Anyone here that wanted a c/s vs. a vaginal birth?

Linz29 · September 2011

I here so many stories of people who had a c/s because it was an emergency or because labor was not progressing. Did any of you ladies know from the very begining that you wanted to deliver via c/s.

From the minute I found out that I was pregnant, I knew I wanted a c/s and told my OB at my first appt. Thankfully my OB practice will do a c/s if you want.

kmain1103 · September 2011

Yep, me!!! Big Smile

I didn't think I would be able to get one though cause insurances usually don't cover "elective" C-Sections; but as it turns out my uterus is in some weird position that would make it difficult for the baby to come out PLUS I have bad herniated discs in my back and neck that they are afraid would rupture depending on how bad labor would be....so they are pretty sure they can get me approved for a C-Section, yay!!! Smile

SarahRae812 · September 2011

Though I never considered having an elective c/s, I was pretty excited when I learned DD was breech. There was a point when my OB thought she flipped & I got really nervous at the thought of a vaginal birth. I was perfectly happy with a c/s and have no desire to try VBAC for the next LO.

Linz29 · September 2011

Glad to hear that I'm not the only one. Everyone told me I was crazy instead of being supportive. People looked at me like I had 2 heads. I did end up with a c/s at 36 weeks due to high bp. I was really happy with how everything turned out. I absolutely had no desire to try to push a baby out.

D&HMom · September 2011

me too. all the research I had done on twins had shown that the safest way to deliver them was cs. I was totally scared about the double wammy! I told my ob at my 18 week appointment that was what I wanted. I ended up going into labour 3 hours before my scheduled section and could see that was not going anywhere pleasant! A scheduled c is a very civilized way to have a baby (or two!)

lucylea · September 2011

I had always assumed I would have a c-section since almost everyone in my family experiences prodromal labor ending in a c-section. I also had a stress fracture in my pelvis in my early 20s and was nervous about a vaginal delivery effecting that. I discussed my concerns with my OB and we were taking a play it by ear approach when I went into labor on my own. As it goes in my family I also stalled into prodromal labor and ended with a c-section. The second time around I scheduled it from the beginning with no desire to attempt a VBAC.

Mrs. Alice · September 2011

Only because I was having twins. I would have been really nervous to labor and delivery twins vaginally due to the high risk. I don't understand and can't relate to one would prefer a c/s with a normal low risk pregnancy.

JJGilmore · September 2011

I also have opted for a scheduled c/s. I am high risk for my age (37), having MS, and twins. My sister (who has had 2 c/s) became really depressed for not delivering "naturally" (her words, not mine). I am the opposite--I want all the drugs they will give me to have the least painless procedure as possible. People are shocked when I say that I would be okay with being totally knocked out. There's a big chance for complications with my labor, so I think a scheduled c/s is very humane. Mostly with the c/s I am worried about the recovery afterwards. I've heard it can be very painful.

Mrs. kelli hendry · September 2011

My husband i and i talked with my dr and he said i was small pelvic size, baby was breeched & i had pre e and couldn't labor well with that so we were thrilled to have a c section and know it was scheduled and when she would be here

def not crazy in my eyes.

redhotchili83 · September 2011

Im opting for a C-section this time around for three reasons.

1. Im having twins and the risks are pretty high for twin births.

2. I want my tubes tied anyway and it'd be pretty simple for them to tie things right up during the procedure.

3. I had a hellish V birth with my first son (3rd degree epi, 60 stitches, major bleeding) and I'd prefer not to have to do that again.

S-Tuna · September 2011

My LO has birth defects that were discovered in an u/s at 21 weeks. We knew at that point he would be born via c-section. Although I expected to deliver vaginally, I was perfectly fine with having to schedule a c-section. I don't know, maybe it was the least of my worries at that point. Maybe it was because a c-section was the safest way to deliver. But I do know that I am not going to try for a VBAC if we decide to have more. I never felt sad about having to have a c-section.

jjilly7 · September 2011

Tho i had an emergency c section at 30 weeks, i always hoped for a csection only because of small pelvic size, and my dr always telling me that a vbirth most likely wouldn't happen, due to pelvis. I just wish my csection wasn't an emergency, and that i was awake, and able to see my son that day, and not 24 hrs later

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kygirlie113 · September 2011

I guess I am in the minority here. I did not want a c/s considering it was major surgery. I ended with one due to fetal distress and not progressing (turns out son had cord around his neck five times).

