Lets be Honest!

TheRealNJhousewife · September 2011

So, I feel like having LO sleep in your bed is so frowned on by most people. I admit on here, I have DS sleep in our bed part of the night. But I really don't admit it to too many people in real life. I have such anxiety with him in his crib, because he always ends up with his face in the mattress! I know this is a bad habit, but how many of you do it!?[Poll]

klang621 · September 2011

I said other, because I DD doesn't sleep in our bed, but if need be, I would do it. I've never needed her to sleep in our bed, she does really good on her own. I could see myself putting her in our bed though if she had a hard time sleeping on her own.

jcsumm0 · September 2011

I don't, but she sleeps in the PNP right next to me. I don't think it's a "bad habit." Bedsharing is very safe if done correctly and people in cultures all over the world do it.

MouseInLux · September 2011

Our LO isin her bed until she wakes up around 6 then she comes in with us until I get up. If she has issues going to sleep (very rare) She will start in our bed then go to hers.

kimeve · September 2011

jcsumm0:
I don't, but she sleeps in the PNP right next to me. I don't think it's a "bad habit." Bedsharing is very safe if done correctly and people in cultures all over the world do it.

This!

rae_dylanzmom · September 2011

TheRealNJhousewife:
So, I feel like having LO sleep in your bed is so frowned on by most people. I admit on here, I have DS sleep in our bed part of the night. But I really don't admit it to too many people in real life. I have such anxiety with him in his crib, because he always ends up with his face in the mattress! I know this is a bad habit, but how many of you do it!?

1. Frowned on by most people? That sounds more about who you surround yourself with than anything else.

2. If you do it and don't talk about it, how many other people are probably like you?

3. What's the bad habit - LO sleeping on their belly or bedsharing?

McAllie5 · September 2011

jcsumm0:
I don't, but she sleeps in the PNP right next to me. I don't think it's a "bad habit." Bedsharing is very safe if done correctly and people in cultures all over the world do it.

I agree with this.

DS has spent a few mornings in our bed after sleeping most of the night in his pack n play (when he was about 2 months old). He's also spent a few whole nights in bed with me when we've been to a hotel. Now he's in his crib, though.

darmca · September 2011

We nap together during the day. To be honest I'm not comfortable with him being in bed with DH. Apparently men lack the intuition not to roll over on babies that moms have and my DH is on a lot of allergy medication that makes him a sound sleeper.

LynsiBHM · September 2011

For his first 2-3 weeks home, P slept on my chest in the recliner. After that, he moved to his RNP next to my bed. I was EBF so I'd nurse in bed overnight and sometimes let him stay in bed with me after the last feeding. (maybe from 5am-7am) That went on for 3-4 mos. Now that he's rolling around and i'm not EBF anymore, we don't really do it anymore.

SarahKate31 · September 2011

I chose Other because for us it is a once in awhile thing. DS usually STTN but if he's having a bad night and I can't get him back to sleep, I bring him to bed with me. I only do this if it's less than 2 hours before we have to wake up for the day. I really don't want to get into the habit of doing this but when I'm desperate I will.

JaneBeam · September 2011

DD has never slept in our bed but I'm not opposed to it...I remember I was able to crawl in bed with my parents during a scary thunderstorm when I was little and I'm sure I'll let LO do that too!

LuvMyBobs · September 2011

I voted "other" because DS sleeps in his crib and only his crib, unless he is sick. He sleeps in our bed when he had a cold last week. It was the only way I could get him to sleep longer than 20 min intervals all night long. His nose was so stuffy and he felt awful.

Before I had DS I used to think "how can anyone co-sleep with their LO, it is so dangerous" Then my LO had a horrible head cold and now I totally understand it.

virginiagirl11 · September 2011

I voted Other. I am incredibly heavy sleeper and that is why I would never, ever put DS in our bed.

If I were a light sleeper, we might consider it for a couple of hours on weekend mornings if we were willing to be very judicious with pillow and comforter use.

