SO is not DD's bio father. We have talked about our future before, and having another baby once I finish school and have a career going. He's planning on looking into getting into a career in law enforcement. Anyway, last night he said he decided he doesn't want to have a baby, he wants to adopt a baby. I am sad because I really want to TTC and be pregnant again one day. We had already agreed on 2 kids for us, but now I'm considering trying to talk him into 3. Maybe we can have a bio child in a couple years and then if finances look good we can start the adoption process. I'm not against adopting at all, and I would like to do that, but I just really want to be pregnant again. I didn't get to enjoy my first pregnancy due to gall bladder issues and the fact that DD's bio father wasn't there. IDK...I'm just confused. I guess there's not a real point to this post, but I'm just bummed.
Re: SO dropped a bomb on me last night
I understand. I LOVED being pregnant! Seriously, if my next would come out with all their teeth and STTN, I'd have more! That usually doesn't happen, so DH got snipped instead.
I'd just tell SO your thoughts and feelings. GL!
I dont think him wanting to adopt a baby or a child is "silly" at all there are children out there who need homes and he's willing and able to do so which is a wonderful thing. Yeah there are wait lists for newborns or young babies but that is primiarly for white infants, if they are willing to consider a child of a minority group that vastily changes things, many minority kids don't have someone waiting in line to pick them out. It's just a hard reality of the system and one more reason that more people adopting for the right reasons is a wonderful thing. Regardless I would never consider me or someone else adopting a child or infant "taking away somone else's chance to be a mother" I look at it as I am giving the child that was meant for me and my family a place in our lives.
OP I dont have any advice other than sit down with your SO and be honest about your concerns and about why you wanted to conceive again. I dont think either of you is wrong in your goal it's just a question of which path is best for both of you.