Going to be my last baby and going through a lot of emotions

CA2006 · September 2011

DH and I have always wanted only 2 children and have been blessed with a perfect, amazing little boy and a healthy 2nd pregnancy (team green). As I approach the end of my pregnancy, I have so many thoughts. I will miss my time with ONLY DS so much. He is the light of my life and I know that my heart will open up enough to love both children that much, but it just seems strange right now. Also, the fact that I am never going to be pregnant again has hit me. I am savoring these last few weeks/days while I can. Combine that with walking through Target today and looking at all of the little baby girl stuff knowing I may never get to buy/use any of it made me a little sad. I will be overjoyed whether this baby is a boy or a girl, but it will be a bit emotional to know I won't ever have a girl (if it's a boy), I'm sure.

This is all normal hormones, right?! Big Smile

nicoleanderic · September 2011

I totally get that. Although my DH and I want more children I always think...what if I wouldn't be able to get pregnant again. What if this is my last pregnancy??! Such strange emotions do go with all of that! I too have been craving time alone with my DS#1. You put it perfectly that you know you will love both children, but I still sit here and think..."how could I love someone else as much as I love him...it doesn't seem possible!" Just think of your two little blessings! Good luck for a safe and healthy delivery!

spedi · September 2011

This is my last too. It will be boy #2...and I am ok with that. I love my 4 year old in all his boyness. I would love a girl too, but it isn't meant to be.

I am enjoying these last days of pregnancy. I know it is the end for me and it is bittersweet. I am not a healthy pregnant woman (GD, HBP, and always something else). I won't and don't complain about being pregnant because I know I am blessed.

I am trying to spend a little extra quality time with DS right now. I love to snuggle with him and read. I just know I have to make an effort to continue to do that.

CakeBatter · September 2011

I wanted 3, but we are two and through. I will be 39 next month, so we would have to TTC again very soon. Both of my pregnancies have been really rough, this one even more so, physically, mentally and emotionally. I just don't have it in me to go through this again. I'm still grieving the loss of having more kids, but as I get closer to the end of this pregnancy I'm feeling relieved that I will never have to go through this again.

Sarahbear621 · September 2011

I'm with you on 90% of what you said. We have a 14 month DS who is the center of my world. I can honestly say I never understood what love was until I had him. I love my DH with all my heart, but my DS is different. Anyhow we just wanted two children. I would probably go for more, but I HATE being pregnant and both of my pregnancies have been difficult for me (my first more so then this one). Anyhow this time we are expecting a DD and I was surprised. I secertly wanted another boy but I'm happy with a girl too. I think the grass is always greener on the otherside of the road. I talked a little with my husband about my feelings of savoring this baby more because it is our last time going through the newborn stage etc. And he actually gave some good advise. Try not to dwell on it too much. Instead look forward to all the future milestones like our first family trip, or the first time our family does.... For whatever reason it really helped me feel better about this chapter that will be closing in our lives and focus on the next one opening...as cliche as that sounds.

jonnygurl76 · September 2011

i get it....we aren't 100% sure if we will try for a 3rd, so this may be the last time i am pregnant and feeling these little baby kicks, makes me sad if i think about it too long. and it is also the last few days of just being DD and i while DH is working. but on the other hand i am so excited to have another and to give her a baby brother....it is mixed emotions.

mrs.lizzieb · September 2011

I was going through the same thing a few days ago. DS wants this to be our last baby, however, I'm kind of thinking that I want a 3rd child at some point. Nothing is set in stone right now, but the thought that this could be my last pregnancy, last baby, etc makes me sad. I'm now just trying to enjoy every minute with DS and this pregnancy in case this is it. I think what you're feeling is totally normal

madcat0701 · September 2011

totally normal feeling..I've had these feelings too. this is our last child. This will be a girl and we already have a 4 yr. old girl..No boys on the horizon. Can't dwell on it, but yes, it makes me sad at times too. On the other hand, I think of great things like having a healthy happy baby and a healthy 4 yr. old dauhter--that helps ALOT and makes me feel thankful

mattandbekah · September 2011

So...we are in the same boat. This is our last child, we arent planning any more..and while that decision isnt changing..its really hard to know that I will never be pregnant again, and at the same time, its really hard to know that it will never be just Jack and I during the days anymore.

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