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Sept1799
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The next time you want to complain about your MIL
Sept1799
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Think of mine........
My MIL has always "forgotten" my b-day. I have never received a card or a gift from her except once when we had a special party for me. Other than that, she never had acknowledged me. Do I care, not really.
My MIL has never seen my dd........she knew when she was born (becuase it was a plan c-section and happened to be on the day she has off) and we only live about a 3 hour drive away. She didn't want to come to her baptism, after her son asked her to come.
She gave us a gc to bru when she was born which was ok. But never has acknowledge her since. She never sent a baptism card, nothing for Christmas, Easter or her first b-day.
A while back, my MIL apparently moved in with a guy and never told us. My dh found out becuase he went over there to visit his mom and when no one answered the door, he began to leave the condo. He saw a strange man enter the condo and stopped and asked if he was there to see his "roommate" and introduced himself. He later became her DH and my DH (her son) was told well after the fact.
There is a ton more......but before you think your MIL is a BAD person (and I am sure there are some worse than her....) just think about mine first.....
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Re: The next time you want to complain about your MIL
Wow! I never thought I would say this, but could our MIL be the same person?! Wow. But it honestly makes me feel not so alone and a little relieved not be the only person dealing with this. Its so hurtful and I don't even know what to tell DS when he gets older.
DH is pretty much having the sh** or get off the pot talk with her this weekend. She doesn't even know I'm pg because DH doesn't want her to know.
Thank you for sharing this because honestly I've wanted to say the exact same thing.
Your welcome. Its the way life is...and you have to deal with it. Not everyone has that warm and fuzzy mil that we all would like.
My mil doesn't know about our second pg....mainly becuase she has not conacted dh in a long time. I am sure if she did, dh would tell her. He doesn't like what she does but he has said, she is my mom. I guess I can understand that to a point.
But I am just glad that we live far enough away I don't have to worry about bumping into her out in public.....
Don't worry when the time to tell your son does come, you will find the words to tell him something that won't hurt him to much.
My grandmother on my fathers side was very cruel and didn't care much about me and well my parents did very well at telling me about the way she is...
Good luck
This!!!
Your child is almost a year and a half old and she's never seen her?!!?
Granted I live more like 3miles from my mom and MIL, but my family who live OVERSEA'S, like 30 hrs away, has seen my son more then your MIL has seen DD.
My in-laws forgot my son's b-day one year. They are also late to his party every year when they do remember to come. SIL's son received a pile of gifts last Christmas and mine got a pack of M&Ms and a ten dollar bill. They have also introduced my son as their step-grandson to a waitress once when introducing the family. He's been in the family for 8 years now and my husband adopted him...
We're skipping Christmas this year with them.
You and I might have the same MIL!
OP, just think of it this way: wouldn't you rather she leave you alone instead of interfering in your relationship??? I wish mine would... (Don't get me wrong, I'd love to have a close relationship with my MIL, but it's not possible since she's such a selfish nut job.)
Ok, we DEFINITELY have the same MIL, and I feel the exact same way. I just wish she would move to Florida.
Wow this is just horrible.
I lol'd because I'd never make my own post either....
We don't talk to my MIL. When I first met her, she wouldn't talk to me. The second time I met her, it was Christmas. We had bought her and DH's brothers gift cards, she hadn't even thought to give him a card. And while there, she demanded a gift back that she'd bought him for his 16th birthday (a futon). DH was appalled, since his brothers on the same day had received a surround sound stereo and a weight machine system. This is of course, after DH wired her thousands of dollars while he was in the army, to help them out, that she gambled away, losing her house. And of course, after we stopped talking to her, she kept trying to find us, reminding him that he owes her money. Because you know, he cost a lot to raise. And she wants that money back. My DH only has memories of a constantly addicted mother (name your addiction, she's had it), raising his brothers (who won't talk to us now because his mom convinced them he left them for me) and 20 addresses across the US.
She still tries to find us sometimes. Kind of creepy. We were on the news for something and because they printed our names on the website for the video, she found it and commented on it.
My MIL will probably never know her grandchildren. We don't want that in our lives. We've tried to contact the brothers, but the one close (6 hours away) was selling drugs last we saw him, the other is in the Navy across the US (and power to him, he was always smart).
And scene.