Is what DH just said to me on the phone. He's at work now and called to ask what time the kids' well checks are tomorrow. I said 10:30 and then after that I'm going back to work and you can take them home. He said "well maybe we'll go to the park". I said "Uh yeah sure" (he has never taken them anywhere alone and actually has never taken just Nicholas to the park). I will be extremely shocked if he does go to the park.
Wish him luck if he does.
Re: "Maybe we'll go to the park tomorrow"
Its a slippery slope. Words become thoughts, thoughts become beliefs, beliefs become actions, actions become habits and habits become character.....I know you think so much more of your husband than what you share in these posts about his SAHD abilities. I understand that they might be a bit tongue and cheek because guys don't "cope" the way women do (and they complain WAY more than we do). They don't always seem to have that inner drive to make things happen without a lot of outside leadership.
I guess my question is, are you helping his efforts or hurting his efforts with the way you think about him and his efforts?
I think so highly of you (if I didn't give 2 hoots, I wouldn't dedicate time holding a bottle with my chin and typing this mainly with 1 hand - if I didn't care, I'd roll my eyes and move on) and I would want someone to give me some perspective....
HUGS LADY! This mama/wife/"being everyone's cheerleader" thing is the hardest gig out there!