I am hoping for a VBAC if we have a second. I had a horrible recovery and do not want to go through that again. I hated being confined to my bed after delivery, not being able to hold son right away, and activity restrictions.

ttimmerman · September 2011

I guess I'm sort of baffled why anyone with a normal, low risk pregnancy would want a c-section. Why would you opt for major surgery instead of just giving birth vaginally? You're scared to push the baby out? If you get an epidural you won't feel much anyway.

I had an emergency c/s and I'm seriously thinking about a VBAC for this pregnancy. Everyone is different, but the recovery from a c/s can be much longer and more painful than a normal vaginal birth. I know after my c/s it hurt to walk for a few days, bending over was a joke, I couldn't stand up straight for forever, and the incision hurt for weeks afterwards. My friend who had a normal vaginal birth was back to normal within a couple days. Just a head's up for those that think a c/s is easier - you might be very unpleasantly surprised!

Kelly48823 · September 2011

Yes! My Mom delivered both my brother and me by c-section and after talking to her about her recovery, I secretly hoped for a c-section all along. Luckily my wish came true because my little boy was breech as well, so I knew fairly early on I would have to deliver that way. I'm so grateful because I was so scared of the pain and aftermath of giving birth vaginally...phew!

g00dg0llymsm0lly · September 2011

ttimmerman:
I guess I'm sort of baffled why anyone with a normal, low risk pregnancy would want a c-section. Why would you opt for major surgery instead of just giving birth vaginally? You're scared to push the baby out? If you get an epidural you won't feel much anyway.

Hmm Me too. Anyone who actually thinks an elective csection is the "easy way out" is sadly misinformed (and IMO a complete moron). And it's all of you "too posh to push" women out there who make me sometimes resentful that I'm part of the "c section mom" category.

faith194 · September 2011

ttimmerman:
I guess I'm sort of baffled why anyone with a normal, low risk pregnancy would want a c-section. Why would you opt for major surgery instead of just giving birth vaginally? You're scared to push the baby out? If you get an epidural you won't feel much anyway.

I completely agree. . .The only complication I had after the unplanned c-section(due to fetal distress and lack of progress after 12 hours of pit, and 36 hours after water broke), was severe swelling. . .I was given some pills and went of my merry way. I was miserable, and couldn't move very well for weeks. I am thankful for my husband having the time off to help.

I may end up with an RC next time around, since I'm afraid of a failed VBAC, but I would much rather give birth vaginally. In a normal pregnancy and delivery, it is the safest and healthiest for both the mother and child.

irelandsangel81 · September 2011

g00dg0llymsm0lly:
ttimmerman:

Me too. Anyone who actually thinks an elective csection is the "easy way out" is sadly misinformed (and IMO a complete moron). And it's all of you "too posh to push" women out there who make me sometimes resentful that I'm part of the "c section mom" category.

I think this is an incredibly unfair statement. Just because I prefered a csection doesnt make me a moron. Just as some women are scared of the csection I was scared to push. Never once did I think i was "too posh to push" (as you put it) I was legitamately terrified to push. I didn't opt to have an elective csection and was willing to push and deliver vaginally if I had to. But I had a csection after 30 hours of labor and no progress. I can honestly say I was relieved that I didn't have to push. My mom had me and my brother via csection (as well as most of the women in my family) and this was the only reference I knew to childbirth. Making someone feel like a moron because they preferred to deliver their child a certain way is very unfair. For me it's comments like yours that make some women feel like other women look down on them for having a csection (elective or not), like those with csections are less of a woman because they didnt push. If you feel you are "too good" for the csection mom club then that is your own problem not other womens.

ttimmerman · September 2011

irelandsangel81:
g00dg0llymsm0lly:
ttimmerman:

Me too. Anyone who actually thinks an elective csection is the "easy way out" is sadly misinformed (and IMO a complete moron). And it's all of you "too posh to push" women out there who make me sometimes resentful that I'm part of the "c section mom" category.