LoCarb · September 2011

I'm a BTDT mom and speaking from my own experience. DD1 is not a good sleeper and having bedrooms on diffn't floors we would get lazy and have her co-sleep w/ us. Yes, ppl frowned on the topic if I told them. She's 2 1/2 now and in the last 2 wks moved her back to her own room (a nightmare transition). It was rough to get up/down while pg w/ #2. 2 1/2 yrs she slept w/ us in bed. I swear this one does gymnastics in her sleep too and it was restless nights for all of us.

With #2 there is NO WAY we are developing the same bad habit. Of course, DH is extremely moody when he doesn't get good sleep and I've caught him several times sleeping in the spare room w/ baby after a night time feeding.

In conclusion, we co-slept w/ #1. I will not co-sleep w/ #2 but DH will.

jenny1523 · September 2011

darmca:
We nap together during the day. To be honest I'm not comfortable with him being in bed with DH. Apparently men lack the intuition not to roll over on babies that moms have and my DH is on a lot of allergy medication that makes him a sound sleeper.

I don't believe that is totally true. We bed shared for the first 4 months. I admit I was nervous at first about whether DH would roll on him because he is a heavy sleeper (he was nervous too) but he was very aware of DS being there and has never come close to rolling on him, at least not that I know of. DS is in his crib now, but in the morning I still bring him in bed.

tlxh7 · September 2011

I think your poll is to constricting - you jump straight from "part of the night" to "never", and there's definitely a step in between there. When DD was younger (around 6-8 weeks), she would wake up around 5am, and wouldn't sleep if we put her in the crib. I would bring her to our bed until she woke up again. So, my response is, "If needed, yes, but not on a regular basis."

daisy889 · September 2011

DD has slept with me since she was born, I thought i would never.. but look where i am.

She slept on me the first week, then in the swing for about a month, then up until about 2 months ago she slept on my chest on the couch.. i barely move and somehow learned to sleep on my back,

We transitioned her to her crib finally 2 months ago and she sleeps 9-4 ish then we go on the couch and sleep from there on out (about 6:30) I wouldnt put her in the bed with us because i am scared of DH rolling on her, but i do not oppose it anymore as i did before.

I wake up to the slightest little sound, I also believe i have superman hearing since giving birth haha

LeahRW · September 2011

I don't think this is a particularly controversial question, honestly. What's wrong with co-sleeping? LO sleeps in his crib most of the night (mostly because I like having the bed just for DH and me), but usually I bring him into bed with me for a couple hours in the morning so LO and I can get a little extra sleep after DH goes to work. I'm a bit reluctant to keep him in bed when DH is there, though. DH sleeps like the dead and has come close to rolling on him once or twice (I have my arms caged around him when he's in bed to protect him), so we just don't have him in bed if DH is sleeping any more.

kristennd · September 2011

I voted other.

He usually sleeps in his crib and has never been in our bed, which is a pretty unsafe one, but we have a twin bed in the nursery and sometimes he will sleep on my (or DH's) chest there for a couple hours in the morning.

J9melissa · September 2011

I've slept with him in my bed since he was 3 wks. DH sleeps in the spare room.

I never have the blankets past my hips and the pillow is all the way under me and no where near him. I feel safe knowing that he's right where I can feel him and I'm a super light sleeper.

BeetleLinz1125 · September 2011

I would honestly prefer to bedshare. I think DD sleeps better when she's with us than when she's by herself. But I don't think it can be an option for us because DH is an extremely heavy sleeper, and he is constantly afraid he is going to roll onto her. So I only do it when he is not in the bed (like after he leaves in the mornings for work and stuff). I am thinking about getting one of those things to put on the side of the bed so she could co-sleep more often if she is on the other side of me.

TheNewestMrsWilliams · September 2011

"Our LO isin her bed until she wakes up around 6 then she comes in with us until I get up. If she has issues going to sleep (very rare) She will start in our bed then go to hers. "

This. Or for naps, if I can't get her to fall asleep in her crib. I LOVE napping with her during the day...so sweet!

SFBayMrs · September 2011

Nope. I am too paranoid I would squish him. I have no problems with cosleeping, but it's just not for us.

mrambo3 · September 2011

When DS slept in his PNP next to me up until 8 weeks (when he moved to his crib in his room), he would come into bed with me once DH left for work. So he would be in bed with me from about 5am until we woke up around 7-9am.

