2nd Trimester

I'm getting more stretch marks...How do I get over it?

I need some help. I noticed today that I have several stretch marks on my belly now.

My sister, who just had a baby in August, said that she didn't get any until the end of her pregnancy. It runs in the family so I knew I'd get them too but I can't help but feel I'm getting them worse because I am only 18 weeks and already have some.

I am 5'2" and have only gained 6 pounds so far, but everything I've read says that if you gain weight slowly you will get less. I feel like I am doing that...yet I have them already.

Could it be because I am short and have less room for my baby to grow than my sister who taller?

I know I shouldn't care and that this should be the least of my worries, but it makes me so sad and I feel like I am ugly. I asked my DH if he will still love me and he said yes...but I don't want him to think I am ugly. Right now my chest grew 2 cup sizes so that's all he sees right now and doesn't seem to understand my concern.

My pregnant belly is actually really cute...but the stretch marks are making me sad. How do I get over the fact that it's going to happen? Maybe I'm just being hormonal...Confused

Re: I'm getting more stretch marks...How do I get over it?

  • I think of them as my battle wounds and my c section scar as my war scar. I had them really bad, but i found if i lost weight, they became less noticable. I wouldnt lose sleep over it. It is a part of life and a lot of people get them. If you are that concerned, try using bio oil. it works really well
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  • Just grin and bear it, and realize that within a year after delivery, you won't be able to see them.  They're red and ugly at first, but they fade to skin tone and can basically only be seen as a silvery reflection in certain light as time goes on.  Just be proud of them- they're proof of what you went through to have your baby!  And you can totally use them as a guilt trip on your child when they become an ungrateful teenager.
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  • If you are going to get stretchmarks you'll get them no matter what you put on your belly or how slow you gain weight. It's all in genetics, don't feel that this is somehow your fault. It's hard to see our bodies grow and change, especially with the negativity put on stretchmarks, that we are somehow failures for not taking care of ourselves enough to avoid them. They are very common, I had a really tough time when I was pregnant the first time, accepting the permanent changes my body was going through. This site really helped me address these irrational fears and thoughts about myself https://theshapeofamother.com/ 
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  • i understand your pain. But honestly, you just learn to live with it. they dont go away, but after pregnancy they fade and are less noticeable. my son is almost 8 and im still struggling with it. 

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  • You are probably not just hormonal I hate stretch marks and it makes me so upset knowing I will get them.(and it did even before trying to conceive)  And I know the first one to show I will probably ball my eyes out.  My husband told me, " You know i realize you hate stretch marks, but I don't really care or notice them.  If your naked I see boobs, vagina a butt I like and my sexy wife, not a stretch mark."  and I bet you husband is the same way.  I don't think anyone hates them as much as we hate them on ourselves!  Time will make you get over them, they will fade a lot of after birth.
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  • They suck. Slather on the lotion if it makes you feel better. 

    Other than that, just try to focus on the fact that your growing a baby =) That is your baby's home. 

     They are battle wounds that many women bear as a reminder of what their body went through. Just imagine if you couldn't have a baby. There are so many women who yearn so badly to experience pregnancy - good and bad.

    TOnce your baby is here, you'll be so drunk on love you won't know what to do.  =)


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  • They will fade! I looked like a roadmap during my first pregnancy, especially at the end. By a year they were sooo faded.
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  • Just try to be proud of your body. I'm 23 weeks and already have quite a few stretchmarks, but I've already got some on my hips and boobs from my teenage years. The old marks I have are silver and you can barely see them unless you look. Your husband probably won't care. Mine still rubs and kisses my belly even with all the ugly new marks, he's just proud of me and excited about his little girl growing in there.

    In fact, I hated my stretch marks on my hips before I met DH. When I met him, he said something that made me proud of my body...he told me I looked like a true woman, not a little girl. And that's how I'll look at my new stretch marks, too.

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  • imagekerryholmes:
    If you are going to get stretchmarks you'll get them no matter what you put on your belly or how slow you gain weight. It's all in genetics, don't feel that this is somehow your fault. It's hard to see our bodies grow and change, especially with the negativity put on stretchmarks, that we are somehow failures for not taking care of ourselves enough to avoid them. They are very common, I had a really tough time when I was pregnant the first time, accepting the permanent changes my body was going through. This site really helped me address these irrational fears and thoughts about myself https://theshapeofamother.com/ 

    This website is wonderful! I was constantly on it after DD was born. It helped me realize that everyone's body changes during pregnancy and those women are so accepting of their post baby bodies and I should be too.

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  • Ive had them my whole life, everytime i grow even a little. ive been using Palmers Cocoa Butter( not the stretch mark cream) for years and it has reduced them a ton and my new streches dont seem as bad. and it smells like chocolate my fiance loves that ;) whatever you do dont itch or scratch your skin, it only makes it worse. it itches cause its dry, just put more cream on. 
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  • #1: They fade

    #2: If your SO loves ya and thinks you're sexy, then who gives a flying flip what anyone else thinks?

    #3: No really, they fade quite a bit.  Unless you're a swimsuit model as a profession, don't worry about it. Seriously. Noone cares and noone judges you. If they did, it would be them with the problem, not you. Do you go to the beach and stare at random women's bodies? Probably not.

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  • You don?t have to get over it! Slap some of this on NOW! https://www.mamamio.com/us/pregnancy-skincare/tummy-rub-stretch-mark-butter.html It has very high levels of Omega 3, 6 and 9, which are the exact same things skin is depleted of when we're pregnant (thanks nature!). I have had two babies and would still where a bikini. OK, tankini... ;-) xx
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