Someone called me a "butterball" today- VENT

bpwife&mama · September 2011

I decided to call my aunt today (I live out of state and she lives in Michigan), she said she saw a picture of me from a week or so ago and said "you look like a butterball". I said, "like my belly?" lol (I think I was in shock or trying to process what she was saying to me). I told her I guess I have gained some weight all over and she said, "I guess so!" What a way to make a pregnant girl feel good about herself! I proceeded to cry for the next 20 minutes and called my mom to complain. She said, "well all pregnant girls get fat in their butt and hips". She too felt the need to point out a problem spot! UGH!!

Annya26 · September 2011

That was very thoughtless of them! I'm sure you look beautiful and besides that you are MAKING A BABY! They should be more gentle and kind!

bigbear · September 2011

Oy!

I just don't think people understand what they are actually saying. I've noticed that some people make a point of saying something like that, thinking you would want to hear how you are changing, getting bigger and "fatter" all around.

I'm sure you look beautiful!

I sometimes hear the oposite and that 's no fun either. I have been told a few times that I"m not feeding my child enough b/c I'm not gaining any weight. Which I am gaining weight, but in their opinion not enough....

Try not to let it bother you too much....

lovinthomas · September 2011

I understand how you feel. Just remind yourself that your are growing a baby and our bodies must change to do that. Those changes are beautiful!

mrs.larry · September 2011

wow. that was insensitive. Sad sorry you had to hear it, and I can see how that plus hormones would easily equal a good cry. hugs!

I'm sure you look amazing.

DEBBIE33CASEY · September 2011

ugh.... people are so sweet. don't let it bug you, though. Some people just don't have filters.

SunshineK14 · September 2011

Ugh I'm sorry! Some people just don't realize that what they are saying can be hurtful! I had someone at work tell me they could tell I was pregnant by my face now. Thanks, so my already chubby cheeks are looking even chubbier...let me go to the bathroom and cry now!

erineileen317 · September 2011

SunshineK14:
Ugh I'm sorry! Some people just don't realize that what they are saying can be hurtful! I had someone at work tell me they could tell I was pregnant by my face now. Thanks, so my already chubby cheeks are looking even chubbier...let me go to the bathroom and cry now!

THIS! MH was saying he can tell if someone is pregnant by their face and I asked him if I looked pregnant in my face and he said yes. I got mad and yelled at him for telling me I have a fat face. And he said I shouldn't be mad, because I'm "supposed" to look that way when I'm pregnant. I told him he was mean and there's no baby in my face! *pout*