Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Oem617
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Re: ***Waiting to O***
How many days till O? 2-5
Trying anything new? More sex. Checking CP
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? June 20, Gemini
DS - Born 6/17/12
DS#2 - Due 2/11/15
Progesterone B/W at 11DPO (9/21/2011) - 3.5 (Ovulatory)
HSG (10/3/2011) - Normal!
SA (11/8/11) - Normal except for low morph. (18%)
SA (11/23)- same as above
BFP #1 - 12/16/11
Due date - 8/26/12
Its a BOY!
DS born 9/2/2012
How many days till O? Today hopefully
Trying anything new? No
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? September 25, Libra
Have a great day! You too!
Happy belated birthday!
DS - Born 6/17/12
DS#2 - Due 2/11/15
How many days till O? Not sure... This is my first month charting and i'm not sure if I've already O'd or not.
Trying anything new? Charting, green tea and OPK's
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? August 8 What sign are you? Leo
Have a great day! You too!
Thanks!
How many days till O? about 10 give or take
Trying anything new? OPK's, and BD EOD for two weeks around the FW.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? March, I am a pisces.
How many days till O? around 15
Trying anything new? Green tea
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? 06/15 What sign are you? Gemini
Have a great day! YOU TOO!
Trying anything new?: not really. Aiming for ED sex in my FW, though if this cycle's batch of fertile CM is like last cycle's, I'm going to be exhausted.
Birthday: Jan. 8 (Elvis' birthday!) Sign: Capricorn
Happy Wednesday to you all!
dx: LPD & low progesterone 11/2011
BFP #1 August 23
How many days till O? FF says 14, although that could be wrong since I never charted before.
Trying anything new? This is our first cycle trying to conceive. I have been charting my CM on FF.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? November 23. I?m a Sagittarius.
How many days till O? I hope just 1.
Trying anything new? Been drinking green tea, sex EOD. Tried checking CP, but kind of abandoned it.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? August 1, Leo
Have a great day! You too!
Married Bio * BFP Charts
Ellis 31 we have the same birthday!
How many days till O? Not sure exactly maybe 11?
Trying anything new? Not temping the whole cycle, and trying not to think about ttc as much. Trying to get in a lot more sex (EOD and then ED when OPK turns positive), green tea, POM juice, drinking more water
Falling in Love! November 2014
Happy Hump Day! You too!
How many days till O? I think any day now....I just got EWCM
Trying anything new? Not temping...taking it fully relaxed....first month just checking CM
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? May 20, Taurus!
Have a great day! You too!
How many days till O? I don't know. My cycles are all over the place
Trying anything new? Not really. Just eating better and exercising more.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? October 14th. Libra.
How many days till O? Hopefully today. I have had lower temps the past two mornings but this is my first cycle temping so we will see.
Trying anything new? Temping and CM but will start using OPKs if this cycle is a bust.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? May 5, Taurus
How many days till O? about 13.
Trying anything new? back to temping.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? Late July What sign are you? Cancer
How many days till O? well, I'm cd 32 and no O yet... maybe in the next week. FX.
Trying anything new? epo, green tea, preseed, no diet coke.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? August 15th. Leo.
He's my fairytale, a dream when I'm not sleeping.
<a href="http://s279.photobucket.com/albums/kk121/behapybride/?action=viewHappy Hump Day!
How many days till O? 4 - 6 I think (hope).
Trying anything new? Get more sleep, and more sex.
GYKY: April, Taurus
Have a great day!
Happy Hump Day! Thank you!
How many days till O? FF gave me my CH today, but I'm pretty sure I still have 1 or 2 more days to go until O. The OPK today was darker but still not yet positive.
Trying anything new? MH is actually home this time, so that should help!
GYKY: What day/ month is your birthday? What sign are you? Libra!
Have a great day! You too!
ugh - sorry this format is all janky
How many days till O? 14 give or take. Ugh.
Trying anything new? More sex closer to and AFTER O. Last cycle we burned out a bit bec it looks like I O'd late.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? February 1, Aquarius.
Happy humping day
TTC since 3/2011
BFP #1: 11/23/2011 EDD: 8/8/2012 c/p: 11/28/2011
BFP #2: 3/7/2012 EDD: 11/17/2012
How many days till O? Just got AF so FF says 17
Trying anything new? Yes Charting trying to get it figured out before we start trying in December!
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you?
June 28th, and Cancer
Have a great day! You have a great day too!
Hi all! New to this board
How many days till O? 3
Trying anything new? Nothing at all
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? May..stubborn Taurus
How many days till O? Not too sure, my first cycle trying but if I guess I am average and have a 28 day cycle then 9, new to this sorry if I am using wrong terms.
Trying anything new? no
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? Nov. 17th Scorpio
Have a great day! You too!
Trying anything new? Charting, and then I will continue to use OPKs, check CM, and use Preseed.
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? End of May, Gemini
The only Easter Bunny I can get behind.
Maxwell Joseph 4/09 Lucy Violet 10/12
Happy Hump Day!
How many days till O? About 16
Trying anything new? Nothing new - although I am excited to have FF VIP now!
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? I'm a January Aquarius
Have a great day! You too!
How many days till O? opks are fading in very slowly so I'm still thinking 3-5 days
Trying anything new? sex EOD until +opk
GYKY: What day/month is your birthday? What sign are you? Valentine's Day! Aquarius