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Surprise family visit... busted!

juepnunesjuepnunes member
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I am so glad my DH decided to tell me my dad is flying all the way from Brazil to surprise me at work (in FL) next week. I was never close to my dad. I guess he is just excited about his first grandchild and wanted to see me pregnant. Cute, I know, but I still would prefer to know and be prepared.

Don't get me wrong, I like surprises, but I don't think that surprising an (almost) 8 month pregnant lady is a wise thing to do. Not even to mention that DH will be out of town and if was to go nuts and start pre-term labor, I would be here alone with my dad. I want my mom to be here for my labor, not my dad! I am much closer to my mom. Glad he is coming, and glad it's not a surprise anymore. I will just pretend I didn't know anything and when he shows up here at work next week I will be as surprised and put my acting skills in action!

It was cute when my DH got all sentimental and busted into tears while explaining to me how cool it is that all 4 grandparents and all of our siblings were able to visit us while I am pregnant and be part of our lives during this special time.  We live in FL. My in-laws in NY and my parents in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.

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  • tosh24tosh24 member

    I don't really know what to say.

    I'm sorry you're upset about your dad coming to try and surprise you. I know you said you're not close with him, but obviously I don't know the extent of that. I guess I understood that to be that you're not all warm and fuzzy with him but that you still have a father-daughter relationship.

    I'd feel so guilty if my dad spent time and money to fly to a different continent to come and visit me and I felt bummed and ungrateful. And my dad and I aren't super close either. It breaks my heart to think of DD feeling that way if she up and moved and was pregnant and DH wanted to fly to see her before she had the baby. Your dad is probably just excited and wants to see his daughter. I'm sure it would break his heart to know that you'd rather not see him and have your mom there instead. Close or not, I'd just be grateful that you have a father who obviously wants to see you and thinks that his surprising you would actually make you happy.

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  • indiana101indiana101 member
    imagetosh24:

    I don't really know what to say.

    I'm sorry you're upset about your dad coming to try and surprise you. I know you said you're not close with him, but obviously I don't know the extent of that. I guess I understood that to be that you're not all warm and fuzzy with him but that you still have a father-daughter relationship.

    I'd feel so guilty if my dad spent time and money to fly to a different continent to come and visit me and I felt bummed and ungrateful. And my dad and I aren't super close either. It breaks my heart to think of DD feeling that way if she up and moved and was pregnant and DH wanted to fly to see her before she had the baby. Your dad is probably just excited and wants to see his daughter. I'm sure it would break his heart to know that you'd rather not see him and have your mom there instead. Close or not, I'd just be grateful that you have a father who obviously wants to see you and thinks that his surprising you would actually make you happy.

    This. You sound ridiculously ungrateful.

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    imagetosh24:

    I don't really know what to say.

    I'm sorry you're upset about your dad coming to try and surprise you. I know you said you're not close with him, but obviously I don't know the extent of that. I guess I understood that to be that you're not all warm and fuzzy with him but that you still have a father-daughter relationship.

    I'd feel so guilty if my dad spent time and money to fly to a different continent to come and visit me and I felt bummed and ungrateful. And my dad and I aren't super close either. It breaks my heart to think of DD feeling that way if she up and moved and was pregnant and DH wanted to fly to see her before she had the baby. Your dad is probably just excited and wants to see his daughter. I'm sure it would break his heart to know that you'd rather not see him and have your mom there instead. Close or not, I'd just be grateful that you have a father who obviously wants to see you and thinks that his surprising you would actually make you happy.

    This. You sound ridiculously ungrateful.

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  • indiana101indiana101 member
    imagetosh24:

    I don't really know what to say.

    I'm sorry you're upset about your dad coming to try and surprise you. I know you said you're not close with him, but obviously I don't know the extent of that. I guess I understood that to be that you're not all warm and fuzzy with him but that you still have a father-daughter relationship.

    I'd feel so guilty if my dad spent time and money to fly to a different continent to come and visit me and I felt bummed and ungrateful. And my dad and I aren't super close either. It breaks my heart to think of DD feeling that way if she up and moved and was pregnant and DH wanted to fly to see her before she had the baby. Your dad is probably just excited and wants to see his daughter. I'm sure it would break his heart to know that you'd rather not see him and have your mom there instead. Close or not, I'd just be grateful that you have a father who obviously wants to see you and thinks that his surprising you would actually make you happy.

    This. You sound ridiculously ungrateful.

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  • chantico23chantico23 member
    imageindiana101:
    imagetosh24:

    I don't really know what to say.

    I'm sorry you're upset about your dad coming to try and surprise you. I know you said you're not close with him, but obviously I don't know the extent of that. I guess I understood that to be that you're not all warm and fuzzy with him but that you still have a father-daughter relationship.

    I'd feel so guilty if my dad spent time and money to fly to a different continent to come and visit me and I felt bummed and ungrateful. And my dad and I aren't super close either. It breaks my heart to think of DD feeling that way if she up and moved and was pregnant and DH wanted to fly to see her before she had the baby. Your dad is probably just excited and wants to see his daughter. I'm sure it would break his heart to know that you'd rather not see him and have your mom there instead. Close or not, I'd just be grateful that you have a father who obviously wants to see you and thinks that his surprising you would actually make you happy.

    This. You sound ridiculously ungrateful.

     

    I didn't take her post as ungrateful at all.  She said she was glad her dad was coming, but didn't want it to be a surprise.  

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  • LMH1209LMH1209 member
    I think you sound remarkably accepting of a surprise trip -- especially one where the person is planning to surprise you at work. I don't think you sound ungrateful at all. I'm glad your DH spilled the beans so you had time to process the info. and get excited about the visit.

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