Pointless Poll of the Day: Will you (have you) change/upgrade your wedding set at some point?

laney75 · September 2011

I'm referring to your engagement ring and/or wedding band. Will you (or have you already) change them to something else? Why or why not? If so, what are you going to get? When would this happen?

Just curious.

penguingrrl · September 2011

I don't plan to. I helped pick my engagement ring (I chose the setting, DH chose the stone) and chose my wedding band with the intention that I'd wear them forever. If DH wants to get me other jewelry I'd love a diamond pendant and a channel set bracelet Big Smile

MJCF · September 2011

My engagement ring is a solitare and then my wedding band(s) are a small row of stones that go on each side. They are not connected so I can wear just the bands if I want to but rarely do. I think if I do anything I would just like to add more bands to the sides. I've thought about adding stones to the sides of the solitare but not sure on that. If this happens Im thinking maybe for an anniversary in a few years (or longer now that I stay home).

eaglesfan700 · September 2011

Nope. I think it is perfect. H didn't know it when he picked it out but it is the exact same cut and style as my mom's e-ring. Classic and unfussy and I love it.

laney75 · September 2011

It seems really popular to "upgrade" or get an entirely new setting at some point, but the sentimentalist part of me really feels sort of bad about that whole idea. We picked out my setting together (he chose the diamond and had it in a "temporary" setting when he proposed) as well as my wedding band. If anything, I think I may ask for another band or two to stack on but I don't think I will get a new set. I love the stacked look and I can still honor the original jewelry we picked out together.

I've also thought about asking for a "right hand" ring but I don't know what I want, at all.

lorist202 · September 2011

I doubt it. DH had my engagement ring made after stealing my favorite ring from my jewelry box and having the jeweler find a design that mimicked it. I LOVE it!

It was so customized that a band did not exist for it, but I was lucky enough to find a band simple, yet elegant enough to match.

I love that no one else will ever have the same set. Even on days I feel frumpy, my wedding set always makes me feel loved Smile

BFab11 · September 2011

I might get a bigger center stone and have my current one set in a necklace or something (it was given to us by MIL so I don't want to just trade it out), but I'd keep my settings.

Daisy77 · September 2011

Well, my engagement ring isn't the one he proposed with. One of the diamonds kept coming loose and DH took it into a different jeweler after the original one couldn't get it right. The new jeweler told DH to take the ring back as it's papers didn't match the ring...plus, the setting was not correct for the stones it was suppose to hold. And it was from a reputable jewelry store (in our area at least). Yikes. So the new jeweler took a picture of the ring and made a replica for us making one change: using two single larger baguette stone in place of a four smaller ones (the ones that kept coming loose). We got to pick the new diamonds and everything to make sure it was worth what DH paid for and expected. Haven't had an issue since and we use them as our jeweler for other stuff as well as they are awesome and have an excellent reputation (which we can back up!).

With all that said, I won't change or upgrade what I have. For their 30th anniversary FIL gave MIL a new anniversary ring and I think she replaced her engagement ring with it. I'd just wear it with my current set provided nothing will get wrecked with them together. (DH has already asked what I'd do in that situation)

hellopoppyseed · September 2011

No. I picked out the setting and the wedding band. Dh picked the stone. I love it. Love it! I'll tell you about right hand rings. Someday I want a pale yellow gold band with a champagne colored diamond. I think that would look awesome. I currently have platinum-I'm allergic to white gold.

morgs8384 · September 2011

UGH. I have really thought about this. Although DH and I have only been married for 4 years, my sister got her ring "upgraded" and it really made me think. I don't think I ever would trade in my rings for bigger/better. They aren't anything AMAZING, but they are mine, and I have memories with them. I wouldn't mind if DH decided one day to come home with a ginormous ring from Tiffany's but I dont think that will happen either :P

WhitePicketFence · September 2011

I'm a very sentimental person so I can't imagine ever replacing my wedding/engagement ring unless one or both of them were lost or stolen. I love them and I love that DH picked them out all by himself. My wedding ring is a wrap that fits against my engagement ring so I don't have a traditional band. As such, I would like to buy an eternity band eventually to wear with the set.

Rebekah1021 · September 2011

I will leave my wedding set alone. I like it the way it is.

I will accept a brand new right hand ring though

chicsub · September 2011

I'm not a materialistic person and usually I don't fret over "things", but when I lost my engagement ring for 3 weeks last month (it was smooshed under the wheel of our bed frame, the diamond popped out) I realized how much it meant to me. I didn't want to replace it b/c DH put sooo much work into getting the perfect band and chased around finding the best diamond he could afford (he even returned one).

However, I also have fantasies of being a secret rich person driving our Honda Civic while being able to afford much more a la Warren Buffett.

MainelyFoolish · September 2011

No. I picked the rings out myself, so I like them. Also, we weren't young and poor when we got engaged, so I got all the bling I wanted. Smile

cjsbdl · September 2011

No way. My husband designed and had my ring custom made. He put so much thought and care into it and it is by far my most treasured material possession...I cannot imagine willingly parting with it and would be devastated if I ever lost it.

StatlerWaldorf · September 2011

My original engagement ring was stolen many years ago. DH has talked about it, but I've never wanted to get it replaced. We've talked about getting an anniversary ring for our 10 year anniversary.

