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Pregnant after 35
GAPeach68
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First posting .....was anybody else's pregnancy NOT planned?
GAPeach68
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I am 43 and my husband and I have 2 boys, 13 and almost 12. We had ttc in my late 30's w/ 3 blighted ovums. We had resigned ourselves that we would be a family of 4 and were fine w/ that when I got pregnant. I am SCARED TO DEATH about my NT appt. next week and about telling people and them thinking I'm crazy. If the NT goes well, we will start sharing the news. We aren't sure if our sons will be excited or creeped out. We are very active so I know they are going to be worried it will cramp our style. This board isn't very active which tells me there aren't alot of us out there! I'm interested in hearing other stories. Was everyone else a nervous wreck about the NT screening? Thanks!
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Re: First posting .....was anybody else's pregnancy NOT planned?
I just turned 43 about two weeks ago and totally understand. My pregnancy was NOT planned. We have a 19 and 14yo and were planning on life without kids at home because my youngest is a junior in high school (overachiever!). My oldest (Girl) was excited and my son just thinks it's weird, but not upset. They're very accepting and look out for my well-being all the time.
I was nervous about all of the testing because of my age, but every test came out with fantastic results, including the GD. Although much more overweight than I was with my last two, I'm in physically much better health because I am more active. We still have days of denial that I'm pregnant, but with 3 months left, it is inevitable. Starting over after not having to care for an infant is sometimes scary, but I have to believe that either God has a crazy sense of humor or he believes this is something we can handle. Good luck and you'll soon realize that you worried about nothing.
Hi, my preganancy was not planned at all. I will be 46 when this one is born. My husband and I have been married for 4 years and we weren't able to conceive when we tried. This will be his first baby, I have two from previous marriages. My daughter will be graduating from college this year! She is 21. My son will be going to high school, he is 13. My daughter was very excited for us and my son was a little mad! He is getting used to the idea and is very helpful.
I have had a pretty easy time so far, just more tired. We opted not to have any invasive genetic tests since our ultrasounds have shown everything is normal. Although the thought of starting all over is a little scary, I do believe we were given this gift for a reason. After all, God only gives us what he knows we can handle.
Good luck to everyone. Enjoy the ride.
Not planned here either.... I am 41 and was or am in rocky relationship and we were on verge of splitting at beginning of Aug then poof here I am. It hasn't been easy as we both try to come to terms with what is being thrown at us and trying to resolve any issues we had and of course this has to be the worst time as my hormones are raging and I change my mind from one day to the next. He has 4 daughters from previous relationship 20, 16, 9, 7 and I have 3 , 2 sons, 20,17, and daughter 13. I am also terrified with sharing the news because some of my friends and family knew we were having issues etc.
I am 6 hrs away from all of my family as I moved away last yr to start this relationship and it hasn't turned out as it should have. I am terrified that I will be a single mom especially at this age. I am very confused and am trying to promise myself to be happy and not think of the worst at this time. I feel I am blessed to have this happen it just seems that with him it was wrong. But I do share your thoughts and am anxious about this whole thing. Just trying to get through everyday trying to find a happy moment.
It really helps coming to this board and seeing that I am not alone and sharing all of these wonderful joys of pregnancy is really helping to ease the anxiety
I go for my first appt with OB next Tues I am hoping I can get U/S and that will tell me that all is ok as we suffered a loss in jan 2010 at 7 weeks. Sorry for rambling 
Right here with you for the ride!
I was happily engaged for 6 months, trying on dresses, exerercising, etc, etc when I thought maybe I was pregnant. I'm 37 and have MS so was on some infusion treatments that absolutely advised against getting pregnant. In the beginning my doctor asked me to seriously consider termination, since they didn't know what the medications for MS could do to a fetus. They couldn't find a heartbeat at 6+ weeks and told me things didn't look good.