I think this is an incredibly unfair statement. Just because I prefered a csection doesnt make me a moron. Just as some women are scared of the csection I was scared to push. Never once did I think i was "too posh to push" (as you put it) I was legitamately terrified to push. I didn't opt to have an elective csection and was willing to push and deliver vaginally if I had to. But I had a csection after 30 hours of labor and no progress. I can honestly say I was relieved that I didn't have to push. My mom had me and my brother via csection (as well as most of the women in my family) and this was the only reference I knew to childbirth. Making someone feel like a moron because they preferred to deliver their child a certain way is very unfair. For me it's comments like yours that make some women feel like other women look down on them for having a csection (elective or not), like those with csections are less of a woman because they didnt push. If you feel you are "too good" for the csection mom club then that is your own problem not other womens.

If your only frame of reference is talking to women who have had c-sections, then maybe you're just unaware of how much easier vaginal births can be. And as far as pushing, for many women it's actually a relief to finally be able to push. We all have our fears though, and if the idea of pushing was truly scary to you, then fair enough.

I think the pp was referencing women who want to schedule their c-sections so they don't have to go through the actual work of labor and delivery. That kind of thinking does give c/s mamas a bad name. And I imagine those women must have nannies or tons of help for afterwards b/c they will be recovering from major surgery. For those of us that don't have those luxuries, it seems ridiculous to want major surgery over a regular vaginal birth.

RoxBride · September 2011

To each their own. If someone would prefer a c/s over a vaginal birth, hey, that's okay with me. There are risks and benefits to both ways of giving birth, and horrible and lovely aspects to both.

I can't imainge that one is a moron for having a preference. Seems kind of a harsh judgement to me.

g00dg0llymsm0lly · September 2011

RoxBride:
To each their own. If someone would prefer a c/s over a vaginal birth, hey, that's okay with me. There are risks and benefits to both ways of giving birth, and horrible and lovely aspects to both.

I can't imainge that one is a moron for having a preference. Seems kind of a harsh judgement to me.

I think that if your body is fully capable of doing what it should do (unfortunately, mine wasn't) but you would "prefer" to have major surgery, then yeah, you're a moron in my book. What reasons could you possible have? "I don't want my vagina to get stretched out? I am afraid to push? It will hurt?" Those reasons are stupid. Those people deserve to be called morons. You don't think recovery from getting your abdomin opened will hurt?!

And there are not benefits from birth via Csection, except for getting the baby out when it isn't possible/safe to do vaginally. There are a lot of risks in cesarean sections- fluid doesn't get pushed from baby's lungs, mom and baby could react badly to the spinal anesthesia, baby could get cut while making the incision, you could DIE; I could go on and on and on. Birthing is something that naturally happens out your birth canal- this isn't "Oh I prefer peas over carrots."

Ireland, I don't think I'm "too good for the Csection club." I just hate that others might assume I thought I was too good for nature. I am grateful that the technology to deliver babies this way exists, and that they continue to make it safer for all involved. My daughter wouldn't be here today without my section. But I think that there are a lot of stupid people in the world, and the women who choose Csections when IT IS NOT AT ALL NECESSARY (ie, healthy pregnancy, singleton baby, labor progresses normally, baby size compatible with pelvic size, etc) do fall into that category, and I am not going to apologize for that opinion.

