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Phantomgirl
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Here we go again
Phantomgirl
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So BM has not replied to DHs two texts about this weekend.
We have no idea if we have SS tonight or if he has a sleep over or if he has football tomorrow morning or not or if he has started soccer with another team and what time training is.
Isn't this reminiscient of earlier this summer when BM withheld SS for 5 weeks straight.
That was the beginning of the summer when DH changed the CS amount he was paying.
This is the week after the court contacted BM and she agreed to the lower amount and here we go again.
I think it would be fair to say she is using SS to 'punish' DH.
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Re: Here we go again
Go pick him up. SInce you were never contacted by a responsible adult in regards to the sleep-over, you have no responsiblity to ok loosing the visitaiton.
If he is not there, then document it.
Is Ireland THAT bad that you cannot hold her in contempt of a judge's ruling?
Obviously if he doesn't hear from her he will show up as normal.
In Ireland if a couple are not married the mother is automatically granted custody. The non custodial parent then applies to the court for an access order. DH has an access order.
In Ireland natural mothers have an automatic right to Guardianship, natural fathers do not UNLESS they marry the mother.
Where one party is awarded custody, the other party is entitled to apply to the court for ?access?. The court will usually grant access absent a compelling reason not to do so. However, the right of access is the child's right, not the parents' and the best interests of the child are paramount and will take precedence over the interests of the parents.
DH has an access order but it does not state days, times etc. Basically it just states that the court recognises that it is in Ss best interest to meet and communicate with his father.
It does state that when SS is under 2 all 'access' will be supervised. Dh feels that this hindered his chances of bonding with SS was BM was always there correcting him and instructing him and never left them alone. Dh said he always felt under pressure as he was only 22 and in her house with her, her parents and siblings all watching him. also they did not exactly like him or him them.
So no he cannot take her to court unless he can PROVE that she is absolutely blocking his access to SS. Also in regards to her withholding him tonight, a court would decide what was in the best interest of SS not DH. They could potentially say that it is SS interest to have a sleep over (DH and I would agree we just want to know the plan so that we can go get him at some stage).
So yea it is pretty sucky here. and especially more frustrating for me because from being on this site I know the US system more or less inside out and tend to assume it should apply here.
Why couldn't he go back to court for a more defined schedule? How can he claim that BM is blocking his access if there is no clear dates/times for access?