sex ? for 2nd or 1st time moms past 6 wks

35baby · September 2011

My question is when you had sex again after waiting so long, how did it feel? Were you sore? Did your body feel loose and therefore made it hard for you to feel your SO? My boyfriend and I have done other things, but not Vaginal yet. Sorry if TMI. He reminds me that things will never be the same. That I will be to loose now and it won't feel as good for either of us. I just wondered if there was any truth to that? TIA

mama livingston · September 2011

We got the go ahead from my ob yesterday so we tried last night and it was PAINFUL...I could only take it for about a minute before I asked him to stop. But I had a c-section so I'm not sure if my experience helps at all.

carig63 · September 2011

Our first time back was after 5 weeks and my OB follow-up. We went slow and used lube (definitely include it!) and it was little painful at first, but not terrible. It just wasn't "good." The second time was a week later and while it was definitely different from before giving birth, it was still enjoyable.

I think your boyfriend must have interesting sources for his information, since he's never given and never will give birth. Yes, you will always be different...but sex will feel just as good for both of you eventually.

Gilliebear · September 2011

My DH and I did it twice on the weekend as he works away from home and I went to visit him. We took it slow, used lots of lube and it wasnt bad at all. I even had second degree tears and it didnt hurt. Some positions I felt a little more loose then others(Im doing my kegals more and more) and in these positions he just said I felt a little spongy. I dont know what that means but whatever. We both enjoyed it, we both had an orgasm and it was really exciting. You had a baby come out of there-it just takes awhile for everything to go back to normal. Kegals kegals kegals!

Matt Dvorak · September 2011

I had an episiotomy, so had stitches down there. It did hurt a bit and I had bleeding afterwards but it wasn't terrible. I would just make sure your SO knows that it might hurt and to take it slow for that first time.

35baby · September 2011

mananana You are correct I plan on using the P&P method although I don't really want to. I was pregnant twice but m/c so don't get the comment about the last pregnancy that crash into me mentioned. He has other kids so he knows what it is like to be with a women after she has given birth. I just wanted to hear opinions that's all.

StefaniePace · September 2011

Crash Into Me:
35baby:
mananana You are correct I plan on using the P&P method although I don't really want to. I was pregnant twice but m/c so don't get the comment about the last pregnancy that crash into me mentioned. He has other kids so he knows what it is like to be with a women after she has given birth. I just wanted to hear opinions that's all.
The pregnancy you just finished that resulted in Grace...

Wait.. you are pregnant again? Didnt you write a post about how your bf didnt want anymore kids and you were happy he bonded with your daughter.. why would you use the pull and pray method? Why dont you suggest to him that he needs a VASECTOMY !!!

What a douchey comment he made to you... And sex hurt the first time but its back to great!

StefaniePace · September 2011

Crash Into Me:
35baby:
mananana You are correct I plan on using the P&P method although I don't really want to. I was pregnant twice but m/c so don't get the comment about the last pregnancy that crash into me mentioned. He has other kids so he knows what it is like to be with a women after she has given birth. I just wanted to hear opinions that's all.
The pregnancy you just finished that resulted in Grace...

Wait.. you are pregnant again? Didnt you write a post about how your bf didnt want anymore kids and you were happy he bonded with your daughter.. why would you use the pull and pray method? Why dont you suggest to him that he needs a VASECTOMY !!!

What a douchey comment he made to you... And sex hurt the first time but its back to great!

etoyama · September 2011

Crash Into Me:
So what kind of birth control are you on? After your BF's reaction to your last pregnancy, I certainly would have my vagina locked up nice and tight. Well, if it were me, I would have left him already.
ETA: Oh and you all know you're thinking the same thing so don't jump myass about how rude I'm being.

Agree 100%. this guy doesn't deserve to have sex with you if he's saying things like that.

etoyama · September 2011

Crash Into Me:
So what kind of birth control are you on? After your BF's reaction to your last pregnancy, I certainly would have my vagina locked up nice and tight. Well, if it were me, I would have left him already.
ETA: Oh and you all know you're thinking the same thing so don't jump myass about how rude I'm being.