I wouldn't have him sleep in bed with us all night unless absolutely necessary.

kathrnn · September 2011

jcsumm0:
I don't, but she sleeps in the PNP right next to me. I don't think it's a "bad habit." Bedsharing is very safe if done correctly and people in cultures all over the world do it.

Bolded.

We bedshare. My mom bedshared with both my sister and I. Her mom bedshared with her and my aunt. That's the "norm" for my culture, and none of us ever had an issue sleeping on our own when we hit the appropriate age. :-)

vanfox · September 2011

I said part of the night if necessary, but he hasn't in awhile now. I'm definitely not in the NO WAY NEVER camp, though, so that didn't seem right, either.

MrsI · September 2011

I said other. She STTN in her crib until 6-7:30 and then goes right back down until 9 after a bottle. For that 3 hour stretch she is in our bed. On the week days just with DH after I leave for work and with both of us on the weekends. DH will start first shift next week so it will only be a weekend treat.

Babalonia · September 2011

DS has never slept in our bed. He was in a bassinet in our bedroom until 3 months old then moved to his crib.

MammaBear81 · September 2011

I said other because we don't have DS sleep in our bed, but I BF, and at night I will lay down with him in our bed to nurse (and occastionally fall asleep if I'm exhausted), but as soon as he's done he's back in the bassinet.

StarJay · September 2011

I said other because I'll sometimes get him after he wakes up about 6 and bring him back to bed with me, but only b/c DH is always up and off to work by then, so LO gets his side of the bed.

Cjohn1211 · September 2011

I said other because 95% of the time J sleeps in his crib. But if he wakes up super early and has trouble going back down I will bring him in and let him play while I sleep next to him....eventually he falls asleep too.

Marcilene1 · September 2011

kathrnn:

jcsumm0:
I don't, but she sleeps in the PNP right next to me. I don't think it's a "bad habit." Bedsharing is very safe if done correctly and people in cultures all over the world do it.

Bolded.

We bedshare. My mom bedshared with both my sister and I. Her mom bedshared with her and my aunt. That's the "norm" for my culture, and none of us ever had an issue sleeping on our own when we hit the appropriate age. :-)

Yes

mum2monkees · September 2011

tlxh7:
I think your poll is to constricting - you jump straight from "part of the night" to "never", and there's definitely a step in between there. When DD was younger (around 6-8 weeks), she would wake up around 5am, and wouldn't sleep if we put her in the crib. I would bring her to our bed until she woke up again. So, my response is, "If needed, yes, but not on a regular basis."

She sleeps in her crib and STTN 98% of the time.

jjones59 · September 2011

I only ever let her lay with me when my husbands at work and I've come home----my husband words at 6 on the weekends and she wakes up then but we go and lay in mommys bed and fall back asleep after a bottle and some tv (yes I let her watch tv too). Only every if its her and I in the bed, never at night while were both sleeping.

musiscout · September 2011

I did it a couple of times in the very beginning, but it made me nervous. DH is huge and I didn't want him to roll over on her. Plus I couldn't sleep worried about that. I put her pach and play or RNP Sleeper right next to me in bed. I held her hand or stroked her hair. Now she sleeps in her own room and puts herself to sleep actually. It's better she's in their so I don't wake up at her every little sound and movement. But, sometimes we will fall asleep together in bed when Papi isn't home.

kacelle · September 2011

I voted "other." In the first few weeks, DD slept with us for part or all of the night. She sleeps in her crib now and goes back to sleep easily after waking to eat, but she does occasionally nap with me in our bed.

If DD woke constantly during the night and had trouble getting to sleep, I'd let her sleep with us so I could side-lie nurse. That's why she naps with me some days; on off days she fights naps and will only sleep a few minutes here and there.

LadyXaverian · September 2011

SS- For 1 hour each morning. Usually from about 5:30 or 6 a.m. until 6:30 or 7 a.m.

pooksmom · September 2011

klang621:
I said other, because I DD doesn't sleep in our bed, but if need be, I would do it. I've never needed her to sleep in our bed, she does really good on her own. I could see myself putting her in our bed though if she had a hard time sleeping on her own.

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