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DTNZ4Ever
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Anyone not interested in...
DTNZ4Ever
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breastfeeding. I know the benefits of breastfeeding. I know it is all natural I have heard it from so many people including my dh. I have been reading up on breastfeeding and it really doesn't interest me. Am I the only one who feels like this??
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BFing seems to be a pretty hot button topic on these boards. IMO its a personal decision. Do whatever feels right to you and don't worry about justifying your decision to anyone. I know babies who are BF who are healthy and I know just as many babies who are FF who are healthy.
DD #1 passed away in January 2011 at 14 days old due to congenital heart disease
DD#2 lost in January 2012 at 23 weeks due to anhydramnios caused by a placental abruption
Are you the breastfeeding Nazi? No offense but it's our bodies, and we can choose what we want to do. Yes breast milk is supposed to be "better" but why is formula so bad? My mother bottle feed your 7 children. We were never sick and prefectly healthy today! Just saying.
Are you the breastfeeding Nazi? No offense but it's our bodies, and we can choose what we want to do. Yes breast milk is supposed to be "better" but why is formula so bad? My mother bottle fed your 7 children. We were never sick and prefectly healthy today! Just saying.
I appreciate your opinion but some women don't see it as a bonding experience. Some women I have talked say yes it is a wondeful bonding experience and others say it's not. So it is a personal decision.
Hisbetterhalf,
Words have a way of appearing harshing on screen I guess. You do come across like a BF nazi. I don't think I owe my baby a bf try. I just don't. By the way, your little girl is a cutie. I guess it's because she was breastfed:-P
People are going to try to make you feel guillty about not breastfeeding. ?It's your body and your baby. ?If it's not for you it's nor for you.?
When I was pregnant with my first DD, I didn't even THINK about it...I wasn't interested in the lactation consultants, etc...but when she was born, it just seemed natural. I will not lie, it is painful initially, and no, it's not convenient.
It is, however, the very best thing for your baby, and I am actually dreaming about BF'ing this baby. It is a personal decision, but to some of us, it does feel like before your child is even born, your putting your own wants and comforts before that of your child, and that seems selfish.
You're going to do what you're going to do regardless, but any doctor will say your breast milk is better for your child than a synthetic. Can your baby survive on formula and be fine, absolutely. But BF'ing is a very special bond between a baby and a mother. It is not squicky, or weird, or strange to have a child "sucking on you all the time". You're providing your child with the healthiest possible nourishment you could give them, including the immunity that goes along with it, and you can't really beat that.
It is a personal chioce but how would you know if it was a wonderful bonding experience or not if you didn't try. That's all I'm saying. I'm done.
I'm not against FF either. As long as you feed your child, I could care less how you do it. I FF my DD for 3 months after she self weaned from the boob.
Ditto. It has so many benefits to the baby that if you don't breastfeed and you are able to, you are a moron.
I can see why you would say that, and believe it or not, I'm totally NOT. I'm also not one of those women who will just "whip it out" in public and feed their kid.
At the same time, like I said - I can't even fathom not even trying it. I know of several women who just simply couldn't - didn't make enough milk or had other problems - and obviously - their kids are fine.
I just know how I felt with my DD. I know how I feel about it with this baby. And you know what? It may not work this time. I may not be able to BF. But...I'm not going to say no out of the gate because I'm afraid of being uncomfortable, or in pain, or eww gross...etc.
i'm not really looking forward to doing it all over again. I got pregnant while still nursing my 1st. I nursed for about 13 months.
IMO, it is sooo much easier than formula. You don't have to get up and make a bottle, its already done. Plus the health benefits....so I know its worth it.
I am sorry to say that at this point, I have 0 interest. However, intellectually, I know it's what is best. I also know that I may change my mind completely about it after I have my boy. It may be painful, and I may still love it and never want to wean. Or I may hate it immediately and stop trying.