EnglishMajor03 · September 2011

laney75:
It seems really popular to "upgrade" or get an entirely new setting at some point, but the sentimentalist part of me really feels sort of bad about that whole idea. We picked out my setting together (he chose the diamond and had it in a "temporary" setting when he proposed) as well as my wedding band. If anything, I think I may ask for another band or two to stack on but I don't think I will get a new set. I love the stacked look and I can still honor the original jewelry we picked out together.
I've also thought about asking for a "right hand" ring but I don't know what I want, at all.

I'm going for a band to stack on top as well...

My cousin upgraded. I think it's sad. My memere (whose Husband died 30 years ago) still wears her wedding ring. I think it's so romantic.

I also recently met a couple who is rolling in it (dough-wise) but when they got married they didn't have much money. She still wears her original set. Again, so romantic! She's got other things to show off, but that is so important to her.

japatton05 · September 2011

I don't plan to replace my rings. My DH did a wonderful job picking the ones I have out. Unless one gets lost or is un-repairable, it's with me for life!

ENI36 · September 2011

Nope I love it. DH designed it himself (like on paper, with measurements and all!). Then took it in to several different jewelers before they got it just right. He worked hard to make sure they got it right and put a lot of effort and thought into it. It is awesome!

Stacyc625 · September 2011

nope - I love love love both.

even though I really haven't worn my e-ring in the last year. It has a higher setting and scratches Chase really easy.

I love both- no plans to change it up.

Even if I wasn't totally in love with both - I am not sure I would ever change.

Stacyc625 · September 2011

EnglishMajor03:
laney75:

It seems really popular to "upgrade" or get an entirely new setting at some point, but the sentimentalist part of me really feels sort of bad about that whole idea. We picked out my setting together (he chose the diamond and had it in a "temporary" setting when he proposed) as well as my wedding band. If anything, I think I may ask for another band or two to stack on but I don't think I will get a new set. I love the stacked look and I can still honor the original jewelry we picked out together.

I've also thought about asking for a "right hand" ring but I don't know what I want, at all.

I'm going for a band to stack on top as well...

My cousin upgraded. I think it's sad. My memere (whose Husband died 30 years ago) still wears her wedding ring. I think it's so romantic.

I also recently met a couple who is rolling in it (dough-wise) but when they got married they didn't have much money. She still wears her original set. Again, so romantic! She's got other things to show off, but that is so important to her.

I gush EVERY time I see or hear memere- I wish my kids got to know their memere.

hayleydeee · September 2011

No, I love knowing that I have what DH chose for me. I think it would make me feel sad to change it.

The only reason I could see would be if I lost it.

JakesBride07 · September 2011

I kept my engagement ring but we ended up buying a wedding band and matching engagment ring because the first engagement ring was white gold and apparently I am allergic to white gold.

Had we not done that we talked about upgrading at 10 years. With what I currently have I originally said I would have liked another band to go on top of the engagement ring part as our 5 year anniversary gift, but the more I think about it, I love my wedding set just the way it is. (Plus the original band is no longer being made, so in order for it to match I'd have to 'trade' the band and buy another, and I don't like the thought of doing that for sentimental reasons).

notreallyirish · September 2011

I can't imagine upgrading my ring. DH designed it himself (after some subtle hints from me as to what I would like). It is different...it has sapphires on either side of the center diamond. I get comments on it all the time. I have dreams/nightmares fairly regularly that it gets broken or something and I get really upset. Weird.

susanmosley · September 2011

I have never given this any thought.

RoninSirPuppyPup · September 2011

I would definitely upgrade my wedding band. It's just a simple gold band.

We've talked about upgrading my e ring some day. I like the though of having a different one but I don't know if I could. It's a princess cut solitaire, nothing fancy.

When it comes down to I probably won't want to replace my e ring completely. I might like to get the setting redone, add some side stones and upgrade my e ring.

Cherryblossoms07 · September 2011

No way. I love my engagement and wedding ring. Plus, I have a sentimental attachment to those rings that makes the idea of changing them seem wrong/less special to me. I know other people do it and it is fine - no judging here. It is just a personal thing for me. In fact, if DH ever changed my rings secretly as a gift I am not sure how I would feel about that even if it was a 5 carat diamond. I am also not a huge fan of jewelry though. The only pieces I ever wear have some sort of sentimental value attached to them.

MAMAxB · September 2011

Absolutely not.

But I'm also not a flashy/jewelry person.

My ring/band is identical to my mom's (except in white gold vs. yellow).

Every time I look it at I remember her and my dad and the way they've lived just amazing, simple lives. (this makes it sounds like they are deceased.. they aren't!)

If anyone saw my ring they would probably think it was really lame/simple haha

but I always loved hers and it's what DH picked out for me!

n&bcarlson · September 2011

No. First, because I helped pick them out and I chose ones that I wanted to wear forever. Second, because a new ring is not going to be the ring that I got when we got engaged, or the ring my DH gave me on our wedding day. It would just be a new ring. I don't see the point. If DH and I wanted to spend the money on new jewelry, I'd rather get something I don't have already instead of a bigger version of something I do.

MrsBalletStar05 · September 2011

No, jewelry isn't a huge deal to me and I like the ring I have just fine :-) I do want a mother's ring someday though.

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