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Control Freak
It's me, I am now realizing I have developed major control issues. From simple things at home like always having to be the one putting DD#2 to bed because I'm afraid DH will mess up our system to no longer enjoying flying and not because of the actual flying but because I don't trust those in charge (pilot/traffic controllers) to not make mistakes.
Before having children I was what I would consider pretty laid back. I went with the flow.....for example when getting on a flight my only concern was how much fun I was going to have when I got there. Now I feel like I have to keep everything in check and it's exhausting me. I don't really get anxiety about it it's just I constantly have things on my mind because I feel like I have to do them all or make sure they are done right.
Anyone else have this happen to them after (or before) having children?
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Re: Control Freak
Admittedly, I'm a control freak too. I don't like DH to run the dishwasher because he uses too much soap. I don't like him to clean the bathtub because his method is to use a cleaner spray and then rinse- I scrub or wipe and rinse. I don't let him do the laundry because he packs the machine so tight or so unevenly, I'm afraid it will break.
There's so much more, but this is the simple stuff. I'm not ashamed or embarrassed. I'm just happy to keep a smooth running household! lol
Me!!! I'm a big believer in "if you want something done right, do it yourself" And by right, I mean MY WAY. LOL I truly appreciate when H helps around the house, but I swear he does a sh!tty job on purpose so I won't ask him to help. I have to go behind him and re-do everything.
I also have major issues watching other people with P. Hubby and my parents are ok, but the ILs and certain friends make me crazy. It's not a trust or care issue, they just do things differently. I actually have to leave the room sometimes when MIL is playing with him or feeding/changing him.
This is me, and its horrible. I have to do everything or i feel someone else expecially dh will do it wrong. I feel bad because i biiitch about being so busy, tired etc but im the one making it that way. Even dishes i have to do, i have tryed stopping but then its all i can think about. ughhh honestly i was looking into finding some sortof ways to deal with it, i think its a mild ocd.
One day my mom was over and she put the dishes away, it was nice of her but as soon as she went upstairs i had to run in and put them where they go. I thought i had to do it anyway so don't touch, ofcourse i didn't say this, but its definetly a problem.
It's like you are in my head, writing my exact thoughts....
Haha! I always tell DH that I think he is "claming ignorance" just so he can get out of having to do stuff.....if he does a really bad job then I will always do it. However he claims that it's just me being too picky. I'm sure he is right but its till bothers me:)
I wouldn't say that I'm THAT bad, but especially with things regarding DD I like things done a certain way. Putting to bed was one thing, but as she got a bit older, I realized how much DH loved having that time before bed to bond with her too.... then I felt bad that I had been denying him that priviledge for all those months.
It's hard to let go sometimes, but LO will not be broken. Just because it's not the way YOU might do something, that doesn't mean it's bad.
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Me too. I'm a complete neat freak and on top of that as PP's said, I like to do everything myself so I know it's done right. My mom is the only one other than DH that I feel comfortable leaving DS with and she lives 800 miles away
. Glad I'm not the only one!!!
I am just like all of you too...until hubby pointed out this. He would rather the dishes be done and put away the way he does it instead of waiting for me to be able to do it the way I do it. Sure, I like my dishes nested properly and my plastic containers stacked in a certain way. But they are put away. Even though it bugs the hell out of me, I have started learning how to let go. It's the only way I am getting through it all...I can only do so much!
Now that's not saying I don't get pissy when something is broken destroyed or ruined....like when SIL put my digital meat thermometer in the dishwasher...or when my purple towels were washed with the light blue towels so now they are tye-dyed. I was PIIIIISED. But I had clean towels. I still don't have another meat thermometer though lol.
Me too! I make dh vacuum the garage - spider webs and all.