or too "matchy"
2. He likes "trendy" names.....while I like more unique (not yoooneeek haha) classic names ....If he suggests something that ends in "-ly" or is in the top 10 name list on more time...I might hit him. I don't want my child to be "sophie #4" in a class....Growing up I was always "Catie #2" or "Catie S"--Never my actual name Catherine (..ppl. would just decide to call me Catie or some nickname) or just Catie. Drove me crazy!
3. He has one name he refuses to budge on for a middle name --Rose. I dont like this name but he refuses to give it up because he has wanted to name his daughter this since he was younger.
We are never going to reach a name agreement! We like totally different style names and I am begining to think DH is naming impared! Everything he says sounds horrible together. I know we have a lot of time--but with him it takes 10 years to get him to settle on anything. This is going to be a long process. SAVE ME.
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Re: DH is NOT getting the whole baby naming concept...
yikes!!
the couple times we have spoken about names have been okay, but the boy name is almost a given, we just have to come up with a middle name. Girls we have a list going so narrowing it down could be painful....
I feel your pain. We have a very long, ethnic last name that nothing sounds good with. Plus, it starts with a "j" sound, and I don't like alliteration in names (yes, I know my name starts with J...). Do you know how many names start with that sound? A TON.
My DH just doesn't take it seriously. He will only offer joke names, never anything actually serious, but he has no problem vetoing mine. He finally offered a boy name the other day that I liked, but when I looked it up, it was in the top 30 in my state. As a "Jenny D." my whole school career, I do NOT want popular either! Ugh!
My married name is an alliteration--drives me crazy. Half of DH's names are alliteration too--Not cool. At least my Dh is not the only one who is difficult!
Well he picked the middle name so you get full say in the 1st name!
I am glad SO likes the name I have picked out. I picked it out over 20 years ago.. so it sticks!
agree... I went to a fairly small private elementary school but was one of 3 Katies in my grade. I HATED being Katie J or responding to someone calling my named when they wanted the other Katie. It got even worse in high school, where I think every 15th girl was named Katie or Kate.
My favorite girl name is a traditional name that doesn't even break the top 1000 in popularity.... now only if I can talk DH into it.
We've been talking about names, and we've decided that we are not going to write any names down. If it is a name that we both really like, it has to be something that we remember off the top of our heads. We are also a multilingual household, so we want to choose a name that sounds good in English, Spanish, and Italian. We currently have 2 front-runners for both a girl name and a boy name. We are using my maiden name as our child's middle name.
I totally agree with you about not wanting to use a "trendy" name. I sure don't want my child to have to share her name with 4 other people in class! We look for names that are NOT in the top 10 for the last 5 years.
To us, it's not so important that it meshes with our last name. For us, it has to be a name that we would be happy with repeating 17,000 times a day. One thing that I've learned from watching my nephew or my friend's toddler is that I kept using their name over, and over, and over.
Luckily, you have several months to wear him down! Good luck!
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I laugh because I feel your pain. My husband was one of 5 Nathan's on a soccer team once AND IT NEVER BOTHERED HIM. (I swear it's because he was homeschooled so he had so little time around other kids it wasn't the big deal that spending 7 hours a day every day with those boys would have been. Once a week at church, eh. He just says "I was around other kids a lot!" *rolls eyes*) He doesn't see what the big deal is with picking the #7 name in the country (he still likes the name "Abigail") or some other ridiculously popular name. I was almost always the only person with my name, and I loved it. I felt sorry for the 3 Jessicas or whatever. And when I married him, I took his EXTREMELY COMMON last name (think "Smith" in terms of commonness) which I freaking hate. I refuse to give our child an extremely common name since first and last would be so common. He hates names that there aren't a million of and makes snide remarks about things I suggest to try to meet him halfway. He refuses to come up with name ideas, just pouts. It seriously annoys me. For example, the other night I suggested Anika/Annika, which is pretty and comes to people's minds easily, but isn't common. He said sure, and then made a snide comment about how it looks weird written down but "Any name that YOU like is going to look weird written down." I wanted to hit him. UGH.
Sorry for the rant. In summary: If you find a way to save yourself, save me, too!
I stil consider those classics...just popular classics. Which would be okay...but not preferable for me.
When I say "trendy" I mean the names that end in "ly" craze, the names that start with "H" craze, the "last names as first names" craze and the "not real names" craze....I don't do names that are not real names. *shudders*
I understand completely! We picked a boy name about 5 months ago, but we can't agree on the middle name. I love the name James for the middle name, but he says we can't use that because it's his cousin's last name. REALLY? Cause I don't care if it's his cousin's last name.
Also, he has not told me one girl's name he likes. He shoots down everyone that I mention but he can't give me one that he likes. He says we should wait until we know the gender before we pick the girl's name. That frustrates me because I am a MAJOR planner and I like to have the names and nursery themes picked before we know the gender. Is that obsessive? Absolutely, but that's how my brain works! And it's super frustrating when he's just cool to wait it out.
agreed. is this your first child? you may be surprised. you could agree to go in with a couple of names picked out and wait to name until you meed the child. once your DH sees you push that baby out, you will get to choose...trust me. he'll be staring at you in awe..nodding..."yes honey, that sounds like the perfect name!".
We are going to be team green so we will have several names for both boy and girl picked out and plan on picking which one we think fits LO best....But it is even getting to the point where we can agree on a possible name that is the problem!
We're doing the same thing.. We have some "possibilities" and will decide when we see the little booger's face in person!
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My hubby and I make a game of coming up with the most awful baby names ever. Before we were even married, he told me that he always thought Aqua Velva would be the coolest baby name ever. I followed that up by having a dream that I gave birth to a little boy that he legally named Pig while I was out of the room :-)
Luckily, our discussions have been going well about picking out names. His last name, which I took, is really dorky, so I think we're both in agreement that our kids are up against enough as it is.
For those of you who are struggling with your hubbies, you might want to take a page out of my mom's book. Her and my dad could not agree on a name for me, so she waited until she was seven days overdue with me (I'm really hoping Karma is kind to me) and then calmly informed him what my name was going to be. He felt so bad for her (or was so scared of her!) at that point that he went along with it, no questions asked.
When it comes right down to it, I think we get the final vote on this one. Just wait until you're having a particularly pathetic day to inform him ;-)
Hey, better "ly" than "leigh"! My biggest pet peeve is purposely spelling names wrong. Why give your child a headache their whole life? And it means now even kids with "normal" names get the headache, since there are so many wacko names out there!
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my hubby is funny, he gets offended if someone within a 10 mile radius and a 10 yr age-span has the same name as our kids...I'm not allowed to utter the girls name we have picked out for fear that we could "lose it"...lol
We have a Charlotte (who is 9) and a Norah (who is 5) and we know someone who named there baby Charlotte 7 months ago and he was just sooooo funny about it.
Really funny thing is, our boy name that we've never used is James Ernest (James being a classic and pretty common name for our area) and he doesn't care about that at all. But we'd be naming him after his Uncle Jimmy who died when he was a little boy.
me too... lol we were team green so after she was born we named her Haylee Rose. lol
me too... lol we were team green so after she was born we named her Haylee Rose. lol