kcvasquez · September 2011

g00dg0llymsm0lly:
RoxBride:
To each their own. If someone would prefer a c/s over a vaginal birth, hey, that's okay with me. There are risks and benefits to both ways of giving birth, and horrible and lovely aspects to both.
I can't imainge that one is a moron for having a preference. Seems kind of a harsh judgement to me.
I think that if your body is fully capable of doing what it should do (unfortunately, mine wasn't) but you would "prefer" to have major surgery, then yeah, you're a moron in my book. What reasons could you possible have? "I don't want my vagina to get stretched out? I am afraid to push? It will hurt?" Those reasons are stupid. Those people deserve to be called morons. You don't think recovery from getting your abdomin opened will hurt?!
And there are not benefits from birth via Csection, except for getting the baby out when it isn't possible/safe to do vaginally. There are a lot of risks in cesarean sections- fluid doesn't get pushed from baby's lungs, mom and baby could react badly to the spinal anesthesia, baby could get cut while making the incision, you could DIE; I could go on and on and on. Birthing is something that naturally happens out your birth canal- this isn't "Oh I prefer peas over carrots."
Ireland, I don't think I'm "too good for the Csection club." I just hate that others might assume I thought I was too good for nature. I am grateful that the technology to deliver babies this way exists, and that they continue to make it safer for all involved. My daughter wouldn't be here today without my section. But I think that there are a lot of stupid people in the world, and the women who choose Csections when IT IS NOT AT ALL NECESSARY (ie, healthy pregnancy, singleton baby, labor progresses normally, baby size compatible with pelvic size, etc) do fall into that category, and I am not going to apologize for that opinion.

I have to agree on this one, there should be no such thing as an elective C-section unless it is a RCS. I understand people are scared about giving birth but you knew when you got pregnant how a baby comes out so if you're too scared to push a baby out maybe getting pregnant wasn't the best option? I would be more scared of major surgery since the death rate is higher for the mother and complications are higher for baby.

emma&katiesmom · September 2011

I wouldn't say that I "wanted" a c-section over a vaginal birth - I just wanted a healthy baby. I ended up with a c-section with my first (due to her large size, she wasn't head down and the fact that I never dilated, dropped, or became effaced) and I am too afraid of VBACs so my second DD was also a c-section and so will this little guy in a few weeks.

I don't feel like my body failed me and I don't think that I defied nature by having a c-section. I still grew and protected my beautiful, healthy children and I did what we (DH and I with the advice of our OB) felt was the safest option for everyone. I do kind of wish that I could have that water breaking experience, but now that it's my third child I'm a little afraid to go into labor and have my scar tissue rupture. (Small percentage I know, but the thought is always in the back of my mind...)

I do feel sad for the people that get really upset about the way their children come into the world. It's your body, your family, your emotions so to each their own - believe me I don't judge. My heart goes out to you. For me, the delivery isn't important as long as everyone is healthy at the end of the day. I have been lucky to have healthy c-section deliveries and easy recoveries. One of my coworkers has lost two babies (two separate pregnancies) in the 8th month of pregnancy and I know that each healthy baby is a miracle.

irelandsangel81 · September 2011

kcvasquez:
g00dg0llymsm0lly:
RoxBride:

To each their own. If someone would prefer a c/s over a vaginal birth, hey, that's okay with me. There are risks and benefits to both ways of giving birth, and horrible and lovely aspects to both.

I can't imainge that one is a moron for having a preference. Seems kind of a harsh judgement to me.

I think that if your body is fully capable of doing what it should do (unfortunately, mine wasn't) but you would "prefer" to have major surgery, then yeah, you're a moron in my book. What reasons could you possible have? "I don't want my vagina to get stretched out? I am afraid to push? It will hurt?" Those reasons are stupid. Those people deserve to be called morons. You don't think recovery from getting your abdomin opened will hurt?!

And there are not benefits from birth via Csection, except for getting the baby out when it isn't possible/safe to do vaginally. There are a lot of risks in cesarean sections- fluid doesn't get pushed from baby's lungs, mom and baby could react badly to the spinal anesthesia, baby could get cut while making the incision, you could DIE; I could go on and on and on. Birthing is something that naturally happens out your birth canal- this isn't "Oh I prefer peas over carrots."