I guess I'll try my best to be open to what comes...but I'd be lying if I said that I was all in about it now!
I tell it like it is.
wow, I'm actually surprised at the responses here. up until the moron comment, which was definitely uncalled for, i didn't see any of these posts as trying to pressure anyone else into breastfeeding. on the contrary, it seems those not interested in breastfeeding were very quick to go on the defensive.
facts are facts, and stating that breastfeeding is best for a child is just stating a fact. suggesting to someone to at least give it a try before deciding whether to bf or not is not pressuring or guilt tripping them into bf'ing. as with so many things with parenting, you have to be flexible. it is so easy to say now, i will definitely do this or i'm not going to do that, but once you have the baby, your views can completely change. i think the best advice, especially in this situation, is to keep your options open and see what works best for you.
right now, i can't imagine actually breastfeeding a child. well of course! i've never done it before. so when the time comes, i'll try it and if it works out i'll continue and if not, then not.
I completely disagree with this statement. Planned Chaos gave areasoned argument on why she breastfed and why she thinks it's worth trying. She didn't tell you you're a bad mom for not trying it, or that anyone who doesn't is a moron. She reasonably and calmly described her experience. That's not being a nazi.
Don't feel bad about not wanting to breastfeed. It is your body and your baby and really the business of nobody else. I believe that breast milk is better for the baby than formula but that doesn't mean formula is bad. I was never breast fed and I'm uber-healthy with no allergies, etc so I think your baby will be fine with whichever decision you select.
For me, I plan to breastfeed for 1-3 months but I'm doing it for selfish reasons. I've heard that breast feeding helps your uterus shrink up faster and you lose weight faster....that is my motivation.
I know, I'm a selfish person but I'm okay with that.
I plan on breastfeeding. I've done the research, I know the benefits, but I would never dream of telling another woman she is a moron for not making the same choices I do.
Just the thought of breastfeeding causes alot of anxiety for some women, and if they want to FF, then that is fine. If the mother is stressed out, the BF-ing exerience is just not pleasant, for the mother or the child.
I was not at all interested with DS. I did try though, just to see if maybe I would change my mind.
Now, I wished I would have tried harder. With this baby I am definatley going to try and stick with it.
I breastfed my first. I did it because I could and because it is the best option for your baby. (Which, by the way, does not imply formula is bad - just that in ideal circumstances, all things being equal, breast milk is the best.)
I never found it particularly magical. It wasn't a wonderful bonding experience. And in fact, it hurt.
But when it boils right down to it - it's cheap, it's easy, it has a ton of health benefits for mum and baby and whether or not I loved doing it, I was pretty good at it!
I BF my first for a year (easier for me, I imagine as we get a year of mat leave). I wasn't sad weaning, which I know a lot of mums are, but I am glad I did it.
Strangely, despite not really being thrilled about it the first time around, I'm actually feeling pretty positive about it this time!
So, I think that if you go in with an open mind, don't put a ton of pressure on yourself (set small goals - just the first week, just the first month, only three months, etc.), be knowledgeable (because you'll get so much moronic BFing advice) and give it a shot, you'll never feel any regret. And this is coming from some one who was disinterested in BFing while doing it!
I personally don't care what anyone else does--BF or FF.
But.. I was not real interested in bfing #1, but I wanted to try. I wanted to give her the best I could. I had a LOT of issues and struggled with it. One issue would resolve and a new one would come up. I eventually dried up and she weaned around 9.5 months and I was really sad when it ended. I'm glad I worked through all the problems and bf as long as I could. I had to ff for a few months after that and formula gets pretty expensive. I had the free stuff for 9.5 months. Just my 2 cents.
Again, I don't care what anyone else does.
DS 4/2009
m/c 11/12/2010 ~ 7 wks
m/c 7/4/2012 ~ 6 wks
DD 12/2013
mmc Baby Girl 7/12/2015 ~ 14 weeks
Twin girls! 8/26/2017