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January 2011 Moms
Teaching "no"
Has anyone been teaching their LO "NO"?
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Re: Teaching "no"
Yes. I was reading the post on 6-9 yesterday about it and a lot of people said that they don't understand "no" at this age. In my opinion, they've never going to understand until you teach it to them.
We started with it about a month ago. I try to save "no" for important things like electrical cords and pulling up on bookcases. Our TV is very low to the ground and she's allowed to pull up/walk along the stand, but she's not allowed to touch the TV screen. If she does, I say "Adrianna" and she looks at me, then I say "no touch", and 75% of the time she'll take her hand off. She doesn't always listen, of course, but we keep at it.
ETA: For less important things, I will say "that's not for babies" and remove her from the situation.
So does my DD, but she's learning. She also gives me the tantrum scream (which she learned from DS). Both kids get time-out for the tantrum scream. I never thought I'd be putting an 8 month old in her crib for time-out?.
Well my kid does not have an older toddler around and she knows that a tantrum will likely get her what she wants. I just don't understand how to not let her have it her way without her crying. I mean when she's fake crying, she screams soo loud, and we live in an apartment so we try to avoid that. I mean you'd know better, I think they will grow out of it when they get a little older and understand who is the real boss. Or maybe it's wishful thinking???
And my mom is terrible when I ask her for advice on disciplining at this age, because she says that she let us do whatever...but jeez they were so strict growing up, it's hard to imagine lol
This exactly. She's heard no enough about the table in the hallway (it's unstable and we don't trust it with her pulling up on it) that she rarely goes near it anymore. Now, if I could just get it to work when she's throwing a fit during diaper changes or after a bath!
We save NO for big things, so it has urgency in vital situations (hot stove, traffic, etc.) and so it doesn't become a game or a battle of wills as he gets older. Alternatively, we give a positive behavior and redirect. For example, it he bites me while nursing, I say, "Ouch, teeth hurt" and set him down. If he pulls my hair, I say "Use gentle hands" and hold his hand to stroke my hair or give him something else to play with. If he throws his food I say, "Food is for eating" if he does it again, I sign "all done" and we take a break.
More Green For Less Green
Yes. I say "No!" and he smiles and laughs at me and does it anyway..so cute..
I also say: That is not for babies.
With my oldest, I started no at this age. When he was over a year, it still never worked as a deterrent. He would just laugh and do whatever I didnt want him to do. So I took it out of my vocabulary and found other ways to get the kind of behavior I wanted (redirection/ignoring bad behavior/praising good behavior)
With this LO, we have no plans of using "no" as well. Plus, in the rare occasion we use it (like DS is running towards the road) it is really effective and startles him to stop what he's doing.
This. He's starting to get it. If he begins throwing a fit we pick him up and give him something else to want. I have noticed though that he responds better to H when he says NO than when I do. (And I'm not wimpy about it, either.) I've heard that babies/kids take the deeper tone more seriously.