Ireland, I don't think I'm "too good for the Csection club." I just hate that others might assume I thought I was too good for nature. I am grateful that the technology to deliver babies this way exists, and that they continue to make it safer for all involved. My daughter wouldn't be here today without my section. But I think that there are a lot of stupid people in the world, and the women who choose Csections when IT IS NOT AT ALL NECESSARY (ie, healthy pregnancy, singleton baby, labor progresses normally, baby size compatible with pelvic size, etc) do fall into that category, and I am not going to apologize for that opinion.

I have to agree on this one, there should be no such thing as an elective C-section unless it is a RCS. I understand people are scared about giving birth but you knew when you got pregnant how a baby comes out so if you're too scared to push a baby out maybe getting pregnant wasn't the best option? I would be more scared of major surgery since the death rate is higher for the mother and complications are higher for baby.

I think we are all going to have to agree to disagree on this one. Yes I was scared to push BUT that didnt' stop me from getting pregnant and I would have delieverd that way had it gone that way. I wouldnt have opted for the elective csection but I would be lying if I said I wasnt a little relieved when I got the csection.

At the end of the day though I can honestly say that the only people I define as morons in the whole csection debate are those who refuse a csection even though the doc says they need one.

Regina+Philangey · September 2011

RoxBride:

To each their own. If someone would prefer a c/s over a vaginal birth, hey, that's okay with me. There are risks and benefits to both ways of giving birth, and horrible and lovely aspects to both.

I can't imainge that one is a moron for having a preference. Seems kind of a harsh judgement to me.

I agree. We are talking about a preference. Not someone going out and advocating everyone have c/s. Someone who prefers to do thing one way or another.

I just think using the term 'moron' is over the top, and unkind.

My vaginal birth left me with long term (7 years later) bladder issues and two follow up surgeries required.

My c/s left me feeling great within 2 weeks and no long term issues.

Bottom line - a c/s isn't so significantly risky for mom or baby that I feel it is my business to judge how a woman gives birth.

And no need to feel sad about people who missed out on a vaginal birth - you love a vaginal birth, that's your choice. It is okay for other women so just see birth as a step to parenthood, and that's perfectly okay. No need to pity them.

capulet · September 2011

Regina+Philangey:
RoxBride:

To each their own. If someone would prefer a c/s over a vaginal birth, hey, that's okay with me. There are risks and benefits to both ways of giving birth, and horrible and lovely aspects to both.

I can't imainge that one is a moron for having a preference. Seems kind of a harsh judgement to me.

I agree. We are talking about a preference. Not someone going out and advocating everyone have c/s. Someone who prefers to do thing one way or another.

I just think using the term 'moron' is over the top, and unkind.

My vaginal birth left me with long term (7 years later) bladder issues and two follow up surgeries required.

My c/s left me feeling great within 2 weeks and no long term issues.

Bottom line - a c/s isn't so significantly risky for mom or baby that I feel it is my business to judge how a woman gives birth.

And no need to feel sad about people who missed out on a vaginal birth - you love a vaginal birth, that's your choice. It is okay for other women so just see birth as a step to parenthood, and that's perfectly okay. No need to pity them.

I agree with this. Parenthood is the best thing that's ever happened to me. I know couples that would make great parents but have chosen to be childless. Do I think it's terrible they're willingly giving up the chance to have children? No, I figure that grown-ass adults can determine what's important to them. I save my sympathy for people who actually want children but are suffering from IF. Likewise, there are people who *really* want to experience vaginal birth. That's their choice, and I support women's rights to the birth options they want. But I'm pretty meh about vaginal birth myself - I wouldn't have chosen an elective c/s with DD, but I am choosing an RCS for this one, even though I am a candidate for VBAC. That's my decision, which I made after considerable research, discussion with my OBs and DH, and analysis of my own feelings about my first c/s and what kind of birth experience I want from now on. If anyone wants to feel sad for me, it's a free country, but I find it a bit condescending.

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