Two weeks later I returned and, surprise! It's Twins!! So I was in total shock and horror and worried about everything. Now I'm about 19+ weeks, doing fine, and expecting a boy and a girl. My husband and I did all the genetic testing (CVS and bloodwork) which showed 'elevated levels' for Downs for our son. Our daughter's levels are fine. I'm told that these tests are wrong all the time. We hope so. We find out for sure on Oct 5. Wish us luck!
Yesterday at the OB the doc said, "So are we excited?" and I smiled and said a telling, "I think so." Truth is, I'm scared to death, feel incapable and don't trust my body's ability to follow through on the miracle it is expecting of me.
Mine was only semi-unplanned. I'm 35 and we were planning to start trying this fall, but had a little (ahem) incident and here we are. So I'll be having our baby in the middle of his intensive one-year Masters program - perfect! And we won't live in the same city until I'm 7 months along! But at least we skipped the TTC part, which I was worried about.
I got questionable NT results which still have me a bit freaked out. I went in for a CVS and the specialist basically talked me out of it. My OB did not include the nasal bone in my risk assessment, because he doesn't believe it's accurate. The specialist DID include it, and that moved my risk to 1:450 or so. So at that number the CVS didn't really make sense. But I found it extremely stressful trying to figure out the NT results and then make decisions based on them. All these numbers are useful, but at the same time, they mean nothing if you're the one in 250 who miscarries from the CVS. It was a rough week after I got my NT results.
Best of luck with the testing and whatnot! I know I'm not exactly in the same boat...it's fun reading about you ladies who are on Round 2 of childrearing! What a ride! GL to you all.
Not only was mine NOT planned...but it was NOT thought to be possible! I started seeing a fertility center in February to freeze my eggs because I was 37 and single, and thought I was running out of time! My hormones were out of whack & they said my ovaries were shutting down & ceasing to function. They thought I was going through early menipause. I stopped ovulating, and stopped menstruating as well.
Then in early August I got back together with my boyfriend after a 6-month separation and we decided we can't live without each other so we best make it work! My doctor said spontaneously that month my body decided to ovulate out of the blue & sometime mid-August we conceived! Literally within two weeks of being back together I got pregnant. I've always wanted to be a mom & this will be my first child but I'm still in shock as to the way this all went down. The timing isn't the best since we wanted to get married first and then start a family. So I'm slightly nervous about telling my old-fashioned family we're expecting. But at the same time I have to keep thinking that everything happens for a reason and this must be meant to be! My little miracle
I will be 40 in a couple weeks. This was not planned. I am married. We have three kids, age 20, 8, and 6. We went on vacation without any kids and I got knocked up! I'm 17 weeks along now, and still trying to absorb this. My husband tells other people that he is excited about the baby, but he doesn't act that way towards me at home. We don't even have one single "belly pic" of me yet and I'm almost halfway through this pregnancy.
I know that once the baby arrives, I will not be able to imagine life without him or her, but at the moment I am just feeling bleh. I know all children are a blessing from God and I know that God has a plan that would be better than my plan, but I'm still struggling with my feelings. My husband is a wonderful man but is apparently also struggling with his feelings and trying to hide them from me, which is causing tension.
On a plus note, my 8 year old daughter is thrilled! She says "I wish the baby was coming this week". I know she will be a blessing and a wonderful big sister.
Definitely not planned here either. I had my first two (they're almost 10 and 8 now) and then my dh was done but I really wanted one more. I finally talked him into it, only to have troubles getting and staying pregnant, so there's a 5-year gap between my second and my third. Then we were done. We sold all our baby gear, all the clothes, etc. My youngest was 2.5 this summer when I found out that, surprise, we're having a #4! At first I was horrified at the thought, but once I wrapped my mind around it, I'm really excited. This is a choice I would never have made deliberately (I'm too old, we're not rich, no more bedrooms, etc) but since it's happening anyway, I'm thrilled and we'll make it work. Now it seems like it was meant to be.
41 y.o. mom of 2guys/2gals,
due 4/12/12