Agree 100%. this guy doesn't deserve to have sex with you if he's saying things like that.

Jennairess · September 2011

StefaniePace:
Crash Into Me:
35baby:

mananana You are correct I plan on using the P&P method although I don't really want to. I was pregnant twice but m/c so don't get the comment about the last pregnancy that crash into me mentioned. He has other kids so he knows what it is like to be with a women after she has given birth. I just wanted to hear opinions that's all.

The pregnancy you just finished that resulted in Grace...

Wait.. you are pregnant again? Didnt you write a post about how your bf didnt want anymore kids and you were happy he bonded with your daughter.. why would you use the pull and pray method? Why dont you suggest to him that he needs a VASECTOMY !!!

What a douchey comment he made to you... And sex hurt the first time but its back to great!

yep she did

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/58474609.aspx

Jennairess · September 2011

mananana:
Crash Into Me:

So what kind of birth control are you on? After your BF's reaction to your last pregnancy, I certainly would have my vagina locked up nice and tight. Well, if it were me, I would have left him already.

ETA: Oh and you all know you're thinking the same thing so don't jump myass about how rude I'm being.

Actually I think the OP posted a while ago about not liking condoms and wondering about BFing being birth control enough? Maybe I'm wrong, but I was thinking her "birth control" was going to be pull and pray...

and yep

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/58241868.aspx

catahoulatte · September 2011

Crash Into Me:
So what kind of birth control are you on? After your BF's reaction to your last pregnancy, I certainly would have my vagina locked up nice and tight. Well, if it were me, I would have left him already.
ETA: Oh and you all know you're thinking the same thing so don't jump myass about how rude I'm being.

Yes . What on earth has this guy done to make you want to have sex with him?? Please do yourself a favor and at least get on the pill. Also, don't put your bf's business out there and then call us rude on another board.

And DH said everything feels the same.

PSA to all- do your kegels. Stick out tongue

eesome · September 2011

This post makes me want to stop by and smack your BF in the face.

Again-- you have proved to us once again that he is a real piece of work.

LJR 84 · September 2011

It hurts like a b*tch for me! So much so that I'm going to see my OB tomorrow. I had a c/s and I'm BF'ing, and I've read it can sometimes be painful. (Due to dryness, drop in hormones, etc). It sucks.

catahoulatte · September 2011

Crash Into Me:
Hold up. Whut? I need a C&P.
At this point, I'm declaring MUD & troll. Nobody is this stupid, right?

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/2/58476304/ShowThread.aspx

2nd page. This is actually all-around an interesting thread, too. And I've thought MUD a few times with OP, as well.

StefaniePace · September 2011

One word...

Vasectomy!!!!!

35baby · September 2011

I wouldn't blame any of you gals for dissing my boyfriend when I clearly leave posts that show how inconsiderate he can be. When I mentioned how certain people can be D-bags I was commenting on another person's post. Like I told her, we should be able to write about anything we want here and hopefully we get advice and honest opinions. Alright so I love him want to remain with him and NO I DON"T want to be pregnant again so soon after just having my first child. I plan on discussing options with my doctor when I have my 6 wks appointment. I suppose it is drama that I am dealing with on a daily basis, but it certainly isn't made up. I can see how someone would think I am young since I am obviously dumb. For those with helpful advice and whom shared their experiences thanks.

jennypenny1014 · September 2011

Crash Into Me:

So what kind of birth control are you on? After your BF's reaction to your last pregnancy, I certainly would have my vagina locked up nice and tight. Well, if it were me, I would have left him already.

ETA: Oh and you all know you're thinking the same thing so don't jump myass about how rude I'm being.

Yes Actually I was thinking something much more brash than that. More like: "Jesus - your BF is really on a role with the sweet things to say, eh? Because he has kids already he is suddenly the foremost expert in postpartum vag? Gimme a break." What an asshat. Sweetie - please, for your sake and your baby's - get out while you still can. You dont deserve to be treated or talked to like that. ((hugs))

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