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sefaniee
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2nd+ TTCers
sefaniee
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Do you feel less anxious this go around? It took over a year with DS and I was so worried that I would never conceive the first time around because of family issues. It's so nice this time around to relax and just let nature takes it's course. I'm in the 2WW and haven't really thought much about it, but last go around it seemed to take forrrever. Anyone else feeling better this time around?
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Re: 2nd+ TTCers
That's great that you feel more relaxed about TTC! For some reason, I'm the opposite. The first time around we were sort of just letting it happen when it happened. I am worried that it's going to take a long time to get pregnant with our 2nd. I hope I'm wrong!
I've kind of been the same as last time. I've gotten a couple spazzoid cycles out of the way where I'm a notch short of obsessive and now I've settled in to normalcy and letting it happen
In a very controlled environment, mind you.
Actually, I am MUCH more anxious. We were lucky last time. We got KU the 1st try. This time we've only been TTC for 2 months, but I have been a basketcase the entire time.
I think I may have some fears because my Mom had trouble conceiving after me. She went through 10 years of fertility treatments and many miscarriages including 1 (last) tubal pregnancy. After all those years of trying, she and my Dad "gave up". Four years later (when I was 16), she got pregnant.
Needless to say, I have a timeline. It's not unreasonable, I'm willing to try for a few years. But, if it doesn't work- I'm fine with it. I'm just going to make sure it doesn't work later, when the kids would have a huge age gap. Don't get me wrong, I love my sister- but it's just not the ideal situation, IMO.
I'm much more anxious this time around-- perhaps because I know how great it is and I want more! Also, with each month that passes the gap between my DS and his sibling grows, which bums me out. I'm trying really hard not to look too much into the miscarriage/TTTC rates for women post-IUD, but I can't help but wonder ;(
It's good that you are laid back and excited-- stress is definitely NOT conducive to baby making
GL!
Awww man I'm sorry to hear ya'll are stressing more, that's not fun at all. I'm sure my anxiety will change a little more each month but I'm really just trying to stay positive because as littlewifey says...stress is definitely not conducive to baby making and I guess I'm trying to make that my motto.
Chrissie...did you see my PM?
Crap ... no.
::rushes off to check::
Really wish they could alert us when we have PMs.
Responded.
I agree...that's always annoyed me!
Back at ya.
Yes that would be very nice. How long have you been trying with the 2nd?
Ya this is our first "official" cycle trying since I just barely got my first pp period. GL and hopefully I won't be talking to you about it in 6 months!
The only Easter Bunny I can get behind.
Maxwell Joseph 4/09 Lucy Violet 10/12
TTC since 8/09 . MC 1/15/10 @ 7w4d // 6/2/10 @ 8w2d
TTC with no menstrual cycle since 6/10, finally got one 8/25/11
I'm just a bit anxious because I want them close together. I really wanted them 18 months apart like me and my sister are, but that has come and gone and I need to just get over it and remind myself that I can't plan these things.
And now that I've ovulated, I had a very brief freak out moment this morning like - what if I actually got pregnant?! I think that has to do with the fact that LO is still not STTN and I was up at 6am.
I'm very anxious. My little man was a special little surprise. This time DH thinks I'm going TTC crazy b/c of the charting and what not. But you know what, I don't care lol
I'm anxious that I'll start to freak out during my 2WW at every cycle.
So while I'm TTC #2, I'm just learning charting and all the anxiety that goes with TTC.
Like Foreigner says "It feels like the first time. Feels like the very first time"
The gap is getting larger for me too and I feel like my girls (who are 27 months apart) will be "friends" and this LO will be sort of left out as the "baby". I know this is irrational...but I really wanted them closer together.
Carina 12.28.2010 | Aurelia 9.23.12 | Chart - Round 3
We've been trying for 8 months (going on 9) and I'm just starting cycle 5. I was just diagnosed with PCOS last week. So, I'm hoping we finally have things figured out!
Darling Little Sydney born 12.22.12
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Nope, I'm more anxious. It took a year with the first and I really don't want to try for a whole year again. I'll be AMA soon and I wanted our kids to be 2-3 years apart. Plus, I had a c-section and you sign that CYA disclosure that says you could have fertility problems and miscarriages in the future. So, that has me worried more.
Really? I didn't have to sign anything like that.
This for me too. With the girls I got pregnant cycle 1 of "not preventing." This time around, we were "not preventing" for 2 months, and have been trying for 3 months. So technically this is cycle 6. I don't want a big age gap between the girls and baby #3.
Ok, I thought it was just me! Granted, I don't remember a lot from that day, but I don't remember signing anything that said that.
Oh man, yes you definitely have a reason to be anxious. I will keep you in my thoughts that this one sticks. T&P to you girl!
Good luck, I hope figuring that out is what will do it for you!