June 2011 Moms
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Cash Bar at Baptism Reception
Do you find it tacky to have a cash bar at a Baptism reception on a Sunday afternoon?
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Re: Cash Bar at Baptism Reception
Honestly, I think cash bars are always tacky.
Could you just skip alcohol? Or only offer a limited amount of beer/wine?
I'm about ready to skip the alcohol all together. There is a bar at the place I'm looking at so anyone who wanted a drink could go to the bar, which essentially makes it a cash bar.
A beer/wine package is $16/person and I'd say a third of the guests would be underage. $16 like 2/3 of the price for lunch.
Ditto. If you are hosting an even somewhat formal reception, then it's the responsibility of the host, imo. A casual dinner at a restaurant is one thing. An official reception is another.
That's kind of what I was thinking... But DH and I are also non-drinkers.... We almost had a dry reception, but added beer and wine at last minute so people wouldn't eat and run.... I'd say if they need to drink let em go to the bar.
I think that's fine. That is different than having a cash bar. A cash bar, imo, is when you have it inside your reception room solely for your use. A bar at the place you just happen to be going is completely different.
I'd just not offer alcohol or would pay for what is actually drunk, if that is an option.
We're having a lunch at a restaurant and expect a couple of people might order an alcoholic beverage, but I'd be shocked if anyone ordered more than one. We're going to be picking up the tab for the lunch, whatever is ordered...
this totally. Drinks for this occasion would never even cross my mind.
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I don't get the need for alcohol at a Sunday afternoon post-Baptism reception. A wedding is one thing, but a reception celebrating a baby's baptism? No. If people can't attend this without drinking, they have a problem.
This. But if there is a bar there, like you said, then let people get their own alcohol if they really feel the need.
DH and I have been discussing this all week! DS's baptism is this Sunday and we are holding a reception at a local resturant. We have a private room, the bar won't be in the room itself but there will be servers bringing drinks to those who want one. The lunch is 25pp and with fees, taxes and gratuites it's costing us a little over 1800. We just can't afford to to offer an open bar for 55 people. I feel that I am paying for my guests to have a lovely meal and if they would like a drink they can pay for it themselves. It would be different if it was a Saturday evening party but this is a Sunday afternoon.
Ok, first of all, I live in the South (but I'm from the Midwest) and all of my southern friends were HORRIFIED that I had beer and wine at my daughter's Baptism reception. Ha! I kept trying to explain that this is TOTALLY normal for people outside of 'ole GA, but people down here think its a sin to drink, so.... it fell on deaf ears.
Anyway.... I don't like the idea of a cash bar. However, you said there is a bar at the place that is not in your room, so I think thats perfect. I don't think you should pay for an open bar- liquor is a bit far for a Baptism, IMO, although I understand your thinking. I don't think you'd get your moneys worth out of it. I think paying for beer and wine, or letting people use the bar at the venue are both completely appropriate options. I vote for the latter, that way you don't have to pay for it!