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December 2011 Moms
No baby shower?
Is anyone else unsure of whether or not a shower will be thrown for them?
Our niece told me to "just tell her when" and she'd get one together but it feels odd to have to ask for one.
I suspect my friends would rather have a meet the baby shower (common among my friends and around these Alberta parts).
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Re: No baby shower?
i think that is what she is going for but we live in different states now. i am a planner so i hope she tells me something soon so i don't plan something else that day!
Nope... no one has even mentioned a shower, and there is no possiblity of one being thrown as a suprise since we live across the country from both sides of our families.
To be honest it kind of hurts. Even though DH & I believe that being we are baby's parents that we should be repsonsible for providing for her, etc (which is why we set up a baby fund while TTC), we still want to celebrate and it hurts that no one has even mentioned one. This is our first and the first grandchild on his side and the 12th on mine.. so for my family I think they are just over babies & throwing parties but I figured someone on his side would at least offer since it is the first baby. Just makes us kind of sad.
But with that pity party over... a shower is a gift and I can't complain that no one has offered. I'd also find it uncomfortable and tacky to ask for one, so I can understand how you'd feel weird bringing it up...
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Nope, no shower here either. Like PP, DH and I believe in supporting our own child. At the same time the lack of excitement hurts. It would be fabulous to have a little celebration for the LO to make us feel like we have family support.
I have a feeling that there will be some sort of surprise...but probably just wishful thinking. We're team green and I have a feeling my mother will push for a shower after LO is here. I'm pretty anti this since it will be a horrible time of the year for us and we'll already be prepared.
Sadly, sometimes people don't see how our wishes play out.
I see why it would feel "odd" for have to "ask" shower. That's not a real good way to offer to give a baby shower.
No shower for me, they don't really do them in England and in Canada we generally do them after the baby is born anyways.
I am getting anxious about items being bought though. EVERYONE has told me to quit buying things because they won't have anything to get, and yet we haven't received anything from anyone! It's only a little over two months now. I just want to buy it and get it over with, why don't people get that due dates are estimates and I don't really want to be wondering why I will need to buy at 39 weeks?
It's that old saying, *** or get off the pot. Either buy me something or don't, but don't tell me to not buy things and just wait around!
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I COMPLETELY feel you! My mom gets upset when she sees us buy something for baby. She keeps saying "they'll be nothing for me to buy!". Yet she hasn't offered to buy anything or claimed anything she wishes to buy. I want to be prepared dammit! I'm not having a shower and I'm not going to wait around till the end to see what may or may not be gifted. ....She did the same thing with my wedding. I spent the day after my wedding buying needed items (like sheets) just so I could sleep in my new bed. ...I think she ended up throwing a fit and giving me money.
My mom says the same thing! But I tell her that I can't help it.. I have to buy my baby cute little clothes! It's what I've most looked forward to!
Our families had a shower for us when we visited back in June, and my friends from my old city/school where I taught are throwing me one this Saturday. It also looks like DH's work friends are throwing us a small something in November, and I think there may be a small something at the school I teach now, but I'm not counting on it. We're feeling very loved!
I'm also enjoying it because I'm really against showers for subsequent children... we'll probably do some kind of welcoming open house but request no gifts for any children we have after the first one!
I didn't know if it was a Canada thing or just an Alberta thing that showers are typically post-baby. Anyone else have feedback on this?
I too have had a few "oh you're leaving nothing for other people to buy you". My husband knows the answer to this is "there are many things a baby needs, we have just purchased a few large essentials (carseat, bouncy chair, cloth diapers) but are leaving toys, clothing, books, blankets.." to those who wish to buy baby a gift.
I don't know if I'm getting one or not. Nobody has talked to me about one! But it'd be kinda tricky to have one since everyone that would come to it is so spread out across different states. I don't really have a lot of local girlfriends or family.
My mom has hinted that my MIL might be throwing me one though....but if that's true, it probably won't be until right around my due date, when she and other family are planning to come up. That'd be cool, but I'd rather they just told me they were planning one, so I'd know for sure, rather than trying to surprise me. Right now I don't know if I should be trying to buy all the stuff I need or not, and I don't want to wait until the last minute!