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don't know what else to do

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so ds#3 is an awful awful sleeper. Pretty much he won't sleep unless he is attached to me. He might sleep for 30 mins. during the day and about an hour at night. So this week we are trying Ferber to try and get him to sleep better. I think it is just making things worse. Before I would get up with him about every hour and nurse him for a about 10 mins then he'd sleep for about an hour. Now he'll sleep for about an 1.5 to 2 hours but then I'm up with him for an hour or more trying to get him back to sleep.

He cries so I wait a bit then go in and pat him till he is calm then leave. As soon as you leave the room he starts crying again. No matter how long we wait in between going in he never goes to sleep on his own and will pretty much only sleep if I'm in there patting him ( as soon as I stop patting he wakes up no matter how long i've patted him). The other night I did this for four hours before he finally fell back asleep but only for an hour.

Dh is such a sound sleeper he mostly sleeps through it and he has to get up at 3:45 six days a week for work so I always hesitate to wake him up. I've got to get sleep somehow b/c I'm so tried all the time I have no energy or patience to take care of my other two kids. This past week they've watched a lot of tv b/c I have no energy to run after them which I hate.

Co-sleeping is not an option as DH is completely against it. I really have no idea what else to do. I'm to the point where I might just put him in his crib and leave him there till he's done crying on his own even if he cries for hours.

Also I would love to take naps when he does but my oldest doesn't nap anymore and even if i could he only naps for maybe 30 mins. at a time so that when I try to nap too i never even fall asleep before he wakes back up.

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Re: don't know what else to do

  • eternallyeleganteternallyelegant
    I have no advice but I'm sorry for what you are going through, hang in there and I'm sure you'll find a solution.
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  • vigurlvigurl member
    DS was only like this for about a week or two and my DH has the same schedule as yours.  So I co-slept with LO in the guest room or on the futon so I did not have to physically get up.
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  • dazidogdazidog

    I am sorry you are going through this! DD#1 was an absolutely horrible sleeper....so bad in fact that we sought professional help (sleep specialist). We had tried everything under the sun, including ferber which only worked for a short time and then things got even worse.

    So my suggestion (after living that hell) is to find a way to co-sleep. For us it was the only thing that worked and oh boy it was a like a saving grace. I was totally against it at first but no one can function on no sleep (adults and especially infants). Once we started co-sleeping DD#1 figured out what it meant to actually get a good nights sleep and we went from there. I can't tell you what a difference it made for us!!!!!!!

    GL with whatever you decide and I hope it gets better soon.

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  • Elisa312Elisa312

    Have you read Ferber's WHOLE book?  I am rereading it for DS2 and I find myself thinking, I don't remember reading this last time?!/

     

    Very good insight and info in the book.  It's not a CIO and call it a day. 

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  • mesmom2011mesmom2011
    imagedazidog:

    I am sorry you are going through this! DD#1 was an absolutely horrible sleeper....so bad in fact that we sought professional help (sleep specialist). We had tried everything under the sun, including ferber which only worked for a short time and then things got even worse.

    So my suggestion (after living that hell) is to find a way to co-sleep. For us it was the only thing that worked and oh boy it was a like a saving grace. I was totally against it at first but no one can function on no sleep (adults and especially infants). Once we started co-sleeping DD#1 figured out what it meant to actually get a good nights sleep and we went from there. I can't tell you what a difference it made for us!!!!!!!

    GL with whatever you decide and I hope it gets better soon.

    I agree!

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  • nettie27nettie27
    I co-slept with my LO in the Recliner. it worked wonders. Maybe try sleeping in a rocker, recliner or even the couch until he gets a taste of how great it is to sleep!
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