Hi ladies! I'm in desperate need of advice. I just got my BFP Friday night, so that puts me at about 4 weeks. DFH is deploying in January and he won't be around for the birth. I know I'm not the only one who has ever gone through this, but any advice on how to not lose my head? I'm really upset DFH (probably DH soon!) won't be there when our first-born enters the world.
Re: Recent BFP and deployment looming ahead
My husband left when I was still early in the first tri so I understand the emotions you are going through right now. You both will have good days and bad days but try not to let it get you down too much. Keep busy. Go work-out (if you were pre-BFP), work more hours, visit friends & family or find a new hobby.
Here are some things I've done to keep my H involved in the pregnancy:
After you have the baby you can do all of the same things you did while pregnant except substitute belly with baby.
Good luck!
Wanted to wish you the best and stay strong! Congrats on the BFP! Sorry I'm not any help!
I wish Marines got R&R, that would be amazing!
We're going to try and skype, or at least videotape so he can watch when he returns home. And he made me promise to send ultrasounds and weekly belly pictures. Hehe, hes already trying to get leave to be at my first appt next week
To keep myself busy, I'm thinking of just working more, hopefully right up to my due date and then take a long, restful maternity leave. (And possibly then a leave of absence until he goes EAS!) This poses another question. (And I know I'm getting ahead of myself.) Is moving a 2-3 month old and then moving again 10 months later too much?
I'm in a similar situation - SO deployed early in the first trimester and he won't be back until after LO arrives. We are also planning on moving (twice!) - once when he gets home and then again about 7-10 months later.
Its a lot to think about, especially since moving with an infant isn't the easiest thing to do. I take it one day at a time and try not to stress the details. Being together as a family whenever we can is the most important thing, so as long as we keep that in mind, I figure everything else will just have to fall into place.
The advice I get most from friends and family is to keep busy, focus on having a healthy baby, and to not stress about things (like coordinating a move) until I have the power to do something about it.
The naval hosptal here has it to where they can set it up with his command if at all possible for him to be able to witness the labor and also ultrasounds! they can have it go to a computer over there so he can see it! I would ask once you start going to your appointments and see what they can offer you! and just stay super busy! send as much stuff to him as you can to keep him in the loop! I helped my friend make her husband a "weekly newsletter" it was cute! and she would spend her week getting stuff together for it! and we would mail them out to him! he LOVED them!