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I'm hoping that some of you folks over here might be able to help me out with my situation or give me a little bit on information/insight. I am going to be a single mother. The baby's father is in the Air Force. I spoke with his 1st Sgt in May and plan on speaking with her again sometime later this month. I'm wondering if any of you have any idea what I will be going through in the next couple of months. Is there anything that I should be doing to prepare? I'm not really sure what to expect out of this whole thing. TIA for any help or advice you can provide!
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Re: Military Babies
This is a depends situation...also my answers might vary a little since we're not AF.
1)Are you military as well? If yes then you'll just put baby on your information. You'd carry the baby on your insurance.
2) Does the father want to be involved? Do you plan to get a court order(custody)? If he's involved then he can file all the paper work to get your child enrolled in the military systems and insurance. If he doesn't then you may have to go to court to prove paternity and then get your child enrolled in all the systems. I know you have 60 days from birth to get your child into the system and enrolled in Tricare. I don't know how this would work if the father is saying the kid isn't his(not wanting involvement) and delaying this.
3) Do you live near a post/base? If yes then I'd suggest being seen on post as its free...may have to advocate for your child,but military treatment facilities aren't all bad. If you have income then the small co-pay is worth it to some to go off post by using standard instead of prime. If you live away from anything military then depending on distance you can remain on prime and see a civilian.
4)***ignore if y'all are together*** If you're separated I'd get a very,very,very detailed custody order(stating everything from visitation to fees). The service member can fill out a form and your child can get an ID before the age of 10 if a split family situation is involved. We had to do this for my step-daughter because everyone wanted her insurance card, which in this life is your military ID. Got a paper signed from the post and could mail so you can go to the nearest ID center and get her one made.
Good luck! I hope my questions make sense and if you have more feel free to ask.
I am not military, so I'm not at all familiar with the system and how things would go. The father does not want to be involved. He hasn't denied paternity, but when I spoke to him in April, he said that he doesn't want anything to do with the baby. I don't know if this has or will change as he is currently deployed. I talked to his 1st Sgt and she said that I would have to prove paternity, which I expected. I do live close to a base and have been told by a couple of friends who are married into the military that the baby will be covered under military insurance.
I'm just now starting to stress over these things since I've only got about 3 months left, so I figured I would come to the people who probably know the most about it. Thanks for your help!!
just an add on. the guys i knew who had kids paid a "lot" of child support. the military is very big on if it's theirs they will take care of it even if it's just money. hang on, it'll be rough till you get things straightened out, but you should be okay.