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at what age would you allow your child to try out for a select sport team (where some kids will be cut)

DS is 9 and his skill level is beyond a rec team (basketball) and we think it is time to have him try out for a competitive team

a friend thinks we are doing harm because what if he doesnt get picked

I dont see it as a big deal...but i am also over the everyone gets a trophy rec league...not everyone is an mvp and sometimes you dont get picked

what are your thoughts on the topic?

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  • Novas MommyNovas Mommy
    I think if the child is mature enough to understand what it means then it doesnt matter how old they are. I would try explaining it to him. I wouldnt be worried about it either. Eventually, he'll learn so why not now?
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  • selenamarinoselenamarino member
    my 8 year old plays on a competitive baseball team (2 x's league champs I might add) however, this year his coac has indicated that each child will have to try out and not everyone will return.  It will be his first year to try out.
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  • MammaBear81MammaBear81 member
    I agree with PP,  If your DS has skill and you want him to be challenged, a competitive team and private clinics are the next step.  I can't say from experience (DS1 is only 6, he plays soccer on a rec team), but I don't see how it can do him any harm?  If he doesn't make the cut, practice, do some clinic's and try again!  We have a travel soccer team that starts at 8 and DS will be trying out for that (pending he still wants to do soccer in 2 years).  GL!
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  • neverblushedneverblushed member

    If you were talking about a 6 y/o, I might have a different answer, but I think a 9 y/o can probably make a choice about whether he wants to try out for a more competitive team.  If you're supportive and allow him to take ownership of the decision, it'll work better no matter what the outcome.  If he gets picked, he'll be happy and you'll be there to cheer him on.  If he doesn't get picked, then he gets to be an above-average player on a rec team, and you'll be there to cheer him on.

    On the other hand, if you push the decision on him, and he doesn't make it, his disappointment will be complicated by the feeling that he's letting you down.  So lay out his options for him and let him make the choice. 

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  • shouldbworkinshouldbworkin
    I would give him the choice after discussing that he may not be selected for any reason and that he can still play b-ball recreationally if he's not picked.  If he's ok with it, then I'd go for it.  I don't think you'll do harm if he's informed.  At some point, they need to learn that they may not always get what they want.  I don't see that as harmful, especially at 9 y/o.
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
    The first thing to consider - how self-driven in the sport is he...  If he is, then go for it or see about a team that is a participatory team yet is competitive... 
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